Sunday, 13 November 2011
My story is pretty simple, in that...Girl falls for boy, boy falls for girl. They date, break up, but never travel far from each other. What I mean by this is, physically, nothing changed.So pretty much, Simon* and I met about 10 months ago when we wound up in the same dorm at University. We hit it off pretty fast and grew very close. At the time of beginning Uni, I was still very involved with Tom* and wasn't even considering moving on from him. However, Simon allowed me to do this, he proved to me that not all boys were like Tom and I ended up falling for him like any girl would. We had a really good relationship (short, but good). It wasn't until one night when I spoke to him about him acting distant that all of that changed.
We spoke and cried and deliberated and cried some more, until it was obvious that we had broken up. I cried all night, for the following 2 weeks. I was so upset. After this I had 4 weeks away from him where my plan was to move on, completely. I thought I was successful at this, until I returned to Uni and had a bit to much to drink and ended up back where I began, in his bed.This continued to happen all semester, so much so, that at one point, I was drinking primarily to end up with him, which my bank balance and liver were not happy about! He made me feel so special and precious that I just kept missing him more and more, so much so that I took so many steps back and ended up back to the emotional stability of the night we broke up.A few weeks ago Uni ended for good and we said our goodbyes and both planned to move on. It wasn't until last week when I texted him telling him that he can't drunk text or call me anymore, because I need to move on and in order for me to be able to do this, I needed to cut off all ties with him. I told him that I still wanted him more than anything but I felt that he was moving on and I wanted the chance to do this too. It wasn't until I said this that he told me he still loved me. He told me everything I wanted to hear, that he misses me so much and never wanted to break up but thought it was for the best. Pretty much everything I thought he had been feeling is exactly how he thought I'd been feeling.So my dilemma now is, distance. If we get back together we won't be seeing each other (realistically - we may see each other once or twice) until February 2012, when Uni starts back. I'm worried about starting off in a long distance relationship and how it will turn out. I don't want to make any mistakes this time. But then my other option is waiting til Uni starts. Pros Vs. Cons.Getting together now:
PROS:- We'd be together again.- The distance could make us stronger.- It will be more special when we do finally meet up again.
CONS:- He's 10 hours north of Sydney.- I don't get to see him.- Phone sex isn't great.- I'll miss him more than I do.- The distance will be too hard and we'll end it on the basis of that.Waiting:
PROS:- We'll actually spend time together whilst were dating.- No distance.- Sex.
CONS:- I have to wait 3 more months before I get him.- We could end up falling for someone else.- 3 months is a long time to wait for someone.- I hate waiting.- I've waited this long for him that 3 more months feels unbearable.I really don't know, I want to start it all now and deal with the distance but I'm worried he won't and he'll fall for some other girl. I really need to talk to him, but I guess I just wanted some stories of anyone who has had to deal with a similar situation, or is currently in a LDR and could give me some advice.Just an added extra is that we have numerous breaks throughout the year, so we'd have to get used to being apart as well. AND he's doing policing at Uni which is only 2 years, whereas my course is 4 years, and after 2 more years he would be going to Goulburn for 8 months for police training and that is a fair way away from me. I think whatever happens distance is going to be a big issue with this relationship, I am up for it because he's worth it though.What to do....