Sunday, 04 December 2011
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So What If He's Shorter Than You?
This post was submitted anonymously.
I'm not exactly a tall girl, but at 5'7" I'm definitely not a short one either. I have dated guys taller than me, I have dated guys my height, and my current boyfriend of almost 2 years is nearly a foot shorter than me. My question is who the fuck cares? When I hear women say things like, "Oh, I would never date a guy who's shorter than me!" I am actually personally offended. Like it's such a terrible, horrible, taboo thing to date someone shorter than you? Are you that shallow that you can't overlook something like height?
I get it, ladies. To an extent. I met my boyfriend online so I was oblivious to his height at first, and when he told me about it I'll admit I was a little concerned as to whether or not it would work out with him being so much shorter. I thought kissing might be weird, sex would be awkward, I wouldn't feel safe and secure in his arms, even just standing next to him would provide complications.
I was wrong, and I found that out because I decided to give it a chance. Kissing him is probably one of my favorite pass times, along with the sex, he still gives me that protected feeling, and standing next to him I hardly even notice it. I understand having a preference to taller guys, but so many women will completely eliminate someone from their radar just because of their height, and that god-awful condescending tone when they claim they would NEVER date someone shorter than them makes me want to punch their teeth out.
Even more unbelievable is the way people will treat a couple where the female has a significant height difference. My boyfriend is short. I know it. He knows it. It's actually something he's pretty insecure about, and you wouldn't believe how many blatant stares we get when we go out. Also, other men will actually try to hit on me in front of him after finding out we're together, like because he's short he isn't any competition or threat to them. Since when does having a short boyfriend make a woman available? Short doesn't equal nonexistent!
I guess what I'm trying to say is, so what if the woman is the taller one in a relationship? Why does it matter?
How many women would truly date a guy shorter than her? And vice versa, how many of you men would date a woman taller than you?
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I just don't find shorter guys attractive, and I honestly think it's stupid to get "personally offended" by whether other people have the same tastes as you or not.
I've been slightly shorter than some women I've been with, by about an inch or two.
What really matters is can he screw your brains out, because that's what I did to both of them. :P Problem?I used to mind if a guy was shorter than me, but now I don't care. My current boyfriend is a couple inches shorter than me and I don't even notice. He still protects me and does whatever he can for me.
This awkward outside shell is nothing, I'm happy you didn't let it stop you from being with the man you love. As for other people, that could be said with anything that differs in oppinion...hehe, I wouldn't let it get you so upset. Be happy with you and your choices, ignore the stares, the comments and the guys who are stupid and hit on you in front of your boyfriend. Just, kiss him in front of them. Tehe.
There is also a large height difference between me and my boyfriend. I've never been one to judge a potential mate on their height because in the end it doesn't matter. He's more of a man than any of the other guys I've dated, even if they were 6 feet tall. Kudos to you!!
i'm 5'7 too and sadly i don't give guys who are shorter than me the time of day. sorry but to me it's unattractive and not manly and i can't imagine feeling protected by a short guy.
these are instincts that come naturally to me.
"My question is who the fuck cares? When I hear women say things like, "Oh, I would never date a guy who's shorter than me!" I am actually personally offended. Like it's such a terrible, horrible, taboo thing to date someone shorter than you? Are you that shallow that you can't overlook something like height?"
Why are you personally offended? If you're all "Who the fuck cares" then why the fuck do you care if someone else has a different opinion? It's like some women think dick size matters and others don't. Is it such a terrible horrible taboo thing to prefer to date someone who's taller than you? Are you so shallow that you expect other people not to care about your preference but you actually give a shit about theirs? Hypocrisy much?
I'm 5'3" so every guy I've been in a relationship with has been taller than I am. However, I'd never rule a guy out if he was a bit shorter than I was as long as the height difference wasn't too noticeable.
I don't know if you'll be able to hear me up there on your high horse, but I'll give it a shot. I don't like shorter guys because I like to feel like the guy is in control. I enjoy feeling like he can protect me. I like being hugged by someone taller than me. I like that I need to tilt my head up just a little to kiss him, I like him to tilt my chin back so he can look in my eyes. I like being able to wear heels without feeling like a giraffe who can see my guy's scalp. Maybe if you could get over yourself you'd be able to see that other people's innate taste in men isn't a personal affront to you or the person you're dating.
I am 5'6" Which for guys is considered short. I however am very personally offended when a female a couple inches taller than me will turn me down just for my height...I hate being short. I would give ANYTHING to be just a few inches taller. I have been turned down because I was 2 or 3 inches shorter than a girl.
I don't mean to be mean, but I think it is shallow a girl will turn a guy down just because he is 2-3 inches shorter. When it comes to feeling protective, a short guy will always get over looked. I am just as strong as any other guy who is a few inches taller, if not stronger even. I guess if it is a significant difference I guess I can understand.
I would of course date a taller woman. Height should have no major impact on choosing a significant other. Although if I had a choice I would prefer to date a taller women, but that's just me.
Do whatever feels right! You go
Get over it, it's personal taste.
You're being ridiculous by being offended lol!
I would not date someone shorter than me; I am not attracted to short men, and there is nothing wrong with that. (:
I don't like taller men either. I'm 5'9", and I like men that I can have an eye level conversation with. I've dated guys in the ranges 2 inches taller/shorter than me.
What a relief. For a moment, I thought you were going to make the opposite point.
When it comes to finding love, do you really want to tell your heart "Well, yeah, he would've been the perfect guy for me, but he's just not the right height!". How tall or short either partner is should only be a factor when determining which crazy sex positions are right for you.
I had the same problem .
Theres this really nice guy, but seriously, he's like 4'5 and I"m 5"3.I think he's sooo short.Yes, he's super short- and looks like a 2nd grader .When I found out that he loves me, then I'm like "ewww no! how would we kiss?! NO. NO .NO."But now, when we hardly talk- I want him back.Now I don't care about height anymore.Nobody else understands me like him, and I"m pretty stupid to think about this height- over his personality.But I agree, I can't stand women saying that they want a tall guy- and they wont date short guys.It's not their fault theyre small-so give them a chance.
wait wait, he's 4'7???
you seem to be missing the obvious fact of life that shorter people are inherently inferior in every way. didn't anyone ever tell you that human value is stored vertically? that's right, this means that intelligence, competence, charm and skill are only allocated to those who are tall enough to contain it.
I think i only know one other man that's shorter than I am. i'm 5'7. so, while i'm not super short i am shorter than most people I know. one thing that amuses and upsets me all at the same time is how taller people tend to try to get right on top of you if there is a disagreement as though invading your airspace will make you "see the light."
you can't help who you fall in love with even if they're shorter than you. i know a lot of girls who date shorter men and some of them are even married to them. if you're ok with it, then who cares what they say.
I agree with you, it's pretty offensive to write a guy off immediately just because of his height. I mean, really, it's not exactly like height is something he can control. And I still think it's shallow. Just because it's a preference a majority of women seem to hold, doesn't make it any less shallow.
I am 5'6" and my boyfriend is 5'2". He is a former wrestler, football player, and competitive rifle shooter. He worked on a road crew, lives on a farm, fixes cars, and is very competent with manual labor. He has nice strong arms and broad shoulders. I feel completely safe, protected, and taken care of with him. Personality wise, we are a perfect fit. His looks didn't turn my head when we first met, but I am extremely attracted to him now. Now, how sad would it be if I had missed out this amazing person that I love so much because I had some ridiculous hang up about height? Pretty sad, right? Actually, several ladies prior to me had refused him, basically telling him he was a sweet guy and definite boyfriend material, but he was too short. Their loss, my incredible gain. :) And bonus - I never have to wear high heels. Flats and birkenstocks ftw!
Short guys think I'm super fine and I'm 5'11''. I get compliments all the time. People like lots of different things so whatevaaa :)
Naw. At barely 5'3", I'M good. The shortest guy I dated was 5'8" and that was fine. But I PREFER guys way taller than me. I find it sexy. Like my boyfriend now is a little over 6'3" and I feel so teenie! =D love it.
Glad to hear this. Not many women are taller than me.
Here's the thing - if you didn't care, if it didn't bother you and you were completely comfortable, you wouldn't have written this post. Or at least not in the form that you did.
The fact that there's a question mark in the title leads me to believe you, yourself are questioning not only everyone else's feelings about your boyfriend being shorter than you, but yours as well.
Personally, I'd never date a guy under six foot. You say you don't like when women make such comments... well, I don't care.. and I'm not questioning anyone's opinion. Am I that shallow? Yes. Did I get what I wanted? Yes.
If you're happy, be happy and stop bitching about it. If you feel uncomfortable and are questioning your feelings and others (you are) ....maybe it's time to reevaluate just how shallow you are.
Ps. I'm 4'11...sometimes people make comments about our height difference too. But I don't care.
My boyfriend of 4 years is shorter than me? There is nothing wrong with it. I got made fun of all thru highschool but the thing is if you love him it shouldn't matter.
I find a goliath in a suit sexier than a short penguin in a suit. to each their own.