Friday, 16 December 2011
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What's Stopping You from Doing -It-?
I have been SO sex obsessed recently. I want to have sex, so I can enjoy sex for many years to come and so that I won't miss out now. (And yes we both know I've got M in particular in mind at the moment).
But here are my reasons why I won't:
1. I want to know I gave it up the right way. As far as I know, "the right way" is either with a man you love, or a man you've married (who I believe you SHOULD love). I don't want to have the baggage of regretting how I lost it/who I lost it to. People rarely regret having actually lost it. Just how it was done.
2. I don't want it to be a fuck and duck. I don't want there to be any worries about having to get home quickly, worrying about if any of their family/friends/whatever are going to come through the door. I want to have sex and then cuddle and talk and maybe have sex again, having left when I feel satisfied and ready!
3. I am a horny bitch. If any of my other blog posts haven't been an indication I know that when I finally do get 'round to fucking - there ain't no stopping! I want to be faithful, and not loose. I want to have sex with a minimum - not a maximum. I want to have been pleasured in the best ways and so often that I am able to pleasure others greatly without having had many sexual partners. Without the pressure of it being my first time, or the excuse of not having had sex before. Who knows how crazy I'll get, unless that first time is really shit. But even then, I'd want to have it more times so I can experience it well.
4. The upkeep! (As I write, more reasons keep coming to me.) Don't get me wrong, I do like to have a tidy vagina but having to groom it everyday (which I will have to do **Refer to reason 3**) is just something I am not looking forward to! So much easier not caring about my vagina when I know no one will be diving into its depths. I sometimes even let my vajayjay go rogue sometimes as a deterrent for anyone that wanted to dive into its depths. (**Dive into its depths** My quote of the day.) But now I'd have to make sure I'm spick and span on the regular-degular. Lord knows I'm gonna be waxing which means money + pain which = an unhappy but sexually satisfied me.
5. My own ethics! Sex just isn't me somehow. I am sexy, I like the idea of sex and I hope I will be really, really, REALLY good at it. But I feel like I've played around with the idea so long that it just isn't going to happen. With the pressures of my religion as well, I can expect myself to hang on to my virtue for as long as possible.
6. I'm picky. As much as I love guys, and sure I can snog off their faces, dry hump, and give their penises a party in my mouth, there are only 3 guys out of however many I've done any of those things to that I actually want to sleep with.
Guy 1: Because I find him extremely attractive.
Guy 2: Because I think he would be extremely good at it.
Guy 3: Because he seems like the nice kinda fella to sex the first time. Neither of them have the love factor, two of them don't even have the attractive factor! (Okay maybe only one, Guy 2 is actually hot.) Love can come later. I think. But yeah. It's like I said not too long ago, when I break up with Guy 3 (when, not if) Lord Knows (DRIZZY!) how long it will be until I actually find someone I would give my virginity to again. So many dogs out there.7. My wrists are hurting. Not a reason for why I am keeping my virginity but definitely a reason why I am getting tired of typing these reasons. Long story short, me and my virginity are for better and worse at the moment.
What reasons do you have for not having sex? Or why did you hold out until the moment you did?
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lol at the use of "-it-"
I lose my virginity to the love of my life and I'd never regret it, because it was a wonderful moment filled with love and anticipation. It's worth it the wait.
Well I kinda like your blog and your reason. Personally I'm a christian and that doesn't mean I don't get excied and I won't believe in sex before marriage.
The guy I'm dating now, asked me why am I waiting. Because when I get married, let say 25. There's 365 days a year and I can be doing it everyday to perfect it. Plenty of time :)
Why rush it.
Ha, you're very witty. I enjoyed reading this. I sense that even if you wrote a blog about the way paint dries, I would still be very amused and entertained.
Speaking to the actual subject of this post: Everything except 4, 6, and 7 on your list was already on mine. Another reason for me is freedom...which might actually go into reason number 3. I want to wait till I get married so I know that I am completely free to get completely emotionally and physically attached to that person without worrying or having to hold back out of fear of being rejected.
More power to you for standing by your reasons. However, my ship has sailed a long time ago soooo no waiting for me. I only held out long enough because I was with someone I cared about and I thought the moment was right. That and I was a horny teenager at the time.
What's stopping me? No partner, obviously.
@Crossed_Out_Name@xanga - agreed.
Haha I enjoyed this post. You were very outspoken which is why this post was so outrageously funny. Yep so not having a partner to lost it with is definitely most people's reason why they haven't had sex yet. That's my reason.
Eh...I just think sex is nasty to begin with. Needless to say, I won't be having it any time in the next century or so.
@Resurrectionem@xanga - haha YES. I thought I was the only one who was repulsed by sex. I thought I was weird. I lost my virginity out of curiosity...I thought it might feel better with time, but nope. I'm with you on *not* having sex for a century. lol
I have my reasons, but the main reason other than finding the right lady is my lack of confidence. I mean I don't lack anything in the tool department(far from it actually), but being able to pleasure her the "right" way is important to me. I hear a bunch of stories of girls faking their orgasms with guys, and I don't want to be one of those guys. It would take a pretty big blow at what pride I do have.
We want to wait until marriage, although it is SOOOOOOOOOOOO hard. No pun intended.
I'm still a virgin because I'm waiting till marriage for religious reasons, and a few personal reasons. Some of which you stated, but also just because I don't want to have to worry about condoms, or birth control, or getting pregnant, or emotional attachment. I think your first time would be an incredible and noteworthy thing to share with your husband. Its a kind of connection that is shared between just the two of you, and nobody else. And I like the idea of never having to compare sex with my husband to anything or anyone, because I would only ever have had sex with him.
@CHRiSTiNE_x@xanga - LOL.
I just don't feel like I NEED to do it. It would be nice, and I really really want to, but in the long run, it's not going to get me a good education, a good job (well...), or real love and companionship.
Theoretically, i have "religious" reasons, but in actuality, religion doesn't do anything to satisfy this. If I wanted to have sex, I probably would. I love my God, but I want to have sex, but right now, I don't need sex.
I don't think there is a situation where I can definitely say...ok, if I were in an ambulance or a hospital room I would not have sex. Other than that game on. I waited until I lost it because I was shy, still am a bit, and it's hard to pull ass when you don't have the stones to talk to a female.
Nice writing. I would caution you on your number one. The more pressure you put on it, the more disappointed you will be. I've yet to hear a female tell me about a perfect or even mediocre first time.
I'm having sex because I'm with the love of my life. He doesn't care if I gained 15 lbs or doesn't care about the "upkeep" or whatever. We're happy and we're going to have sex if we choose to.
I waited until I was 18 to have sex. I wanted to make sure I was able to handle sex emotionally. I also wanted to wait until I was on the pill and with someone I trusted. It happened with a guy I had been dating for a year, shortly after we had sex we made it official and have been together ever since. (over 5 years)
@Saridactyl@xanga - That was commitment to myself, waiting until I was 18. I knew and still know before then there was no way I could emotionally deal with it. Plus I was super paranoid that even with birth control and a condom, I might get pregnant.
It's so much easier to have sex when your an adult with your own place. Still lost it in the guy's parent's house but we were both 19 so they weren't "up in our business". Just had to be quiet, haha.
Simple.
Waiting for marriage.
I lost my virginity to someone I loved. He ended up being a complete asshole and was very emotionally abusive. However, I really did feel love for him when it happened. That is why I have no regrets. I regret any subsequent times with him though haha. Still, I was determined to lose it to someone I loved, and that is what I did.
@Digital_Angel21@xanga - I don't know, there were guys in high school who tried to have sex with me but I was never really interested. All of my friends thought I was weird, or religious, but really I just made that decision for myself and stuck to it. I don't think you have to be religious to make good decisions for yourself, everyone is different.
I understand the being quiet thing. My BF and I are planning on moving in together, but for now we're with our parents for a bit so sex has to be quiet. It's a bit of a downer, ha.
i'm not waiting till marriage but until I meet someone I love. He is going to have to wait a long ass time to get into my pot of gold!
for me, i thought it would be special... but it was just awkward. lol. i was dating him for a year, so it wasn't like i was too self-conscious about if i wasn't good or whatever because he was a virgin too. i guess do it with someone you love and care for, and it will be alright. just remember that it's hard to let go of someone you've lost your virginity to (atleast it was for me).
@CHRiSTiNE_x@xanga - hahahaha
when i lost my virginity, it was with someone i truly loved and even though i didn't know what to expect, but bc i loved him, the connection between us became even better. i was a lot older too when i lost my virginity, 18 and why i say that is bc most kids are losing it when they're only 12 or 13.
I like how honest you are with yourself, I love when people can do that. I lost mine on my 18th birthday to my first love for a couple of reasons. I had a lot of sexual curiosity at that time (duh). I loved him. The worst reason I had was because I was going to college in the fall and didn't want to still have it. I knew the chances of me losing my virginity in as nice a way was drastically lowered once college came. So there was that too. I don't regret it at all. Sure it was awkward and didn't last long, but it was with someone who was just as nervous as me and who actually cared what I was feeling. He wasn't my last, but he was a wonderful first. It was a hell of a lot better than some of my college girl friends, who lost it drunk in a dorm room.