Friday, 25 November 2011
I feel like men these days have an ideal in their head of the "perfect" woman. Correct me if I'm wrong but I think it goes something along the lines of ..someone who's "hot" (and let's not forget after children, she has to look like a MILF), cooks, cleans, takes care of the kids, independent, just to name a few. Not only is this an ideal for men but I believe that this has become an ideal that some women strive for without even realizing it. I'm sick of men talking about how hard it is to find a woman like this because they're leaving out a huge aspect of it. Men, be prepared for a rude awakening.
I'm sure that everyone was brought up differently. I believe that a lot of men have this ideal in their head because they saw something like it while they were growing up. They most likely saw their mother or a mother raising children, cooking and cleaning all day all the while keeping up with themselves for their husband. What a lot of men don't realize though is that this "ideal" woman that they idolize or they saw growing up didn't work for a living! In my generation, a lot of what I saw growing up were exactly that - HOUSEWIVES.
A lot of our parents or grandparents were women who didn't work, cooked, cleaned, took care of the kids, paid all the bills and took care of the financial aspect of the household with the money that their husband made. This is simply not the case anymore. Let's be realistic- one income is no longer sufficient to be able to live comfortably. Heck, if I could stay home and rely on my future husband's income, I would have no problem cooking and cleaning, taking care of children and maintaining the household but I'm simply too tired to do that after an eight hour day of work- sometimes longer.
Also, in this economy it's so hard to have a job, nevermind make a sufficient income. So what men are finding are either gold-diggers who fit certain ideals (but not without a price ) or women who are independent and work but don't cook/clean, etc. simply because it's too much. Also, what about the women who are still in school and working full time? There are so many factors that go into reasons as to why our society has changed and woman don't have the same standards and ideals as our parents and grandparents did.
I keep hearing men who meet women and are never satisfied because one factor is missing out of the things I mentioned. There is always "something" missing. That something is missing for a reason, and a big one at that - work, school, our economy, our society ..look at the world around you. I'm sick of men not considering a woman a "real" woman simply because she doesn't cook or clean, etc. Look at what else she does because chances are she's holding her own. Also, back then woman relied on men much more. Our society has changed so much that women are way more independent and in some relationships make more than their man. It's really something to think about.
So men, I have news for you. It's time to conform to the times. This is no longer the 60's, 80's, or even 90's. If a housewife is what you want then you better have a good enough job to fulfill this "ideal woman" in your head. If not, be prepared to chip in 50/50. It's called a partnership for a reason.
So I ask Datingish readers ..do you agree with this defense on women's behalf? How many women do you know that still fit into that "housewife" role? What do you consider the "ideal woman"?