Saturday, 12 November 2011
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Quick on the Draw
As a freshman in college I have already found out a lot about myself and a lot about people. I started off my year not looking for anyone to be serious with, but just to have a little fling with. I had my sights set on this extremely cute football player on my floor at first, but I knew that he was probably way out of my league. On the other hand there was this guy who was on the rodeo team in my animal science class that I found quite attractive as well. Turns out I learned not to jump in head (or heart) first in any situation.
The rodeo guy asked me if I wanted to go out to where he kept his horse to ride. Well of course I do, I miss my horse, and he's cute. Win, Win. Probably one of the most romantic dates I had ever been on. I mean he picks me up, in his amazing dually Dodge, and he takes me out to the cutest horse boarding stables ever. To add onto the atmosphere, it began to rain. Perfect, I know.
Then we rode and talked for hours about so many different things. He seemed to be perfect, or so I thought. I mean he was interested in everything I was interested in, he rode horses, he appreciated them, he had his future all figured out, but needless to say, he was a different kind of person. Later that night, due to my need of a fling, I took the leap a little too soon. After we did the deed, he asked me,
"So does this mean we're dating now?" Oh my God, what have I gotten myself into? That's the only thing that ran through my mind.
"I don't know." Seriously, I didn't know if I wanted that. A chain of events ran through my head. What if I actually have a chance with Austin (the football boy)? What if I'm jumping the gun? What if..What if..What if..
The next day as I log onto Facebook the rodeo guy (Adam) sent me a friend request. Good deal, I'll add him, I mean it's the least I can do. No more than two seconds later do I get a wall post. "♥" from Adam. I was a little freaked out by this yes, but then five minutes later I see that he has changed his relationship status and just as that happened, I had a notification for a relationship request. Too much for me to handle! That wasn't when I decided to get rid of him though.
I decided to give him a chance because that's what I would want someone to do for me. Then a few days later, he dropped the 3 word phrase. Talk about quick on the draw. Yes, he said it, "I love you." I never felt the same way about him and yet I still continued with this ridiculous relationship.
I unfortunately went along with it 1 month but had to end it. Needless to say, I have learned my lesson to give things time.
Have you ever been quick on the draw?
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This is why you don't sleep with someone after the first date.
NO relationship I had in High School was I THAT quick to say I love you, or reciprocate.
The only relationship that moved WAY quickly, oddly quickly, was the relationship with my husband. We both just knew and neither one of us held back. It was dangerous and could have ended badly - which is why I'll never recommend to my son to move as quickly as we did - but it didn't and I'm SO happy to be with him today - 5 years later. :)
MOST of the time, though, moving too quickly is a relationship killer.
hahaha I JUST got out of something like that. Except I didn't sleep with him...I just kissed him on the first date. He seemed nice and all of that, but I wasn't sure if I wanted a relationship with him.
Then we made out some more and three days later, he asked me if we were dating. Like you, I thought: okay, he's a nice guy. Why not give him a chance?
A week later, he spills the "I love you." I didn't feel the same way, but continued with the relationship for two months.
Then, I realized my mistake and broke up with him.
Lesson learned, indeed. It's best for all of us if we're just honest with each other.
Seems so obvious, but I guess it doesn't really sink in until you're faced with the ugly consequences of your mistakes...
this has nothing to do with going in too fast. the guy's just way too fucking emotional.
I laughed reading this because I went through a similar situation my sophomore year of college. Guy seems too good to be true, but suddenly wants a deep commitment within a few days. Haha, no thank you! I don't think it had anything to do with you sleeping with him so quickly though-- he's just an emotional guy. It happens.
don't go on a date, talk for hours and feel a connection if you plan on having a casual fling. you may be able to separate the emotional attachment, but he couldn't.
Yep...I met a guy who was looking for a roommate so I moved in. A wk later we slept together, the following week he said those "3" words and a month later he convinced me to move 3 1/2 hours away from the only home (and family) I had known. Two months later we broke up. He became needy, controling, insecure (accusing me of cheating), punched holes in the wall and loved loud verbal confrontations....things were esclating so I left his sorry ass in that city!
I would have had an anxiety attack and started hyperventilating once he said I love you. Did you say it back?!
HAHAHAHA. Oh boy. That would have freaked me out too.
He sounds too eager. Super turn off.
I remember my freshmen year I went on a date with a guy and he said he'd take me around Chicago since I was new to it. Well we ended up at his parents house, just in time for dinner. That was our last date...
I dated a guy who wanted to go much faster than I did. We started off as a casual fling, until he pushed for us to have a relationship. From there on, he talked about marriage, and tried to force me to move out of the country for him! It's a lesson I think we all have to learn.
dayummmm well you've learned you lesson hahaha poor you!
trololololol
Okay this is definitely tricky. You probably shouldn't have gone on a nice romantic date with him if you weren't looking for a romantic thing. Thats in the past however. And he really jumped on you didn't he? Just gotta be straight forward with him at this point and hope for the best. Good luck :)
Aww, you had a fling with Ted Mosby!
It's never to early to say "I Love You" and actually mean it. If he is just saying because he has no notion of what loving is, then yeah, too early and immature on his part, and will probably end up clingy. Cut the baby bird early to avoid hurting it later on. Or at least set the record straight, though he will be pissed and ask why now. I'd rather get an early I love you that means something, than never hear those words in a meaningless relationship.
Did you take his v-card?