When I was 21, I dated this girl a few years older than me and we had an amazing start to our relationship. Things moved rather quickly and we decided to move in together after only a few months. Unfortunately, this is when things rapidly started to deteriorate. Once you start introducing bills, cleaning, grocery shopping, and "Can you take out the trash?" to a young relationship, things are bound to get ugly.
Sex immediately disappeared, physical attraction became almost non-existent, and I was really confused. The central theme I am starting to get from a lot of my past relationships is that I was just plain clueless and far too optimistic. There are some serious considerations to take into account before deciding to live together. I failed to deal with any of them.
Sometimes the best part of a relationship is that you spend time doing your own thing and get to look forward to the next time you see your SO. It's really hard to transition from cleaning up the dog's shit, vacuuming the floor, and doing laundry, to trying to find this person you see every waking moment even remotely attractive.
What made it worse was that we worked together, too. So there was very little time that we had to ourselves. Sometimes the best part of my day would be leaving the apartment just to put gas in the car. Those 15 minutes to myself were so precious (you have no idea). Even now as I look back on that relationship, those car rides stick out as memorable moments that make me smile. Partly because it actually made me happy, and partly because that sounds so incredibly depressing and dark.
So, this post is about two things I'd like to know:
What are your thoughts on living with your SO? What are some things that you have found helpful to keep a relationship from becoming dull?