Thursday, 17 November 2011

• Are You Guilty of Relationship Hypocrisy?

  

  If you read the title of this blog, then your answer most likely should be yes.  Everyone at a certain point in their dating lives has been guilty of being a hypocrite when it comes to their relationships and the relationships around them.

  Recently, I have realized how relationship hypocrisy has been affecting my life and the lives around me when hanging out with my formerly single ladies.  My friends and I are all in relationships right now and although it is a great thing, there is certain level of innate jealousy and smugness that has come from finding out about each other’s relationship woes.  Before we were all on the same page and adding genuine thoughts and advice when it came to our dating failures.  Now we pick each other apart for our friends’ partner’s and relationship shortcomings instead of paying attention to our own.

  Suddenly the fact that one of our friend’s boyfriend is not a looker makes one of us feel better that their boyfriend doesn’t put any energy into maintaining the magic in their relationship.   The fact that one of our friend’s is gaining comfort weight may make one of us feel better that they have to constantly dress up for their boyfriend to maintain his interest.  Also, the fact that one of our boyfriend’s salaries is abysmal may make one of us feel better that their relationship has taken over all aspects of their personal and social lives.   We spend so much time dissecting our friend’s problems and their decisions regarding their love lives that we hardly ever question our own.

  Happiness, like almost everything else in the dating world, is relative.  When it comes to looks, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.  Wealth to someone dating a partner who makes little money may mean something totally different to them than it does to you.  Maintaining one’s looks may not be a top priority to someone else and that’s not necessarily a bad thing either.  The point I’m trying to make is that unless you have walked in someone else’s  shoes, you shouldn’t be educating them on how to fix their problems.  You should be a friend and listen to them instead of using their woes as a basis of comparison for your own.

  However, we are human and hypocrisy is inevitable in everybody’s lives.  As long as you are mature enough not to always point the finger at your friends and to start pin pointing your own romantic inadequacies, then you will be that much closer to being able to truly examine your own relationship’s strengths and weaknesses and more importantly, you will be able to examine who you are as an individual.

  Be sincere about your own dating faults and start being tolerant of others.  We’re only human and we will constantly make mistakes in our romantic lives because there is no thing as relationship perfection.

  Have you or a friend ever been guilty of this?

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