Monday, 28 November 2011
I am a 26-year-old girl, who just ended a 4+ year long distance relationship. I had checked out of it a while ago, but something happened between my boyfriend & I that was a huge turning point, and I decided to end it. I was unhappy for a long time, and just wanted to be free and make new friends.
So now that I am single, I have been making new friends, and yes a few are guys. It's more like a group of friends I have been hanging around with. Very nice people, I get along with them all great. Mostly we all work together as well.
The one guy I had been talking to the most, let's call him Harry, is definitely into me. I figure I am single why not hang out, casually date in a way, nothing serious. It seems like when I talk to him via text, I like him more than in person. Probably sounds strange but, I just dont really have that strong of a vibe with him. He is younger than me, and lives pretty far away for school. Also, he lives with his ex girlfriend. Yeah that all sounds like a mess, huh?
So one of Harry's best friends, we can call him Dave, had been into me before this casual thing with Harry. I was not aware of that. Dave and I have been talking more, and we have a lot more in common. A much stronger connection. I could actually see myself dating Dave more seriously.
I went out with both of them last night, and other friends. It was awkward, because I know they both like me, and in a way I am kinda seeing the one I do not really like that much.
Being such close friends, they have discussed it, and Dave told Harry last night, that he really likes me, in the hopes that maybe Harry would back off.
Dave also told me how much he likes me, and how he discussed it with other friends, and yeah I am totally flattered because I like him too.
I was already planning on letting Harry know I want to just continue on as friends. I have no idea how to do this without seeming like a total jerk. I want to let him know I like his friend Dave as well. But that liking Dave isn't the reason for not really wanting to see him anymore.
I really dont want to hurt their friendship, or be a jerk. I need some advice!
Have any of you been in a similar situation? How did you handle it?