Tuesday, 22 November 2011
This post was submitted anonymously.
My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. I have a little one of three. We moved in after 7 months and things were great. Like anyone, we have our ups and downs but have always come through. Having a family and getting married is my dream. We've talked about it various times to which he always rodeos around the wedding topic. I had advised I didn't want to keep adding years to our relationship if he wasn't going to propose or commit.
We began to talk about getting married and making a few plans here and there for our wedding. Last week he was advised that he was going IA to Afghanistan and being deployed out there for a whole year leaving January. So he asked me to marry him.
I of course said yes and then... he tells me he never had a ring so he asks his sister's for hers to give to me? So I asked him if deployment wasn't around the corner, would he have proposed and he answered, "Not until August next year." My heart sank. I thought because we had been talking about getting married and the requirements for it, and the time and planning we were putting into it the proposal would come sooner. Now I feel like if it weren't for deployment, the marriage proposal would still be on hold for 10 more months!
So is getting married right now okay?