This post was submitted anonymously.I've been friends with this guy since the beginning of the semester. What's awesome is that I knew from the beginning that we would be great friends because the first time I spoke to him he busted out laughing at one of my jokes. Not too many people do that or even consider them to be that funny, so I knew that we would be good friends. Having similar tastes in humor is a really big factor for me in my friendships and that instantly connected us.
After inviting him to a few of my art shows and outings however, I noticed that he had a girlfriend. I did have a slight crush on him at the beginning of the school year, but I figured that I should probably let it fade for our the sake of our friendship.
However, the day of my last art show (which I didn't even mention to him since we haven't been talking much recently at school), he called me up. He said he heard I was having a show and was going to make it. When I arrived I saw him there, and he didn't have his girlfriend, but another guy friend. I didn't really think much about it.
After some time, most of my friends left and his friend left as well. It was just him and I and another good friend of mine. We stayed at the art show and began to have a few drinks and listened to the bands that were playing. We were actually having a pretty great time together with lots of laughs. Overall we all had so much fun.
There was a moment, however, where I stole his cigarette from him. When I gave it back to him, his lips touched my finger, twice. I was unsure if this was a flirting gesture? Since I just got done getting over him, I was really trying to only see that he did not do this intentionally. I've been trying to stop thinking about it but for some reason I keep replaying it in my mind. When I saw him again today in college, he was smiling at me a lot and being sort of flirtatious in a way.
One of my friends says that he was flirting with me and that he does like me. But is it too soon to tell?
I'm not sure if he likes me or just wants to be friends? What do you guys think? Should I just ride it out and see if time will tell? I'm just going to keep my cool about it, however it is hard to study at the moment when that is all I think about. Thanks, teenage hormones for not working in my favor!
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1) You need to find out if he's still with his gf or not. If he is, please be respectful and know your boundaries. If not, he's fair game.
2) If you're going to be putting a cigarette back into his mouth, his lips making contact with your finger is going to happen realistically.
If he's single, there's nothing wrong with talking to him about your feeling instead of guessing his every motive for everything.
I think you're reading too much into everything. You're trying to find signs of him liking you in everything that he does.
I know what your going through. From what I read, I think the feelings are mutual. I guess keeping your cool would be the safest thing to do.
I am totally going through this right now. Except I know he's single. Just don't know if he's interested in me too...
Well, like the first comment says, if he doesn't have a girlfriend, then it's time to jump on board and get flirty with him! You don't want to lose out on a wonderful relationship with someone so compatible thinking "what if" all your life because you didn't make the move.
you reading way too much into his behavior.
What did you expect would happen if you put your hand within a centimeter of his lips? You're kind of reaching there.
This doesn't sound like flirting at all. It sounds like your feelings for him are attempting to justify his behaviour as flirtatious. Don't read into it too much and try to find a guy more accessible.
make sure you're not a rebound and make sure he's actually broken up
Sounds like you need to find out if he's still with his girlfriend and then all of your anxiety will solve itself and then you'll know how to respond to him better.
ride it out. It could mean something or nothing. People sometimes flirt gently (which this is) just for fun, not to lead anyone on, but just as a sweet simple exchange of energy. He might like you, even think you are interesting, but not care to date you. It's still a compliment, so enjoy that aspect of it, even if it goes nowhere.
I'm in a similar situation with a crush and I know I read way too much into every subtle thing he says and does to me. Though some of it IS clearly flirting, it might be just a little flirting and nothing more. He knows I like him and knows he could play that option if he wanted to. He has an on again off again gf. Wish I could crush on someone else.
Since you two are friends, ask him how he is, how's his gf, etc. Easy way to find out if he's single now. Then, you can decide what to do from there.
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If a guy likes you and he's a real man, he'll make sure you know it including that he's single. No guessing game.
You're reading way too much into everything. Seriously.
Definitely over analyzing. If he likes you--and is worth your time--he will make a definitive move. If not, he won't.
None of the things you talk about are definitive moves, just so you know.
He definitely likes you. That may not mean he wants to date you, but he definitely thinks about you. Some comments write that you're over analyzing his moves - I disagree. "Accidentally" touching your fingers with his lips is not a coincidence. Calling you the night of your show is not a coincidence. If a guy is not into a girl, he's not going to want to touch any part of her. He wants to touch you and be around you. However, be careful because he might still be taken
orhe might be looking for a good time, not a relationship. Only time will tell. You have to wait it out and let him ask you out. If he's single, it sounds like he'll ask you out very soon.
If he liked you, he'd be single, and you'd know about it.