Tuesday, 08 November 2011
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Ending the Date
It ended with a kiss, handshake, slightly awkward hug. Which is a shame really. The date was wonderful. It was a spur of the moment thing. One second we were chatting on the phone on our ways home from our different places of business, the next we were on our way to meet up at a great late night coffee spot. It was open mic night so our conversation went on against the backdrop of loud singing and guitars. Nevertheless, it was engaging and pleasant, we talked about a little of everything and it was a good time. I walked her to her car when the place was closing and... THE QUESTION:How does a great date end when you don't subscribe to kissing on the first date?
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With a smile and a warm hug. Kissing is too situational, a hug is good all around.
And if the date was as wonderful as you said, it shouldn't matter. If anything it'll be something you two can laugh about.
Usually, a hug and something along the lines of "I had a really great time tonight." would suffice; sometimes, holding both hands can add a little more to it. Then, contact her the next day to remind her of what a great time you had and to set up another date; none of this silly 3-day waiting game. At least, that's how I would approach.
I think every great date should end with a kiss. otherwise it just feels like any other regular hangout. When you do go for the kiss. TAKE YOUR TIME. DO NOT RUSH. I made the mistake of rushing it and ended up kissing her on the cheek. It felt rushed and I didn't even make eye contact. Definitely take a few seconds to make eye contact with her then if it feels right, kiss her. DON"T MAKE THE SAME MISTAKE I DID!!
@laytexduckie@xanga - What he said. Though I did wait until my husband contacted me first after our date bc.. let just say, we didn't end the night with just a hug.
I guess it's situational. With your scenario a kiss sees good, but this begs the question on what's your take on kissing on the first date?
A hug and a kiss on the cheek.
a nice warm hug:3 thats what ive always found at least. different for everyone id imagine. i just love a big hug after-
Warm tight hug, break the hug still holding hands, stare at eachother eyes, smiling and let go
I think a hug is good for the end of a date. First kisses are awkward no matter what date in my opinion.
a lengthy hug. yeah my first bf made it through a whole month without kissing me. then we kissed. once.
i think that it depends on the date ... & you made it sound pretty damn amazing but i guess if you don't want to swap spit then a long hug would suffice? perhaps suggesting that you should go out again, text/ call later ?
hmm.. yeah i've been on a few dates... before i never did-- so i didn't know what to expect. >_>
but yeah after this one spontaneous "date"
More like we randomly met that night-- (knew of each other months before, never officially met)
He invited me to go celebrate SF giants 2010 world series championships---
And I went along with him and his friends.
He dropped me off at home--
But I wasn't sure HOW to exactly say goodbye to each other--
SO I just left quickly-- and he did too.
BUT---
It just didn't feel right-- and he didn't feel right either--
So next thing I know, I got a text from him--
And he actually turned back around and parked outside my house.
So then I went out to his car without hesitation.
We talked for hours, listening to music-- gazing at the sky through his roof top.
We laughed, we smiled, he held my hand.
Oh god, it was just absolute bliss-- and perfect.
And at the same time, we leaned in sync for that perfect kiss.
And holy shit---- it was amazing.
But I've been on dates after that with other guys---
And I do not kiss on the first date EVER.
The last guy (from above) --- was the only exception.
Only because it felt so right-- and I never felt that way for someone.
*SIGH*
Oh well my rule is--
Kissing is my make it or break it.
If he sucks at it --- turn off/it's over.
If he's good? -- well... it's on. LOL.
The last guy I was with.. well he had the best kiss I've ever had.
I've kissed 8 guys in my life-- 3 were forced by 3 different ppl at different years. they both sucked.
4 were actual boyfriends -- only 1 was good at kissing.
and 1 was the last guy I've mentioned.
why don't you subscribe to kissing on the first date? what kind of arbitrary rule is that?
i don't understand not wanting to kiss at the end of a great date, even if it's the first. i have great friend dates that don't end with a kiss...because they're friends. if it's a romantic date, there should be a kiss. not saying you have to make out, but even a quick peck on the lips and a hug make it clear that there's romantic intent without the potential awkwardness of a first real kiss.
@bitterx0sweet - Finally, voice of reason - my new favorite person of the day :)
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I would say a great warm hug and maybe a peck on the cheek :)
I always do a pleasant hug, not too long though because that can lead to the kiss....sooo.....yeah :)
"How does a great date end when you don't subscribe to kissing on the first date?"
With there being no second date.
What ever happened to never kissing on the first date?
To avoid being rude, I will omit the first thought that came to my mind; "Who the fuck shakes hands with a date?"
Kiss on the first date. You need to show that you're in control of the situation. A simple kiss will do. Most women expect it and think something is wrong if you don't.
@Chibi_Son_Gokou@xanga - I went on a date with a guy once who has just got home from serving a two year mission for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. He hadn't been romantically involved with many girls before his mission, and had only been home for a couple of months when we went out. He wasn't really used to hugging girls so at the end of our date, he shook my hand, then gave me the single most uncomfortable hug i've ever had. i guess my situation is a little different than most, but handshakes definitely DO happen.
Mmm...I usually don't kiss on the first date except for occasional "sample kisses" (skilled and flirtatious but nothing too serious). A hug, "I had a really good time", and maybe a kiss on the cheek seem to be sufficient.
This one guy texted me the next day after our date and said, "I really regret not kissing you."
It was sweet and showed he was thinking of me. :)