Wednesday, 07 December 2011
My friend recently expressed her disgust with guys who feel the need to point out the fact that she is an Asian girl while they are trying to hit on her. It's as if they don't realize that mentioning they have a "thing" for Asian girls doesn't really help their cause. She recently got a text from a guy that said, "I've never been with an Asian girl before (not that it matters)." And yes, the parentheses were part of the text.
In what universe must you live in where saying "not that it matters" actually means it doesn't matter? If anything, you just did the equivalent of Bolding, Italicizing, and Underlining your supposedly non-essential statement. She knows she's Asian, she knows you can tell she's Asian, and there really is no need to bring it up unless you have something worth saying about it—not just you acknowledging it. Otherwise, this is a fail pick-up line.
I understand you may have this uncontrollable, uncontainable, physical, bursting joy for finally having the chance to fulfill your Asian girl fantasy. But, that little fetish you have is not as endearing to the girl you're talking to as much as you have convinced yourself to believe. It's not like she's going to be ecstatic upon hearing the fact that you have never been with an Asian girl before. What did you expect? That she would be swept off her feet by your racial observations?
Obviously, this doesn't just apply to Asians. This goes for anyone who is approached based solely on their ethnicity. So, what I'd like to know is:
Do you feel that some people approach you more because of your "exotic" ethnic background than for any other reason? Do you think it is something that gets in the way and must always be addressed first before someone can actually get to know you? Does it work to your advantage or disadvantage?