My ex cheated on me for another girl, after my last bad relationship. I swore I wouldn't be in another relationship again. It was then, that I met R. He is so different from all the boyfriends I've had. He is a very patient and good hearted man. We both felt a connection. It had been hard for us since we're always in a long distance relationship. We're at least 7+hours apart from each other but we don't mind, since we both love each other very much and we'll try to keep close contact online or away through Skype, MSN and texting.
We could talk about almost anything and even plan on being together in the future.
We have been really close but he suddenly got really busy. We started to have lesser chats and no texting. And some days we wouldn't even talk at all. The sudden change made me feel horrible and confused. So about a month ago, we broke up. It devastated the both of us. It was the hardest decision that I have ever made. After the loss, I tried to ask for him back because I regretted every bit of what I had done.
He doesn't get back together and he just wants us to stay as friends. He said he still cares but no love. And he hasn't been seeing anyone else. After the break-up, we haven't been talking to each other. I tried to keep myself busy with school and move on. Just recently, his best friend told me that he decided to join the army. After hearing the news, I got a mix of emotions.
If he plans to join, he will be gone for more than a year at least.
Until now, I still love him very much and I wouldn't even mind waiting for him. Should I tell him how I feel?
But I'm not ready for another rejection again, and I won't be ready to see someone new.
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well if you really feel that way you should talk to him about it... cheating in my book is never a good thing
Honestly I think that you just need to move on. He is obviously going in his own direction in life, and he has chosen to do it solo. I think it would be better for you to do the same. you could tell him how you feel if you think it will make you feel better, but i do not think that it will change the situation. I think that he has made it apparent that he has made up his mind.
Omg. He said he doesn't love you. Stop trying to make him fall for you again.
honestly if that is how you feel then you need to tell him... otherwise you will just sit around doing the whole "what if" thing and living with all that regret. Even if he doesn't feel the same atleast it is off your chest and you tried.
As they say "He's just not that into you" and he tried to tell you in a nicer way.
Tell him with the idea that you'll probably just be moving on. If you tell him, you'll never have to wonder the "what ifs". Good luck!
He already knows how you feel... you've told him already, he turned you down.
He doesn't like you. :( Sorry.
sounds like it's over. if he's meant to come to you he will.
It's time to move on. ;(
He said he doesn't love you and doesn't want to get back together. So...what is there to wait for? Time to move on.
Remember him.
I wouldn't wait for a year unless I was at a higher level, such as being engaged to a guy and we see a future together. in your case, it is one sided feelings, so I personally don't think it is worth it. it seems like the 7+ hours apart made you feel closer to him, but it didn't cause him to have deeper feelings, but he drifted apart, probably because the connection wasn't as strong on his side versus yours.
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I can't decide for you, but I think staying away from him sounds like a good idea especially since he's already expressed that he's no longer interested. Being single doesn't have to be a bad thing, especially just for a while. You might find someone who will return your love!
Tell him. No matter the reaction he gives you, the what if's will kill you if you don't speak your mind.
Be honest now, or you'll regret not telling him later. Telling him how you feel will help you move on if he makes it clear that he does not want a relationship.
Nope just move on! If he were really interested in you then you would be together still, and would have been a part in his decision! You didnt even find out from him it was a friend of his, he doesnt even see you as important enough to inform. You will find someone new even if it takes you some time, you deserve somone who is as intersted in you as you are in them. Long distance is also really complicated, you will likely just end up upset when he doesnt call or write you every chance he gets. Not to mention the trouble he is going to be getting into with the girls in town. Its time to let go!
I stopped reading after "lesser texts." FEWER TEXTS* you mean. Jesus. Christ.
Forget everyone here telling you to just "move on" or whatever. If you love him, remember him.
It wouldn't hurt to express how you feel to him. It's better than keeping it to yourself for the rest of your life. You already have regrets about breaking up with him. You not telling him how you feel will most likely create more regret, and it will make things harder on yourself. Tell him how you feel. If he's accepting, then great! If he's not, that's okay too. You'll find someone better. Either way, you'll get it out of your system and you'll feel better about it and not live regretting that you didn't tell him.
If you've already expressed your feelings to him, becuase you said you tried getting him back, then its kinda obvious that hes taken a different path in his life and sadly it doesn't involve you. This just sounds like a normal break up. Get some ice cream, watch man hating movies and cartoons. Let yourself move on to find somebody who is worth your time. :)
You're getting what you deserve. You broke up with a man because things weren't your picture perfect little idea of long distance struggling love. Shame on you, and learn not to repeat such bloody foolishness.
I am man, and I have spoken on this issue.
toucan tell him if you need to but it sounds like you already did and he said he don't live you. you definately need to move on.. especially if it's really true u can't handle another rejection bc honestly it looks like that's what you're setting yourself up for now. sorry
Long distance relationships are really just fantasy. How do you know exactly what the other person is doing and what he/she telling you is true when you're so far apart from each other? Can you really be 100% sure that it's all real? Or are you just trying to convince yourself into thinking that it's real. Really, I think you deserve better, you deserve someone better. If you really want him back, then tell him your feelings and be strong with the outcome. That's what love is all about, risking it and having courage in what you want to go after. Take all this as an experience, you will only benefit from it in the end. Most important, love yourself. Best regards.
He's just not that into you, sorry. I had the same experience with my ex-boyfriend and he only lived a ten minute drive from my house. It's best if you cut your losses and accept that it's over.