There is nothing you can say to her to get her to change her mind.  At this point, let it go.  Let her deal with this and come to her own conclusion. 

I think it's time to end it when the pain is more than any joy.  When all the joy is in the past, it's time to move on.  Rather difficult to come to that conclusion but sometimes we must.  :(  Good luck to her!

Sometimes, you have to let things go, cut your losses and move on. This is not the end of her life. But that being said, she's not going to do ANYTHING until SHE makes the decision to LEAVE for the better, not treat herself like a doormat that nobody wants. All you can do is support your friend because that's what friends do. But the guy should also really be clear and ruthless, rip off that bandaid, and BREAK UP with her if he doesn't want to meet her halfway of anything. He's being a dick by stringing her along because he can. Even then, that gets old.

When any relationship (romantic or not) becomes unhealthy, I think it's really important to review the facts and take a good long look at yourself and the other person.  Determine why the relationship is unhealthy and proceed from there.  In this situation, it sounds like your friend is obsessed with a relationship that really isn't much of a relationship any more... so, she needs to move on. 

When the relationshis is unhealthy because of your OWN thoughts and actions, that is when it is time to cut your losses (or change your approach) and move on... no matter how unpleasant it may be. 

It's her relationship, it's her decision when to leave.

@teawithhoney@xanga - Of course it is, but she asks my advice and I give it to her. She can either take it or leave it and she knows that. I'm not trying to make her do anything. I just wish she would but then I can see how difficult it is, because I've been in the same position as her. I've told her that she should list the pros and cons of this and made her think about it but in the end, it is up to her and besides her bf's hand had forced her to act so recently, so in actuality I didn't do anything except be there for her and offer advice when she asked. .

@TiredSoVeryTired@xanga - Yeah, but the thing is she approached me about it and asked for my advice and she still comes around to ask advice (so there really is no leaving it alone. She is a friend after all. I try to help all friends). She let me in. And I only gave advice when she asked and tried to cheer her up in the meantime. She asked a lot of questions about my me and my own past relationships and I gave them to her. I've been in her situation as well with my ex. And I'm aware of that fact honestly. I only relate to her because she it helps her navigate through this. It gives her an idea what to do but in the end, she has to do it herself. Why I always stress I'm here for her and that I wish her luck in any thing she does.

@kor_girl@xanga - Of course she has to, it is the only way. She has to be hit by that realization as well. I was hit by it too when I was with my ex(bf then) and then promptly broke up with him.

@Cosmar@xanga - She doesn't live with him but she does have some stuff there and if I remember correctly, he made her clean out most of it when he was trying to break up with her earlier this month. It's a just a situation that makes your head spin. Lol

@Hinase@xanga - Oh, I see!  Well, if it begins to stress you out (it appears she may not be taking your advice) perhaps tell her you aren't going to give any more advice and help her out in other ways!  Good luck to you too.  

Sometimes, people needs to experience things themselves to fully understand. I can see you being such a caring friend and trying to give her a heads up, there's nothing wrong with that. She should be grateful to have someone like you by her. But really, people tends to learn more and have a better understanding of who they are from their own experiences and the mistakes they do make. Especially us girls, we learn the hard way. And sometimes, we have to force ourselves to face reality even if it tears you up inside.

From my experiences, my ex's. I knew that it'll probably end the way I didn't want. I knew what the consequences would be. I prepared myself for it. But, I still went head on and did what I want because of what I felt, my feelings for them. And once it hit me real hard, I have enough courage to walk away. Sometimes, it has to break us, so we can fall and stand back up again.

Here's something I wrote not too long ago:
Sometimes we need to look back to see who's there watching. 
Sometimes we need to take a step back to see who's there waiting. 
Sometimes we need to be blinded to see clearly who we are. 
Sometimes we need to feel the pain to breathe. 
Sometimes we need to regret so we don't wonder what if. 
Sometimes we need to let go so better things can come together. 
Sometimes we need to forgive so we can forget.

@Shirleyy_x3@xanga - Of course we do ;D We do learn better from experiences than from people telling us, but it is always nice to give/hear advice and be relatable to each other especially since this is her first time going into these sorts of waters. It's really helped her in a big way and from whatever she does, I always express my hope and good luck to her. She is my friend after all. 

When you're dead.