Wednesday, 30 November 2011
I have been dating this one special guy since the very beginning of September. I wrote another article questioning: "what to do, or how to move onto the next level with him" but I've crumpled that up like a terrible draft, tossed it in the trash and couldn't be happier with where we are- wherever/whatever that is.
We have met each other's families, which was hilariously awkward on both parts but enjoyable nonetheless. I walked into his house and met his entire family from the obese Labrador, who by far is my favorite ever, to the 3 other pets, his 3 younger siblings, and lastly both his mom and step-dad.
We act like a couple. We go everywhere together, spend hours upon hours together, and we are even going on a day road trip-legitimately driving all day and back in 24 hours- this Sunday to the Fray Concert in St. Petersburg (holla!) 9 hours from home. The one hour stereotypical coffee date without a doubt always turns into a 9 hour adventure date.
We haven't had the (lets get all cray cray with acronyms) "DTR" (define the relationship) conversation at all. AT ALL. Other than saying I like you....
I just dove into the pool and joined the decade of 20-year-olds. I am very used to the awkward, check yes, check no, check maybe conversations that this situation leaves me a little confused, although I'm not complaining. So the question is, what do you guys do to initiate a relationship in your 20's? Is there a talk, or when it feels right/ is already there?
Compared to some of my friends and their relationships we are still getting to know each other, although it's almost been 4 months versus the 2 month superfast HOV lane relationship some friends will have, where moving in together is already on their minds. No lie, I wish we were there sometimes (not moving in HAH) but in retrospect...this is the best "relationship" I have ever been in, and experience says moving at a snails pace works 10x better.
It's not like the crazy unrequited infatuation, lose sight of my priorities kind of "liking." I love spending time with him and being with him more than anything, but I still have a grip and I love it.
The fact that it's different makes me question if I really do feel the way I say I do, but then being with him feels right; like we are supposed to be together and it's comfortable in a foreign way. It's just unreal, and for once I need to force myself to be vulnerable with this, because this is too good.
Again, question is: What do you guys do to initiate a relationship in your 20's?
Stories are more than welcome.