So, today, I came across a woman on YouTube who asked men that often-wondered question: what is it with men and big butts? Her question also expanded to whether they all have to have it big? What about personalities? I'm sure she isn't the only person to ask this question or seem a teensy bit annoyed at the preference, either.
I could offer her plenty of answers to this question, but the answer I have is much quicker and much shorter than what I had said to her: because every animal has a mating call.
The fact of the matter is that humans are animals, and like one we all individually have a certain thing that we are attracted to. Enrique Iglesias made some women cream back in the day with his singing talents, strippers still attract with their ability to seductively dance and entice men, a certain Fox that Lovelyish knows very well has both her curves and the ability to bat her green (?) eyes, mine is through shameless, truthful flirting, and certain people just bleed sexual energy through the things they do and the way they act. Outside attractions are just a part of natural selection in dating. If you got it, you got it. If you don't want it, get used to it because you are stuck with it. If you don't have it, you better have something. Because that seems to be one of the ways people pair up now.
And to answer this woman's personality question,
the ugly truth is that the only time you will ever get a person to notice your personality first is through the internet. (Don't act like you never asked out or had someone ask you out without a picture on the internet before.)
I explained this to a woman on Datingish who once wrote about how her boyfriend wished she would cover up her breasts. In a picture, she had visible cleavage. She didn't really see the big surprise, and I assume she had the mindstate that no matter what, men were going to share at her breasts regardless. When she asked what the big deal was, I full on told her in a comment that
if you either look good or come off some kind of attractive, most men wouldn't care if you were taken. They just know that you are sexy because of that certain something, be it big butt, big breasts, smooth vocals, big lips, whatever a man likes. To have your breasts out, to wear low rise exposing a bit of ass, to even wear clothes that leave little to the imagination of your form. Can I get an amen? No? Well, can I get a "no, duh"? Thank ya!
The same woman from this video also wonders why men aren't much for facial features, and why it always has to be everywhere else. I know this doesn't need explaining, but I'll do it anyway. Ladies, whether you like it or not, men are visual creatures, and as some, they will notice what's in front of them. For them to notice your face, you either have to face them or have a face in the back of your face. Or if you want to get strategic and strange about it, have scientists create a child with her face between her asscheeks. It may not be an attractive sight, but it will surely clear up anal sex problems.
It's the physical features that will get him any bit interested in wanting to know the personality inside such a body. Right after that, everything else, personality, talking, freaking, dating and all that comes with the territory. If you don't have that, there are two things you can do: 1) be patient, because there is some kind of guy looking for what you want and 2) um, well, there is always phone sex.
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Well then. Not what I was expecting to read.
Interesting :P
"the ugly truth is that the only time you will ever get a person to notice your personality first is through the internet"
This is completely true. I think I had mentioned this on your original post, too, but I feel like emphasizing it again.
Nicely said. :)
Wouldn't say that necessarily true at all. Depends where and who you're picking said person up. Of course having your boobs/butt flaunting makes heads turn, but that doesn't mean the rest isn't any less attractive.
Big butts are fantastic, but so is an inciting personality.
when I see a female with a nice big butt, I check her out, too
but it isn't just any big butt just because it is big, it is often a nice toned big butt coupled with the rest of her toned and proportioned body rather than the bigass jiggly butts that some are attracted to simply because it is huge. to each their own.
I'm attracted to nice arms on a guy. however, not just any guy with nice arms. I saw a guy with nice arms but he was tall as me and I'm short. he just didn't appeal to me that much despite his toned arms. he doesn't have to be super tall but at least a couple more inches taller than me. people can't help their height but the same can be said about other physical features, so what an individual is personally attracted to varies and is superficial but I can't get myself to be romantic with someone I'm not particularly attracted to. each physical varation has a market for it, so they'll find their match someday hopefully:D I already found mine.
I hate big butts, I like small butts.
Big butts you can't do doggie style with unless you have a big penis.
And sadly mine is not.
you are wrong about the internet remark. no one of either gender will click on a profile if they're not already attracted to the photo of that person.
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - Perhaps, I had Xanga on my mind. It seems anywhere you go, not only do you get hte picture, but you get either their personal blogs or their personality wrapped up either in a personal background or whatever you put on a website. So, with the internet, you will get the personality first, but not so much offline.
@testyman666@xanga - This inspires a funny post which is coming right up, and connected to the video subject.
@testyman666@xanga - Haha I never thought about that before! What a great point. =P
I think once my fiance's grandmother nodded in approval that despite my slender Asian frame, my hips/butt is actually a bit bigger than the usual "flat ass" syndrome that most of my asian girl friends face... I became known in his family as "Asian girl with Italian booty." I don't think it's that bad, but I did go from a size 2 to a 4 and most of it ended up on my booty. I have to wiggle every time I'm trying on a pair of dress pants or pencil skirt. It's unfortunate (or fortunate) because my guy loves it. Sometimes, he noticed that I've lost weight by simply "measuring" my bottom. -_-;
It's either butt. or breasts. or legs. My fiance is the only one who ever commented that I have a nice back; not too muscular or thin, second to my bottom. >.< I suppose it's better than my fiance loving big breasts when I don't have large breasts and hating myself for that....
I don't get it. Men like boobs and butts. They do. Women like chests and butts and arms, etc. I wouldn't want to date a guy who didn't like my boobs. And if a guy has girly arms, I'm probably not going to date him. And if he has a girly ass, I'm totally gonna be turned off.
Not all straight guys like big butts or big boobs, so there is a guy out there somewhere who likes what a girl has.
the ugly truth is that the only time you will ever get a person to notice your personality first is through the internet.
Is this just guys to girls? Because I believe the complete opposite, on my own experience. The only questionably attractive guys I've been with are the ones I met in person first and wowed me with their personality. I can extremely shallow when I do online dating, and won't go out with a guy, no matter how nice his personality seems online, if I don't find him at least cute. Someone's personality can't even really be known until you meet them in person, or AT LEAST talk on the phone or on Skype. It is so easy to be a completely different person when you are typing on the screen than you are in real life.
I'm also pretty sure most guys messaged me when I used online dating because they found me attractive initially, and then thought I MIGHT be cool based on my profile. They didn't have the slightest idea what I was really like, personality-wise, until meeting me.
I guess what you say applies to weirdos who have online relationships without knowing what each other looks like. And I still don't think either of them fully know each other's personalities by just IMing back and forth, and nothing else.
and whats new now?
@TiredSoVeryTired@xanga - So true! I've met a few guys who don't like big butts and prefer smaller boobs to bigger one. Though I've yet to meet a guy who wasn't white who preferred women without much in the way of curves... So it seems that is more cultural.
, I think it totally makes sense that each gender is attracted to something... Even if we don't see it this way now, biology is still at play! I mean, in the same way women hate that most men tend to go for a big butt (big hips generally mean a greater baby-bearing abilities), men hate that women tend to go for successful men... But then back in the way long ago women needed a man to take care of her. Now, well... women can take care of themselves, and of course plenty of women with small hips get pregnant, but you can't just undo thousands of years of conditioning in the course of a century!