Sunday, 23 October 2011
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The Ex, Nice Guy, or the Best Friend. Help!
Since September I have been dating quite a few guys at one time. Here lately I decided what I was doing was very wrong to all that was involved so I decided I needed to pick one. I have narrowed it down from five guys to three amazing guys. I need help deciding who I need to choose.
Guy 1: THE EX
We have been dating off and on since Dec. of 2010. He is good looking, popular, he makes me happy and everything. We have some great memories and of course some not so good memories. He has a great personality and I get along with his family quite well.(Now on to the flaws) My mom absolutely hates him. She refuses to let us be together which makes it tough on us. and lately we have done nothing but argue. Also he has no job, I am the type of girl who likes to pay for her own but it would be nice to know that if I needed help he could be there.
He has also gotten caught sending pictures to another girl...you may say why would you even be talking to this boy and honestly I don't know. I really love him and the way he makes me feel. I get some crazy butterflies over him.
Guy 2: THE NICE GUY
I met this boy about a month ago. As soon as we met we hit it off pretty well. He has big dreams and is definitely going somewhere in life. I love how he is always there for me and just wants me to be happy. He cares a lot for me. He is good with family and friends and and also good looking. And the most important thing about him is his promises. If he promises me something he never breaks it, and I absolutely adore that.
Now on to the flaws. He lives about an hour and a 30 minutes away. I have never been good with long distance relationships but he really wants this to work out and has come to see me many times. Also, he does not have the best background. He grew up with a hard childhood and ended up getting kicked outta school at a low grade level. This scares me for the future because of work and stuff. And if my mom finds out she will definitely not approve.
And finally,
Guy 3: THE BEST FRIEND
This boy has been in my life since the 6th grade. We have been best friends forever and I honestly love him with all my heart. He makes me laugh, smile, man he does it all. He is funny and good looking also. My mom loves him too. The problem is I don't know if he feels the same way I do. We flirt a little but I don't know if that's just our good friendship. I don't want to risk our friendship. I'd rather love him inside rather than tell him how I feel and him freak out and our friendship be ruined. He also knows I have been sort of a player lately and I think that would put him against dating me.
I really need help. I have asked my friends and family what to do and they always choose the one they want me with so hopefully someone on here can help me out. Please and thank you.
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Comments (101)
Don't let your mommy dictate your love life.
@Anonymous - I agree, your mother cannot tell you who to love... Spanky.
maybe they will choose for you.
Ah, a ditz who lets everyone she knows poke around and have a say in her love life. I'm sure they all want you so bad!!!
damn and i can't seem to get a date. -_-
You haven't considered the fireman.
i have to disagree with some commenters. mommy knows best and wants the best for her daughter and has good reasons for disliking the first guy. idk perhap none of the above? ldrs and bff turn bf aren't ideal imo.
Been through all
no, no, yes. The ex needs to go, the nice guy lives too far, and the last one sounds good but you won't know til you ask him if he feels the same. =) If he doesn't work out, move on. =D
Tell your ex to just get a job do he can support himself and try to make it work out.
Oh, great. I got teleported back to high school.
@Flashy_Starter - Agreed. (*so)
@katethoughts@xanga - Not to mention that most of the commenters are looking to troll.
@Chibi_Son_Gokou@xanga - says the troll
I'd go with the best friend...or the nice guy. You broke up with your ex for a reason, and he seems to be treating you like dirt. Not worth pretty bugs with wings.
The nice guy wants it to work, which means he wont be very liekely to cheat on you, and sinc he'll [ut in effort to visit, it's really up to whether you need him to see you more often or if you just simply want to see him more often. Either answer to that is fine, but how you feel about yor answer can determine the outcome as far as his physical prescence is concerned.
And for your best friend...make sure he knows that you know what you're doing is wrong. Since you've been friends for so long, he'll know you're being sincere and he'll easily forgive you, I'm sure. And if you decide on him over the others, then you have potential for something truly great. It's up to how mature you both are in terms of emotions and relationships; if you were to break it off, would you be able to act like nothing (or nothing dramatic and soul-rushing) happened? Would he? I think a good way to tell is 1) can you handle friendships with exes, or do those turn out horribly? and 2) how well (or not wll) do you handle arguments and insults?
Good luck =)
You got into some arguments with your ex, that happens, but he's clearly the one you love so just tell him to get a job and get back with him.
But I agree with some of these people that you should make decisions about your love life on your own and not turn to outside advice too much. It's YOUR life. Hope everything goes well.
Choose yourself. If you have to ask your friends and family who to be with, you don't need any of them that badly.
@Anonymous - Quit stalking me, Fat Shimmers.
I think you have yet to find the right guy. Don't get caught up with what's around you right now. There are always things out there waiting for you. Have faith and always remember you deserve nothing but the best.
You definitely still love your ex, don't listen to what your mother has to say about him.
Ditch the ex. I'd say go for the nice guy. Let him worry about his own work life and well-being. He is going to get enough punishment from the outside world, he shouldn't need it from you, too.
Or, you know, you could not date any of them, seeing as how you suck at settling down right now.
@chicbananas@xanga - On second thought, I think I actually agree with this.
You probably shouldn't be in a serious relationship with anyone at all right now. But if you insist on pursuing something serious, number 1 is the one you love and you shouldn't let your mom talk you out of it.
@P0RCELA1N_D0LL@xanga - a new "batch"? This is horrible. These are all obviously important people in her life.
@Chibi_Son_Gokou@xanga - You wish that was me you obsessed freak. If anyone's doing the stalking it's you stalking me thinking I'm all the anons. As I said before there's no rhyme nor reason with a troll like you. I avoided this post because I thought you and some other people were immature.