All of a Sudden He Quit Talking to Me

Thursday, 27 October 2011

All of a Sudden He Quit Talking to Me

So I met this guy in college, and he asked for my number and we started talking everyday, all day. We actually had a lot in common. He was saying very sweet things to me which made me think that he wanted to be more than friends. So one night I went to his house to hang out with him and his friends and things went great. All of his friends liked me I thought, and he even kissed me. I ended up spending the night but we did not hook up.

Things in the morning were great. He covered me up when he got up, and I even hung around 'till he had to go to class the next morning. When I left, my friend that I had come with said, "He has to like you." After that, he never texted me again and I still haven't talked to him since. It just doesn't make sense. I've texted him a couple of times and no response. I really started to like him.

Anyone have any idea of why this happened or what went wrong?
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That...doesn't make any sense to me, actually. Unless, of course, he's just a nice guy who just wanted a cuddle buddy for a night or whatever. But you'd think if he were a nice guy, he'd have at least clarified the point... I'm stumped.
- 10/27/2011 4:34 PM
- Wait_by_Moonlight@xanga (message)
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hmmmm that is super weird. the only thing i can think of is maybe he did like you but started dating someone else, which is why he is not answering you. but you would think he would just be like "hey, i'm dating someone now." but then he could be a coward lol....this is going to sound bad but have you facebook stalked him yet? maybe you can see if he is with someone since he won't answer u. or u could also just give up and move on. up to you.
- 10/27/2011 4:40 PM
- lemons_to_lemonade@xanga (message)
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maybe he thought it was bad that you spent the night--whether you have hooked up with him or not--and something changed in his brain... a switch went off? or he just got busy.

JUST ASK HIM what's UP. If he still doesn't answer your text or your call, then move on. Something is definitely missing here...
- 10/27/2011 4:51 PM
- kor_girl@xanga (message)
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if something like that happens, only text once
if he doesnt respond it could mean many things... 1) emotionally unavailable 2) literally unavailable 3) didnt work 4) met someone else.... etc etc. in reality the reasons dont really matter, if he doesnt respond the first time forget about it and continue meeting other people who wont run away after the first sleepover.
- 10/27/2011 5:14 PM
- xxfl1@xanga (message)
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How long has it been? I agree with everything that everybody else has said, or maybe his phone got shut off?
- 10/27/2011 5:26 PM
- LoveeeLikeASunset@xanga (message)
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Sounds like he wanted sex, and he was disappointed that nothing happened and decided that it wasn't worth his time.
- 10/27/2011 5:29 PM
- written_conversations@xanga (message)
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didn't you read the other post? he died.
- 10/27/2011 5:34 PM
- TheNotoriousGOD@xanga (message)
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idk guys are weird...maybe play a little hard to get but just the right amount and see if he calls you. guys are complicated beings, they want you to be available but not too available. i'm confused too. maybe talk to him when he finally answers and ask him.
- 10/27/2011 5:57 PM
- superGchik@xanga (message)
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I did that to a girl once. She was really nice, and really good at blow jobs. She was also really fat *hangs head in shame*.
- 10/27/2011 6:16 PM
- ItIsAllGravy@xanga (message)
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Honestly anything could have happened. It could be as simple as he didn't pay for this month's cell phone bill to being something more complicated like the fact that he might want to suddenly take a brake from talking to you. Just don't push it.
- 10/27/2011 6:44 PM
- lilblucherrygrl@xanga (message)
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my BOYFRIEND did this too me for a week.
guys are just fucking weird.
- 10/27/2011 6:48 PM
- tomuch2askfor@xanga (message)
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gosh...i hate how we tend to make excuses because we refuse to see the damn truth. if this guy was really into you he would have went out of his way to show it or the very least respnded. I get where you are coming from, I'm in a similar situation as you and really should take my own advice. But besides the point, if you need that closure, ask him and move on. That way you are going through the "what ifs?"
- 10/27/2011 7:02 PM
- scribbles (message)
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Something very similar happened to me. I was going on dates with a guy and we were having a great time and he was actively pursuing me.. hand-holding, kissing, etc. Then suddenly he just became totally disinterested. Not a good feeling :/
- 10/27/2011 8:03 PM
- lifeonacitybusem4@xanga (message)
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Some guys in college are like that. I had a very similar situation a few years ago. I never heard from the guy again, until he walked out of my suitemate's bedroom one morning. He was just looking to hookup. I'm not saying the guy you know is necessarily a player, but he's clearly not interested in a long term relationship with you. Find someone who makes time for you :), you deserve it!
- 10/27/2011 8:08 PM
- Vanillesence@xanga (message)
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@tomuch2askfor@xanga - did he give you an explanation at the end of it? I'd love to hear how he got out of that one!
- 10/27/2011 8:25 PM
- written_conversations@xanga (message)
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@written_conversations@xanga - ok so heres the whole story. my boyfriend doesnt have texting, and we dont talk often. but i called him Last tuesday.. no answer no call back. waited. called him friday no answer no call back. called saturday... no answer no call back. CALLED ON FUCKING PRIVATE HE ANSWERED FIRST FUCKING RING. sounded like a girl in the background, i hung up. he called me and hour later at 12:30 at night and I was like "um hey" he was like "hey" I was like "so are you like mad at me... or are we cool?" and he was like no im not mad at you were cool. and then he came over and it was slightly awkward.
- 10/27/2011 8:33 PM
- tomuch2askfor@xanga (message)
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Shouldn't have stayed the night no matter what vibes he was giving you.
- 10/27/2011 8:55 PM
- Kill_GaryLarson@xanga (message)
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@ItIsAllGravy@xanga - MUAHAHAHA.
- 10/27/2011 10:58 PM
- eindomitus@xanga (message)
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@tomuch2askfor@xanga - Oh no noooo. Stand up for yourself. I know how it is, dealing with dishonesty ugh....the sooner it ends the better.
- 10/27/2011 11:01 PM
- eindomitus@xanga (message)
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Move on..as confusing as that is. This guy's behavior doesn't make sense.. But, if he wanted to hang out with you again, he'd let you know. There are many other guys out there. And, there's one or more waiting just for you.
Christy
- 10/27/2011 11:13 PM
- greatredwoman@xanga (message)
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Uh, yeah, move on, moron.
- 10/27/2011 11:20 PM
- bloggicus_maximus@xanga (message)
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Sounds like you were one of two girls; one of them put out, one of them did not-decision made.
That's just a theory but sadly very likely.
Another good theory is that it was just too boyfriend/girlfriend-y, and at the end of the day that wasn't what he wanted and he got freaked and ran.
Either way, you deserve better-the right guy won't want to confuse you or make you chase him. And there ARE right guys out there.
- 10/27/2011 11:33 PM
- heyitsjuliet@xanga (message)
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@tomuch2askfor@xanga - He is sketchy, you are not. Stand up for yourself and get out, girl! That's not fair of you to have to put up with.
- 10/27/2011 11:34 PM
- heyitsjuliet@xanga (message)
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you were way too easy. I've ignored guys many times because of this.
- 10/27/2011 11:54 PM
- anonymiaous@xanga (message)
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You didn't have sex with him...he got turned off.
- 10/27/2011 11:59 PM
- testyman666@xanga (message)
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