Saturday, 03 December 2011
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Why Is He Mean to Me?
Okay, so I've liked this guy for a while now and we're friends, I guess you could say. You see, this guy is so mean to me; in a playful way but still. Normally a guy friend will strike up a conversation with you and say "Hi." Well, not this guy. He says, "Eww it's you" or "Loser" and smiles only to then playfully slap me on the arm and start cracking other jokes to my friends about me.
I know it's said boys are mean to girls they like, but this is just different. I dated a boy that did this kinda thing before, but not nearly as much. I mean, I almost feel like I'm just a joke to him. I don't even know if we've ever had a full conversation. I text him sometimes which is the most serious I've ever been with him, and it's still jokes!
Please help me out. Does this boy have feelings for me?
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Honestly, he just sounds like a jerk, not your friend.
Whether or not he likes you isn't something you should concern yourself with when he obviously does not respect you. Would you really want to get into a relationship with someone who's constantly an ass? Those kinds of relationships eat away at you. Don't waste your time.
1. how old is he?
2. because he's an ass.
3. he doesn't really like you.
stop paying attention to him and see what happens. (stop texting) when he says "hi" to you, don't react like it bothered you.
He could be a Helga Pataki, in that he doesn't know exactly how to communicate his feelings so he uses another method.
If you're interested, ignore him. Leave him out to dry for a while. See if he makes an effort to get to you. If he sends you a text first, asking why you haven't been around, then he probably is interested. If he doesn't, then he authentically doesn't care about you.I thought this post was going to be about an actual problem.
I was wrong.
@kev1nccho1@xanga - xD aww, girls just like to overanalyze. now you know why we cause so much drama!
He can't be that cute. Somewhere is some guy who will be afraid to say "eww it's you" or call you a "loser" for fear of hurting your feelings.
I've known a few guys who like to tease. There's teasing "hey, shrimp" and there's being mean "hey, loser since nobody wants to date short girls". Really there is a fine line between teasing and being mean and only you can define that line for yourself. Good luck!
mmmm..i really don't get why society makes girls think that when guys are mean to them that they like them. if you're well out of elementary school, then i would just drop that guy because he sounds like a loser to me.
i would tell him to grow up. haha
@wyrdkismet@xanga - That's okay. We need you.
He is an asshole. Move on!
I had a friend like this. Definitely. He was all jokes, and always playfully insulting. We had a fling for a while after being friends for a long time, he still was all jokes. Just one of those guys who won't open up, and must set barriers with people to avoid being hurt or to convey that they actually have 'feelings' that you can mess with. That's what your friend sounds like as well. It's cool for a while, but I gave up because I didn't know where I stood in his life.
How old are you?
If you're 12 and he's 12 then this sounds like a crush.
If you and he are older than 16, this guy has some serious growing up to do. That would annoy me. It's one thing to occasionally "playfully" tease someone, it's another thing to constantly do it. In my opinion, by the time you're about 16 years old you need to be able to speak your feelings.
When I was 16 I was pretty open with my feelings. There wasn't much p*footing around, it was a "I like you. That's that." kind of thing.
If you really like him, though, then I'd try just... telling him and seeing what he says. What ever happened to being open and speaking your mind?
"I text him sometimes which is the most serious I've ever been with him, and it's still jokes!"
The most serious you've ever been with him is via text? And he's a jerk to you all the time so you like him? And you've never had a serious conversation with him?
What is this...I don't even...
@SlackerSociety@xanga - Hey Arnold comment ftw! :D
I went out with someone before and he sounds kinda like him, except he was meaner :( He once locked me in a camper for the back of a truck and there were spider webs and stuff and he sat on my lap before but I was sitting on something and it REALLY hurt so I grabbed onto him and broke his necklace and he got really pissed at me for it... He would also push me around and stuff.. He appoligised when we were older but still.. It hurts when people treat you like that.
None. Zero. Run away from him fast!
You call this jerk your friend? hrm,
if he does have "feelings for you" they are not the warm fuzzy wanna-be-my-girlfriend-feelings.
This guy is not a friend, he is an idiot.. If he treats friends like this, it would be scary to see how he treats a girl friend.
He likes you. it's what we do to get a reaction and your interest. Looks like he's doing a good job if you're asking bloggers for a second opinion.
it could mean something. it could mean nothing. i have friends who do that to girls they like, and i also have friends who do that to girls that don't.
Does it matter? If he likes you, then he's too immature to deal with it, and thus is not worthy of your time. If he doesn't then nothing will come of it anyway. My advice is to assume he isn't interested and move on. Find someone who doesn't make fun of you like that and get over this guy. He is absolutely not worth your time.
-Katie
Been there, done that. He might like you, but this will escalate. He covers up his insults as being 'jokes' so you keep coming back. It's a trick, and one he knows that you'll keep falling for it it's going to get so much worse.
I almost started dating a person exactly like this a little while ago. Then I realized he had A LOT of growing up to do.
Why the fuck are you even friends with this guy? He obviously disrespects you. The answer is obvious: find someone better.
You're retarded. That's why he is mean to you. I would make fun of you too.
Girl, why are you even talking about him embarassing you??? Are you ok?