Thursday, 27 October 2011
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Boyfriend Trouble
This post was submitted anonymously.I just turned 14 years old. My boyfriend is 12, 13 next month. We've been dating for over a month! But he surely isn't perfect. People are nasty to him. He is awfully weird, but he is very friendly. Although he isn't the cutest, he is cute and sweet. He knows how to cheer me up, which I love.
So even though he isn't perfect, I don't mind. I wasn't raised to be a snotty girl who judges everyone I see. Besides, no one is perfect. Anyway, he is the sweetest boy and cares about everyone. Although he talks about pink, fluffy dinosaurs and calls himself Mr. Shannay-nay, laughs oddly weird, and runs like a homo, he is so sweet and listens to me when I need it. He's never been in "love" or in a relationship like this, so I understand why it would be weird when we hug.
We both are in a Catholic school, so all we are able to do is hug. You're not allowed to date here, so If the staff finds out, we're in trouble. Anyway, we haven't kissed yet. The closest we've been is hugging. At least one thing isn't on his mind!
He is scared to kiss me, which is sweet, and never makes the first move. But we barely hang out outside of school, which here lies my problem.
A girl named Ocean lives by his condo, and their families are REALLY CLOSE. She is his ex... She goes to his house and condo. They're super close. They kissed underwater, but that's all they did, he claims. I'm jealous, which is natural for me, but I couldn't care less if he wants to be with her, he's 12. He's got years to go, girls to meet, crushes to overcome. Anyway, his mom likes Ocean a lot and she knows him and I are dating.
She seems to like me, but I think she likes Ocean more. My mom is saying that his mom doesn't want him dating, but doesn't wanna tell him so he goes to do the opposite. He tells me he doesn't like Ocean anymore, that she's stupid and weird. I don't know... I just want him to be honest with me. I'm sure he is. But I said they could go out and get married. I was mad... but he looked me in the eyes and asked me how I could say that. Anyway, his mom won't let us hang out... PERIOD. Not alone, or she's afraid it'll turn into a date. I understand, but I assure you, what are we possibly gonna do? My mom will be watching the entire time.
Besides, we both know the consequences of our actions. I think his mom wants him with Ocean and not me. I'm Puerto Rican, so my skin is tan. Ocean is full on blonde. I've never met her, but he sent me a picture of her when we were texting. He is blonde, really blonde. Do you think it could be...? But I've been told they're not racist. I'm so confused. I think I'm gonna break up with him. I've had a depressing week. My dog killed our puppy, which is just... ugh.
But any thoughts? Any?
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Comments (82)
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aww, that's cute. Puppy love at that innocent age in childhood =) Kids grow up so fast nowadays, I didn't discover girls until I got to high school.
You said you don't care if he wants to be with that girl, so why is any of this an issue to you? Why are you even with him?
I lol'd.
please, focus on your studies.
Your bit on canine aggression deserves another entry of its own. And I'm totally with @XoAsianBabioX@xanga on this one--what's more important to you at 14? Having a relationship with a 12-year old which has a low success rate....or focusing on your future?
i concur @NikBv@xanga -
Dont think about him or Ocean, they will not help you in your long life that's ahead of you
What genius decided this was a good idea to post on Datingish...
Here's what's wrong with your relationship...Your 14, he's 12. Neither of you have a clue who you are as people or what you want in life. Figure that out and then get back to me.
Also, your 14...I'm sorry but your going to have a lot of depressing weeks ahead of you. If your going to break up with someone because of a bad week or your puppy died (which I will agree, is awful) then you probably shouldn't be in a relationship with that person, or in general, in the first place.
Honestly, it's not worth the trouble if your parents need to get involved. That alone is not a good sign. End it, move on, go have fun.
Don't ever say that someone "runs like a homo" - what the hell does that even mean? "You run like a straight person!" Exactly.
i'm sorry.... what?
I'm gonna go with... I'm sorry.. what now?!?! I know puppy love is good and adorable, but you shouldn't be having these problems at this age... Maybe wait a few years? And also, concentrate on your studying instead?
O_O... really?
Who names their kid Ocean?
lol
Are we being trolled right now?
Well what does your boyfriend think about his mom stopping you guys from hanging out? If you guys really wanna make this work, you guys will continue to hang onto each other, even when it means to wait.
Btw I just wanna let you know that you guys are awesome at keeping yourselves sexually pure tho. Please keep at it. A relationship like yours is to die for ;)
i stopped reading at "my boyfriend is 12"
stop is this real?
Laughing out loud. Gosh.
not sure if trolling or just o.0
I would relax. If you stress over this you will only push people [him, his mom] away. Take some time to do things you like to do and let him miss you.
Trust me, she's not plotting a wedding for her son with this girl. The only reason she would not like you is if you distract him from important things in his life, or you are a bad influence in terms of introducing him to things that are bad for him like drugs or profanity.
And there are racist people in this world, unfortunately. You must keep trying then to show you do not live up to bad stereotypes they might have, if this really matters to you.
Some things you cannot control. That is the most important thing to remember, you can only control so much and the rest is up for God to determine. That applies to other people's feelings about you and how they feel about other people.
Whooooooooooooaaa o.0... are 12 year olds even suppose to be on site like this? Hmmmm...when I was your age I was playing www.neopets.com . Time have changed.
Stop worrying about the other girl, and the guy you like should not be sending you pictures of other girls. That's inconsiderate of your feelings. And don't use "homo" to describe his running as derogatory term.That's just plain rude and offensive to those that are homosexual.
Is this for real? You say you love your boyfriend, but then bring him down by saying "he runs like a homo." You're only fourteen ... just like you say he has years to go, so do you.
Wut lol.