Friday, 04 November 2011
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Don't Settle Ladies
Ladies, do not settle for a guy. Wait for the guy that will...
1. Text you every morning when he wakes up and every night before he goes to bed.
2. Will call you midday just to ask how your day is going so far.
3. Will stay home some nights and hangout with you, instead of going out with the boys.
4. Will stop playing video games when you come over.
5. Will take you out on dates any day of the week.
6. Will make time for you even when he thinks he doesn't have time for himself.
7. Introduces you to not only his friends, but family too.
8. Tells the truth, not just the half truth.
9. Will do something nice for you even when there's no special occasion.
10. Will send you flowers! (I've always wanted a guy to do this for me)
11. Make you smile when all you want to do is frown.
12. Make you soup when you're sick.
13. Tells you how he feels about you, and doesn't leave you just guessing.
14. Will chase after you.
15. Will talk his problems out with you, not just keeping it all in.
16. Will hold your hand, kiss your cheek and tell you that you're beautiful every chance he can.
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ftfy: Remain Single Forever, Ladies!
This is a classic example of double standards.
@kev1nccho1@xanga - How is it a double standard? It would onyl be a double standard if they don't give it in return. Which I know happens quite a bit. But how in what she said did she make it a double standard, she never said she wouldn't do it in return.
I have a man that does a vast majority of this if not all of it at some point and I do the same for him. We do absolutely everything together every chance we get. I have never been on for PDA's, but he makes me feel like I want to hold his hand and he feels the same. I guess its a matter of whether or not you meet the person that actually brings these things out in you.
@malissa1578@xanga - Why would you wait for the "right" guy to come along? It's always refreshing to see a woman taking initiatives. But that's just my opinion.
@kev1nccho1@xanga - I understand your opinion on the waiting comment, but still that doesn't mean its a double standard. I don't quite think that she meant just sit and wait, that really doesn't get you anywhere... what I got from it was that just don't settle for any guy that comes along, but to wait and see who you meet. :) but it comes down to a matter of interpretation once again.
I agree it is refreshing to see the intiative taken. I suppose had I not intiated the date with my SO we would not be where we are today lol. We are getting married. After finding Mr. Wrong so much, I have my Mr. right and I hope he thinks the smae about me. I am pretty sure he does. He express it enough.
Hmmm, seems like a very idealistic view of romance rather than a pragmatic one. It's cute but the right guy has his own life and his own ambitions who shares his life with you, not have it centered around you.
Maybe in an ideal world a man or woman could be all these things all the time. But this is reality. I'm not saying there is no such thing as a genuinely good partner that could come your way but even a good person does bad, lazy or stupid things sometimes-even often. I mean some things on this list should be expected from a partner but other things are way too romanticized and seem like they were written by a teenager.
I held out for my ideal mate. I'm glad I did.
I had a guy like this and he turned out being fake. So now what?
BTW, these things aren't that hard to do. But I guess most of Datingish are lazy/dumb?
And do you think guys want to settle as well? What makes you think guys don't want girls to do that as well?
as a female, that's a bit too much. maybe 75% of these things? you'd have to be shooting gold out of your ass to be treated that way. it's too idealistic and not REALISTIC.
Wow to all of the people who are being negative....saying that this isn't possible. If this isn't possible than my boyfriend must be a ghost!
Firstly, why do you think you deserve all of these things?
1. Text you every morning when he wakes up and every night before he goes to bed. <--- you and he lead different lives. If you are so pathetically clingy you need this, you aren't mature enough for a relationship.
2. Will call you midday just to ask how your day is going so far. <---In a perfect world, EVERYONE would give a shit how you're doing, and you'd give a shit about them. And be not busy enough to call you!
3. Will stay home some nights and hangout with you, instead of going out with the boys. <----- Um, duh? This is like the only reasonable one on there.
4. Will stop playing video games when you come over. <---- How about you pick up a fucking controller and play with him? How can you expect to be together if you can't accept OR share his hobbies? Shit.
5. Will take you out on dates any day of the week. <---Firstly, you should be more careful with your money, and if you are demanding he pay for these dates, HIS money and not expect a lot. The reality is frequent dates don't happen nor should they. Get over it. Get over the clinginess. You need to have a life of your own.
6. Will make time for you even when he thinks he doesn't have time for himself.<---- Excuse you? People have personal needs and your needs are not more important than theirs. This is ridiculously selfish.
7. Introduces you to not only his friends, but family too. <--- If you're a keeper, of course he will.
8. Tells the truth, not just the half truth. <---- Darling, you can't handle the truth. Those pants DO make your ass looks like flubbery fat.
9. Will do something nice for you even when there's no special occasion. <--- Again, you're reaching and wishing. Why do you deserve it? Are you doing something special to gain this? And if not, why would they do something like this? Most guys are not thoughtful if it's just random, and I question the sexuality of one who is (sorry but they might not be into girls).
10. Will send you flowers! (I've always wanted a guy to do this for me) <---- ***Will bring you flowers on Valentine's day.
11. Make you smile when all you want to do is frown. <----- Well if he doesn't hell ignore the shit out of you because you're being a colossal bitch and are bringing him down. You're in control of your own emotions sweetheart!~
12. Make you soup when you're sick. <---- What is he, your mother?! That would be nice but ASK FOR IT, guys aren't mind readers.
13. Tells you how he feels about you, and doesn't leave you just guessing. <--- Keep dreaming.
14. Will chase after you. <--- Not gonna happen. The movies are movies and harlequin romances are harlequin romances for a reason. They aren't reality.
15. Will talk his problems out with you, not just keeping it all in. <--- This is dependent on every single person, and if that's not how they roll, they shouldn't be obligated to spill to you because you're nosy.
16. Will hold your hand, kiss your cheek and tell you that you're beautiful every chance he can.<---- LOL this is the most hilarious. Are you a 14 year old virgin? Because this is utterly hilarious. Guys will tell you you're beautiful when you look outstanding from the norm. Guys usually don't want to hold hands, and will kiss you on the cheek rarely, or if they want to get some.
This list is just dellusional on the whole. You aren't living in reality and it's quite clear you feel you should be treated like a fariytale princess from the movies.
This is a sweet concept, and people should look for the guy/gal who can make them feel as special as this post relates. The only thing is that you shouldn't be blinded by these ideals, because like everyone has said, no one is this perfect.
@haloed@xanga - hahaha you're even more of a sarcastic dick than i am. well done. and huuuge lol at number 8.
op: seriously. i think even sammi would get sick of a guy who did this shit. and i don't think i've ever known or seen a more clingy girl in my life.
I know everyone's talking about how this isn't possible and people shouldn't get thier hopes up...but uh...my boyfriend does all of these things...^.^
Lawlz. You're living a fantasy.
My DAD does these things for my mom, and they've been married over 30 years. Yep, it's possible, and no, I'm not settling. Sure, no one is perfect or able to do all these things every moment, but I believe the general attitude to this is proof that people have been conditioned to have low expectations. The other side, of course, is that the person who expects these things had better be equally giving or even more. Relationships are about selflessness.
My BF does these things <3
@heythereJOANN@xanga - I disagree, since my dad still does these things for my mom, after being together over 30 years.
@ChristinesRants@xanga - Seriously lol. It's not asking for the moon. My BF does all that stuff too. He's awesome :D
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Yea. What do you do for him?
I like this list
You've read my mind!
Ok yeah seriously, one more comment. I just read over other's comments. I feel like the girls talking about how this isn't realistic just don't have BFs or something. This is NOT unrealistic. Maybe not all guys do these things or all of them, but some definitely DO and I am speaking from experience and I think it's the bomb. I think some of you are just bitter and need to chill. I love my BF <3 :)
ALSO! This list isn't about what a GIRL should do for a GUY. OF COURSE you need to do stuff for him too. That doesn't mean he can't do all these things too. Anyway, point is, I have found this "fantasy" guy and he's great. That's all <3