My friend is a master ninja of this very delicate task. Some would call him a pathological liar, but I think he's a genius. The goal is, obviously, to ask the infamous question, "Can I get your number?" There are plenty of guys who would just ask the question outright, but he likes the challenge of disguising it.
He will feign interest in whatever you're talking about and then offer you something relevant to it that requires a follow-up conversation. Hence, the need to ask for your number. I guess the goal here is to make it seem like you need him to have your number so that you can get something you want. It's actually kind of sneaky. Here is an example:
"...Oh you like rock climbing? I know this great place out east that has some amazing walls they just built. I forgot the name of the place, but if you want I can send you their info when I find out... Yeah, no problem. Just give me your number and I'll text you their website or something."
Did you get that? In this scenario, the girl is most likely thanking him while she gives him her number. It's absurd. And she's probably thinking, "What a nice guy—he just wants to help me pursue my hobby!" WRONG. He has never rock climbed before in his life and will later Google some random place that is 100 miles away just so he can dispose of the initial reason for getting your number. He will also text you about wanting to hang out again sometime. Sure it's not the most creative way, but it gets the job done. One time he claimed to be a scuba instructor from Hawaii and on another night, he came up to me while we were at a bar and said, "If anyone asks, I'm a snowboarder from Colorado and I'm taking a break from training for the winter Olympics." Okay, so he might be a pathological liar. But I really want him to appear in one of those Dos Equis commercials as "The Most Interesting Man in the World". You never know who he's going to be on any given night.
What are some of the most interesting ways that someone has made asking for your phone number less awkward? What are some of the most cheesy/horrible/laughable ways that someone has asked for it? Are you the type to give a fake number or do you just deny him?
It sounds like your friend is trying to model himself after Barney Stinson. This is bad.
While Barney is awesome, real people that act like him are not; they are just douche bags and pathological liars.
never ask. girls give it if you did a good job.
a real life Barney Stinson! haha!!
@islandgypsygirl@xanga - @Doitean@xanga - I was going to say the same thing--sounds like Barney Stinson! Real people can actually get away with that stuff? Wow...
i remember this quarter a guy whipped out his phone too soon and went to his contacts list and we didn't know each other that well yet, so i turned away and he was smart to put his phone away. a few conversations later i was asking him about parties and if he was having one that week 'cause my friend got her heart broken and he asked for my number so he can text me if he did. well that led to failed booty calls on his part. and 2 prettyy good parties for me.
@Doitean@xanga - This was exactly what my first thoughts were.
Sounds like your friend's been watching a lot of "How I Met Your Mother" :D. Honestly, I admit I would've fallen for one of the subtler lines and given him my number before I figured the trick out :D.
I haven't heard many cheesy lines. they either directly ask for my number or hand me their number instead.
I don't ask a girl for her phone number unless I click with her. That way, I avoid the risk of being turned down or receiving a fake number.
Getting numbers is cool on the surface, but it's only step 1.
Girls flake out, they give you wrong numbers, they get confused what your intentions are...
Especially if you do it like this guy - he's not being clear on his intentions with her.
haha
wow, clearly the majority of commenters so far have NO idea how fun it is to go around pretending all sorts of things. the point--for me, at least--is not to get a number. and as @testyman666@xanga pointed out, getting a number means nothing...and if you're trying to pursue it further, you're just screwing yourself by doing it like the op's friend.
the point for me, rather, is to have a fun time trying to see if i can do something completely ridiculous. here are some "roles" my friend and i have played in the past:
-vc's from silicon valley -phd student in math (did this at the craps table in vegas) -aerospace engineer in town for a conference (haha this reminds me of that seinfeld episode) -students at a local school -son of albanian senator
my favorite of all time, though, is when i went on a date with a girl from okcupid, and proceeded to tell her about my trip to bhutan.
i've never been to bhutan. i just looked at wikipedia beforehand.
being a girl must be the worst fate a person could have. you guys don't get to do ANY of this kind of stuff.
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - That's definitely untrue, lol. I can pretend to be whoever I want if I do my research just right. I would be the first to catch a guy in his lie though. There aren't too many people as observant as I am or as broadly educated for that matter. I also ask a ton of questions...really obscure questions. :)
@vicdaily@xanga - hahaha i'm pretty broadly educated too, how do you think i pull this shit off? :p i look forward to the day i meet you at the club, lol. (i rarely, if ever, do this sober.)
by the way, you do realize that even if someone's telling the truth, they won't know the answer to all obscure questions, right?
My current SO was interested when we first met and after sneakily finding out my name (it was a standardized test, ha ha!) he added me on facebook. This was after I told him, "Nice meeting you, see you around!" and he replied, "Eh, probably not." After he added me on facebook he was all, "Oh I see we have some mutual friends you should come to a pool party I am having this week," and gave me his number. I gave him mine so I could see if he really was interested and sure enough, he texted me pretty fast ;P
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@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - Haha they'll at least be able to entertain obscure questions. I challenge people to think more deeply and more broadly about pretty much everything (maybe that's why I never get asked out...too difficult to handle lol). So like...if he says he's a math Ph.D. I'd ask about his research, whether he teaches, how both experiences are, what his interests are in mathematics, and the most fascinating subject he's ever worked with. My stand partner for three years in orchestra was a math Ph.D. student :P
Haha maybe someday. I've never met anyone remotely interesting while out and I never get approached, so who knows.
@Doitean@xanga - Yes, they are douchebags and total liars. However, it's (sadly) what women respond to - well, the attractive ones anyways.
Just strike up a nice little conversation with the girl. You'd know when you got her. My friends and I are not the type to stay at one location for too long. Usually one of my buddies will tell me it's time to go. Politely thank them for their conversation. Leave. Yeah, wait for it. Then as you're walking out bust a U-turn. Never had been turned down before.
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - not really. Being a girl means being labeled sexy simply for making the first move. It's rather easy, plus, role-playing does take place among our gender, we just don't flaunt it as much =]
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - haha, believe me, we do this kind of thing all the time! My best friend and I have a habit of pretending to be Australian on night's out (I can do the accent as I was born there) to make nights out more interesting!
So lying to a girl and pretending to actually care about her and her interests is an "art" for getting her number?
Maybe not actually caring about what she cares about is a sign that you don't need her number.
@Doitean@xanga -Definitely agreed. I'm glad some guys don't actually like this kind of "tactic".
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It sounds like your friend is trying to model himself after Barney Stinson. This is bad.
While Barney is awesome, real people that act like him are not; they are just douche bags and pathological liars.
never ask. girls give it if you did a good job.
a real life Barney Stinson! haha!!
@islandgypsygirl@xanga - @Doitean@xanga - I was going to say the same thing--sounds like Barney Stinson! Real people can actually get away with that stuff? Wow...
@LaBellaMorena - No, they can't get away with it lol
LOL it's a beautiful art really.
i remember this quarter a guy whipped out his phone too soon and went to his contacts list and we didn't know each other that well yet, so i turned away and he was smart to put his phone away. a few conversations later i was asking him about parties and if he was having one that week 'cause my friend got her heart broken and he asked for my number so he can text me if he did. well that led to failed booty calls on his part. and 2 prettyy good parties for me.
@Doitean@xanga - This was exactly what my first thoughts were.
Sounds like your friend's been watching a lot of "How I Met Your Mother" :D. Honestly, I admit I would've fallen for one of the subtler lines and given him my number before I figured the trick out :D.
I haven't heard many cheesy lines. they either directly ask for my number or hand me their number instead.
I don't ask a girl for her phone number unless I click with her. That way, I avoid the risk of being turned down or receiving a fake number.
Getting numbers is cool on the surface, but it's only step 1.
Girls flake out, they give you wrong numbers, they get confused what your intentions are...
Especially if you do it like this guy - he's not being clear on his intentions with her.
haha
wow, clearly the majority of commenters so far have NO idea how fun it is to go around pretending all sorts of things. the point--for me, at least--is not to get a number. and as @testyman666@xanga pointed out, getting a number means nothing...and if you're trying to pursue it further, you're just screwing yourself by doing it like the op's friend.
the point for me, rather, is to have a fun time trying to see if i can do something completely ridiculous. here are some "roles" my friend and i have played in the past:
-vc's from silicon valley
-phd student in math (did this at the craps table in vegas)
-aerospace engineer in town for a conference (haha this reminds me of that seinfeld episode)
-students at a local school
-son of albanian senator
my favorite of all time, though, is when i went on a date with a girl from okcupid, and proceeded to tell her about my trip to bhutan.
i've never been to bhutan. i just looked at wikipedia beforehand.
being a girl must be the worst fate a person could have. you guys don't get to do ANY of this kind of stuff.
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - That's definitely untrue, lol. I can pretend to be whoever I want if I do my research just right. I would be the first to catch a guy in his lie though. There aren't too many people as observant as I am or as broadly educated for that matter. I also ask a ton of questions...really obscure questions. :)
@vicdaily@xanga - hahaha i'm pretty broadly educated too, how do you think i pull this shit off? :p i look forward to the day i meet you at the club, lol. (i rarely, if ever, do this sober.)
by the way, you do realize that even if someone's telling the truth, they won't know the answer to all obscure questions, right?
My current SO was interested when we first met and after sneakily finding out my name (it was a standardized test, ha ha!) he added me on facebook. This was after I told him, "Nice meeting you, see you around!" and he replied, "Eh, probably not." After he added me on facebook he was all, "Oh I see we have some mutual friends you should come to a pool party I am having this week," and gave me his number. I gave him mine so I could see if he really was interested and sure enough, he texted me pretty fast ;P
<--------Cover of the Chinese Time Magazine
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - Haha they'll at least be able to entertain obscure questions. I challenge people to think more deeply and more broadly about pretty much everything (maybe that's why I never get asked out...too difficult to handle lol). So like...if he says he's a math Ph.D. I'd ask about his research, whether he teaches, how both experiences are, what his interests are in mathematics, and the most fascinating subject he's ever worked with. My stand partner for three years in orchestra was a math Ph.D. student :P
Haha maybe someday. I've never met anyone remotely interesting while out and I never get approached, so who knows.
@Doitean@xanga - Yes, they are douchebags and total liars. However, it's (sadly) what women respond to - well, the attractive ones anyways.
Just strike up a nice little conversation with the girl. You'd know when you got her. My friends and I are not the type to stay at one location for too long. Usually one of my buddies will tell me it's time to go. Politely thank them for their conversation. Leave. Yeah, wait for it. Then as you're walking out bust a U-turn. Never had been turned down before.
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - not really. Being a girl means being labeled sexy simply for making the first move. It's rather easy, plus, role-playing does take place among our gender, we just don't flaunt it as much =]
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - haha, believe me, we do this kind of thing all the time! My best friend and I have a habit of pretending to be Australian on night's out (I can do the accent as I was born there) to make nights out more interesting!
So lying to a girl and pretending to actually care about her and her interests is an "art" for getting her number?
Maybe not actually caring about what she cares about is a sign that you don't need her number.
@Doitean@xanga -Definitely agreed. I'm glad some guys don't actually like this kind of "tactic".
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