Monday, 21 November 2011
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Mr. Right vs Mr. Right Now
Romantic notions about finding "the one" or Mr. Right have always been around. Recently, more and more women have been rethinking the idea of that one match. It seems that Mr. Right Now has become a popular choice for many single ladies.Today it's a face off between Mr. Right, or Mr. Right Now.
Round One
You're going to a wedding, not your own, let's say... your sister is getting married. You are casually dating a nice guy, goatee, lives with four roommates and currently works for his uncle's car garage, aka Mr. Right Now. Do you...take Mr. Right Now, knowing that he doesn't have it all together and that some of your relatives are going to wrinkle their noses at his goatee and motor oil stained fingernails?Or do you go solo, because you never know, you could meet Mr. Right at that wedding?
Verdict: If you go solo on the off chance that a single guy at a wedding will be looking for anything other than a hook up, you're an idiot. If you have an easy going guy to dance the slow songs with and laugh along with you at the drunken speeches your uncle Harry makes, why would't you?
Winner of round one: Mr. Right Now.
Round Two
Your landlord is selling the building and you have a month to move. Mr. Right Now asks if you want to move in with him, he's got an extra bedroom and you guys have been together for a while. Only thing is, if you do that, you're going to have to get more serious and you might have to let go of your dream guy.Do you...take Mr. Right Now up on his offer, knowing that although he's not a big dish washer or milk buyer, he does make a mean french toast and doesn't snore?
Or do you...move into a bachelorette pad and risk alienating Mr. Right Now in order to keep your options open for meeting someone better?
Verdict: You'd be a total idiot to not take Mr. Right Now up on his offer to move in. Sure he might not clean the bath tub every week, but he's a good guy and isn't going to be a jerk if you leave dishes in the sink for a few days. Waiting around and spending extra money on your own place is a waste of money and time.
Winner of round two: Mr. Right Now.
Round Three
This a biggie. What would you do if you found out you were pregnant? You know it's Mr. Right Now's baby and you're at an age where you're thinking about having kids anyway. If you have a baby with him, you're committed, in one way or another, for life. Your chances of getting with Mr. Right are going to greatly diminish.So...do you go through with the pregnancy and have a baby with a guy who you saw as good enough for dating, but who you're not totally sold on for a long term thing? Are you willing to take that risk? A baby changes everything, it might be a good thing since Mr. Right Now seems to be really good with kids and has a steady job that isn't too stressful. You could also end up always wondering about the "what ifs."
What if...you didn't have the baby? What if...you broke up with Mr. Right Now and looked up that amazing guy who you met two years ago at your sister's university graduation who seemed like his life was so on track? What if...you get involved and he's a shallow ego maniac, or is really nice and really gay? What then? You can't turn back time and undo an ended pregnancy. It's a heavy thing to think about, I know.
Verdict: If you're at a place where you think you could handle children and you know Mr. Right Now is not going to bolt or shove $500 bucks in your hand and offer to drive you to a clinic, a baby may be something to consider. Especially if you're in your thirties, with only some fantasy man holding you back. Life is precious, it's your choice, but you should do some serious thinking.
Winner by a landslide is...Mr. Right Now!When it comes to holding your breath waiting for a prince charming, sometimes it's a good idea to look at who's sitting next to you. Mr. Right Now might actually be your Mr. Right.
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Comments (58)
Sad, really sad. Sounds like this girl is Ms. Right Never. It's not that she should look at Mr. Right Now and change him into Mr. Right. She should look at herself and figure out what's up her ass.
I hate the concept of Mr. Right Now, it's rude and doesn't take into account his feelings. Sad.
... This is kind of messed up. You're basically saying "Don't bother looking for a great guy or true love - you have an okay guy that doesn't entirely have his life together, but does have a steady job. Move in to his apartment with his four roommates and have a baby."
Unless you were talking about three different "Mr. Right Now"s.
Well, obviously.. why be with Mr. Right Now if you're dreaming about Mr. Right? It's neither fair to you or him. Most of the time, Mr. Right Now is Mr. Right.
But I wouldn't move in with Mr. Right Now if I wasn't ready to take that step. It would be stupid to if you weren't ready yet.
*facepalm*
There are times where I wonder how an individual can become so twisted, cynical, and evil...And now I have a clear example as to how it happens, being on the receiving end of everything stated in this post.
Nope, don't risk getting hurt or pushing through a few challenges, just settle for whatever comes your way and sit there in your nice, cozy little shell. Maybe in 20 years or so you'll realize how much of your life you've wasted and why that Mr.Right chose a woman who actually has a shred of confidence, pride, and just the tiniest hints of willpower and passion to go after what she wants in life.
Whoever wrote this, are you just gutless or coward? At least go down by yourself, don't drag someone else with you into that bottomless pit you've dug for yourself.
THIS SONG ON YOUTUBE is about this same subject. It's called Mister Good. I wrote the lyrics. You're welcome.
Why are you putting down mechanics in the first part? My boyfriend is a mechanic, and he's one of the hardest workers I know. So stfu.
What is wrong with you??
The poster of this article has the mentality of those who stay with an ex because they can't move out to an apartment that they need to pay 100% full rent and they try to guilt-trip their way out of intimacy with the said ex because they are keeping their options open!!
I have major issues with scenario no. 2. The Mr. Right Now DOES NOT win by the landslide. You do not take up on his offer, makign him also think that you want the commitment, not the apartment. You do not give him the incentive that you actually CARE about Mr. Right Now enough to make the committment step into living together just because he happens to not snore and makes a mean french toast. WTF?!
This is written by someone who's just trying to date her way into meeting the Right Guy. There is no "Right Now" guy or The Right One, this isn't a landmark you pass by while you're onthe roadtrip, you should respect the guy you're with and if you want something or someone else "better, shinier and more expensive" than you're with, then CUT HIM LOOSE! Let him go so that he can BE someone else's Mr. Right, rather than keep him leashed up with you with your poor thinking, because you're too chicknen shit to BE ALONE with your sad self.
I think the commenters here are missing the point.
One of the reasons a lot of women aren't happy these days is that they are constantly searching for the perfect guy. They don't exist.
You cannot be happy if you are ALWAYS looking out for something better.
The one that is perfectly fine is right in front of them.
this is really bad considering that i'm considering mr. right now, now.
what an stupid notion, being in a relationship it's hard enough when you find the right one and you both are commited to the relationship and trying your best, just imagine how messed up things would be with one that isn't right for you.
Mr. Right Now will never turn into Mr. Right Forever. You can't change someone to your fitting if you see all of their flaws and it isn't working out. Believe me, I know. I was with a guy for about 8 months because I thought he was my ticket to moving out of my house, getting engaged, blah, blah, blah while he only verbally abused me and I had convinced myself he'd change. No. It doesn't work that way.
I may be missing the point, but what I took from the OP was that she was trying to simply settle for Mr. Right Now. If someone doesn't make you completely happy and is just convenient, then maybe it is time to move on?
I believe there is flaw to this. This "Mr. Right Now" is really just Mr. Convenient. You shouldn't get with someone just for the convenience of it. If you are really looking for Mr. Right, then time and patience is required. Plus, Mr. Right SHOULD feel right, in the sense that you are compatible, enjoy this person's presence, and
TRULY lovethem. Being with someone for convenience is a waste of time.
What the hell was this? So many things wrong with this entire blog. I only go for Mr. Worth My Time, someone amazing that I like! Not wasting a mans time or my own.
@x_damaged_yet_unbroken_x@xanga - So much yes to this comment!
And to this post.. ಠ_ಠI think the above comments pretty much sum it all up.
WHY is this being featured? There's so many things wrong with this blog...what's wrong you the poster
No props.
I agree with what pretty much everybody else said. I hope people really don't take this advice. The pregnancy one especially worries me. Have a baby with Mr. Right Now? Wouldn't that be selfish to the child to depend on a dad that you are pretty much saying will be temporary?
This post, I don't even..
My Mr. Right is my Mr. Right Now, not because I'm settling, but because we are in love, and we know what marriage takes, and we are both willing to step up to the plate.
This post, just seemed to be more about settling than actually finding the right guy. I'm not saying you go out searching for him, and yes sometimes Mr. Right is right in front of you. But if you can't see a future with the person you're with right now, you can tell right away where that relationship is going to end up.
@TiredSoVeryTired@xanga - YES YES AND YESS
I think what she was trying to say was, don't expect perfection. Don't blow something because you think something better will come along. If this person is good enough for you to date, then stay with him. Now if you're with someone who isn't good enough to either go to a wedding with you, or move in with then dump him. Simple. Unless you're just looking for causal things.
people here overreact .
She is NOT saying to settle.
She is saying the person you are with could be the one all along.
There's a big difference
Wow, how low can you stoop?
@GuitarKat93@xanga - I know! Messed up!