Thursday, 24 November 2011
I have this guy friend I met recently who's older than me by about 13 years or so. He is a redhead with thick framed glasses, has a super laid-back hipster vibe to him that made him seem like a cool, easy going guy. I met him through an artist Facebook group we were both a part of. I went to one of his art shows at the studio he has and he messaged me saying thanks for coming. I messaged back asking information about the art school he attended. We met for coffee to discuss it further and since then, we have become good friends.
I began to send him funny texts about my day and he would reply, sometimes spontaneously continuing the conversation the next night from the one I had the previous day with him. They would always make me laugh and help me through some rough days.
I thought it was super cool to have an older artist friend who has traveled the world, been in shows and could possibly give me advice on my career and school and whatnot. It's kind of hard for me to find other artists at my community college I currently attend who have similar interests in me, so when I began talking to him, I was happy to learn that he was invested and responsive to what I would text him and tell him.
But after I attended his last art show this weekend, I decided to call him the next day to ask for help with some art history homework and he began being flirtatious. On the phone he suddenly gave me this vibe I haven't heard from him prior. He has said before through texts we should hit up a bar together but this time he said it in a way that sounded like he was hitting on me. I thought it was awkward since he is around 30 years old (or older? not sure) and I just turned 20 so he knows I'm still a minor.
When we met, I could have sworn he was already taken since he is so much older then me. Before he hung up he said I should be sure to call him sometime this week when I'm free. I'm not sure if he thinks that the reason why I have been texting him this entire time was because I was into him, but I feel like that's his impression. I enjoyed our speedy friendship we have created yet I'm saddened to think that this entire time all he wanted to do was hit it and quit it.
This is probably the second guy friendship I've created where I had to call it quits because out of NOWHERE, they wanted to create some kind of fire that neither of us felt to begin with...can we say weird? And why do men do this? Just because I'm nice to you and I enjoy your company does not give you any right to suddenly want to flirt with me and try to pursue me when we know that all I want is your friendship.
Cant guys and gals just be friends and nothing more?
For just the sake of just a friendship. Why should we want to complicate things? And in a unexpected manner at that!