1. I meet my boyfriend through a mutual friend. I suppose I did "take a risk" because I flirted with him like crazy right off the bat. I was the one to ask him out, although he was going to the day before but I asked him to wait on it (so I could). I have also asked another guy out before in the past and that worked out too. Some guys do appreciate a girl who just go for it.

2. If you believe you are an interesting, funny, and nice girl I think you are bound to come upon a (hopefully nice) guy someday. I'm not sure if a lot of guys like an assertive girl (some guys like the chase) but confidence ALWAYS helps.

3. Eh, change the way you act/personality may not be the best approach, but building on confidence never hurts. If you want to ask guys out go ahead! Usually a girl can tell when a guy is into her and thus is when you should act on it. However, if you feel like the dude is into you you can just wait till he asks you out.

4. Wait until you can tell he has some sort of interest in you. If he's flirty, talks to you a lot, etc. then you should be good to go.

5. How do you attract the right person for you? That's a bit tough to call, I would say your best bet is going after guys you find attractive and see where it goes from there. I attract creepy guys too btw, I think it has to do with "our too nice personalities." Creepy/shy guys like non-intimidating girls.

6. It's okay for a guy to still live with his parents when he's 22 but I do get where you're going with this. To find a responsible, goal driven guy? I say join some clubs or events where those type of guys are less likely to be found (academic clubs, marathons, etc.)

7. Do the games girls play on guys actually work?
I usually never played any games with guys I liked. If I like the person, I let him know, no matter how early on and that's that. Keep things simple. If he's not interested oh well next. There will be guys who appreciate your honest, upfront manner.

1) I met my boyfriend on Facebook. I thought his profile picture was awesome, we had a few mutual friends so I figured, "Why not". We could at least be friends. I initiated conversations with him first and gradually it grew to us texting more and more and then hanging out. He said he loved that I started talking with him first :) It showed confidence, showed friendliness and showed that I wasn't just adding random guys for nothing! Taking risks is fun but make sure you don't hurt yourself in the process.

1. I met my SO at work. and I think it was a mutual thing. We both expressed an interest and just decided to go out one night after work for a couple of drinks to get to know each... we are still together and are very much in love.

2. I think honestly you have to have a happy medium. can't be to shy or too aggressive. But that comes with exprience.

3. I do not change the way act. I never have. If they don't like I don't care. I am who I am and you have to like who you are in order to have anyone else truly like you as well. Happiness in yourself makes it easier to make someone else happy. If you lack confidence and self esteem, this can cause a problem in how people view you. who wants to date someone that thinks low of themselves and is not happy with who they are. Those are just problems waiting to happen.

4. you just simply say hey I was going to go to such and such, wanna join me? If they can't go just simply say ok, if you decide you want to join me this is where I will be or maybe we can do something another time and give them your number.

5. Well attracting the right person... is a good question. You will attract allkinds of people, even ones you don't want around. And just because you think at the moment the person is not right for you, you never know because they could just be trying to catch your attention. You don't really know who they are unles you get to know them. and if its hard to attract the guys you think are cute... then are oyu only basing it on their looks? that can lead to someone or something that is pretty shallow you may end up in a relationship you don't want or can't get out of easily. Look beyond just looks, see what is behind the face.

6. you got to understand one thing about people, they don't always have the answers right away or know what they want. You may not meet someone with any clear goals yet because well there is a lot of life to live... besides goals change and so do priorities... see what their values are before you blow them off too much. Values generally stick with you throughout your life, the one constant in an ever changing environ.

7. I have never played games. they are unattractive and it is easier imo to just be honest. If you lie to me go away. If you want to play these childish games go away. there is a dating game that have some rules... don't lay it all on the line at the beginning, don't go overboard in explaining who you are, thats what dating is for, getting to know someone and to have fun, if it is too serious then that takes the fun out of the moment and makes it hard to go on the next date because you may always just be so serious that it seems like you can never loosen up. take this time to date and learn about people. thats where you get your experience from and learn what is that you need and not what you say you want. Two very different things.

Well, I just recently started dating someone, so I'll answer these to the best of my ability. But I also need to say first, you're only 19. Yes, it can be appealing to have a boyfriend and have someone to spend time with, but it's not the end of the world if you don't. You have time. Enjoy being single, spend time with your girlfriends. That being said:

1. He actually approached me first. We met at a bar, out for my birthday, and he said that he was actually kind of intimidated by the large group I was with, but that he saw me and wanted to meet me. Once the group started getting smaller, he and his roommate approached me and my roommate. His roommate actually said something to my roommate first, (so it can help to have friends around, to help break the ice). We ended up just talking the rest of the night, and he asked for my number. At that point, I didn't see it as much of a risk (he may have) but we'd hit it off really well already, so why would I turn him down at that point.

2. I've heard that can be true with some guys. But think about it, do you want to be with a guy who is like that, and doesn't appreciate you for who you are?

3. I wouldn't change the way you act to try and find a boyfriend. My example from now on will be that my SO saw me being myself with a bunch of my girlfriends, and he wanted to approach me because of how I was when I didn't know anyone was watching. Someone will fall in love with you for who you are. As for asking out a guy, you have to look at it this way: What's the worst that could happen? If you find someone you are interested in, go for it, but don't change to be something they want.

4. Strike up a conversation when you do first meet. If you're nervous about asking someone on an actual date, just suggest you get together again for coffee, or invite them to do something with you and your friends. Form a friendship with them before anything serious happens. Though, it can be exciting to just jump in. =)

5. Get involved in activites and things you like doing, then you will meet more people with similar interests. Hang out in places that you enjoy yourself. I doubt you're doing anything wrong, sometimes you just have to be more pro-active in meeting people.

6. I have no idea, I'll be honest. You just have to take a chance, and maybe, even if it is someone without a job, living with his parents, and no motivation, you might fall for him anyway, and maybe you are what he needs in his life to make a change. You never know.

7. Again, it might depend on the guy, but like you said, I don't think it works for the long term. It might be fun for awhile, but I doubt that lasts. I've always heard that there's the type of girl that guys want to date, then there's the type that they want to marry. I always chalked it up to that. Now that I'm a little older (26) more guys my age, and a reasonable amount older are looking for girls to settle down with - not just have fun. To some people it might sound bad, but I'd rather be the type of girl a guy wants to marry, and from the sounds of you, you are too.

My boyfriends have sucked.  I'm always forced to be with them.  i've had one decent one, but we broke up due to money.  That seems to be a recurring theme in my dating life.  Nobody wants to be with me because I end up being a burden.  They want sex, which messes up my order.

Psycho.

I'd say, don't let girls interfere with your dating life.  Play the games they play.  Play innocent.  Use your sisters as shields.  You aren't bad like Tina.  And you're sweet and innocent yet willing and ready.  Make sure they want the dominant male, but you don't because you're a Christian woman that knows "reality."  You can make your sister accept horrible ends while you rise past them with cliches. Act like a child. This will make the other females take care of you and not see you as a threat as you sneak in. Say keywords. 

This tango drives me insane.  Just arrange a goddamn husband.  Now I'm all broken and stuff from the insolar males.  This game has been a waste of my lfie though.  I quit.

I get to be single.  i get to be single.  nah nah nah nah nah :P Can't touch this.

If you want a boyfriend, look up. Smile more.LOOK at people. Half the time people are so busy loking at everything but forward or at people. If you look up and smile to a handsome stranger, I'm sure something will come your way. You can ask all the questions in the world but nothing will ever happen until you DO. =) So look up, interact with the opposite sex, and just smile! =D A smile does a lot! Says you are open for conversation and that you may be nice. Plus, makes one prettier. 

being in a relationship isn't all sunshine and roses like you think it is, sweetheart. but since you're young, and wrote this in a totally non-whiny way, i'll help you out.

1. obviously? how else is it supposed to start?

2. okay. this depends. to keep this consistent with the other question you asked (i think it was 6ish), you need to figure out how to be the kind of girl to whom your target audience is attracted. but, since you didn't describe said target audience, i can't really be more specific. in general, there are guys who prefer a hot but bitchy and high-maintenance girl so they can show off to their friends, and guys who prefer otherwise. i personally prefer a girl who is super sweet but also speaks her mind when there's a problem (which is something i demand of all the people i keep close to myself).

3. we don't know you, and therefore can't answer this question. and again, your behavior should be consistent with the results you want to achieve. that being said, despite what a lot of guys on here will say, i think most guys don't want you to straight up ask them out. they see it as intimidating and/or emasculating. it's better to give buying signals and let him ask you out (exception: really shy guys).

4. it's super easy. but you also need to be more specific with where you meet the person. usually "hey i would love to get coffee with you sometime" will do the trick. it's low key and has no "commitment" the same way that getting dinner does (or at least, the way that people interpret it does).

5. need more information about your target audience.

6. go to a better school. if you're not in school, don't complain (unless you're like...the shit.).

7. same deal as the other questions.

1.I met my SO when I was done from a fundraiser when a mutual friend of ours invited me out. I rarely stay out late in downtown, nor do I get a chance to meet HIS friends, so when he invited me, I met my SO at the winebar (where we were all meeting). He made such a great impression, after a couple of days later, I tracked down my buddy, who was leaving for Europe the next day, if he can pass along the SO's number with his permission. The SO (back then, just the guy) said okay and let my buddy pass along his cell number. I don't EVER ask guys out; I usually make sure the guy would ask me out before I'd even bother to clear out my schedule ('ive been dating for a while) but I couldn't wait, so after much debate, I asked him out on our first date. I didn't want him thinking we were just "hanging" out so we went out to a nice French restaurant. Second date, I still asked him out. And by the end of the 2nd, he asked me out for our 3rd, 4th and so and so forth. It was almost as corny as "love a first sight" for me and if I had waited for HIM to track ME down, we might have never made it.

2. My fiance is Italian. I'm Korean. In his culture and family, the females (his mother, grandmother, aunts, cousins), they are strongwilled, opinionated, and assertive. If I was "really too nice" his grandmother would have never believed that I'd make it. And my parents raised me to be opinionated, strong willed and I say what I mean to say and stick with it. I've never been too "too nice" after HS so don't try to change yourself. Yes, get yourself out more often, but don't try to change your personality by FORCING yourself to be more dominant and assertive. If it'll happen, it'll happen gradually and you won't even know it until later. If you're a nice girl, but spinelss, then that's not being "too nice" that's just being a jellyfish. Know the difference.

3. No. Don't change the way you act just so that you can get an interest brewing in the midst. When I first met my SO, the winebar was closing so we went to a nearby restaurant. I asked him questions; age, job, where he's living, sisters or brothers, etc...the usual and general "get to know" questions. Obviously, from the ongoing questions and me remembering to follow up with another relating question, as "dense" as he is (he admitted) that he understood my interest. But I didn't ask all those questions because I wanted to create a vibe around us; I was being my natural social self, but also attentive, filling his cup when the bottle came around, when the servers came back with dishes, he was being attentive to me in return. Don't force it. If it won't happen naturally, then you just need PRACTIVE being more aware of your surroundings and being considerate of the person.

4. I didn't directly ask for my SO's number when I first say "nice to meet you, good night" and ddrove off. But I did ask my buddy to ask the SO if it's okay for me to have his contact info. Then I texted him. Yes, super pansy move, but I couldn't handle it if he had NO idea who I was from that short meeting encounter. I did it casually but pretty direct to point. "Are you doing anything next weekend? If not, do you want to have dinner with me?" Done and done.

5. Sometimes, if you're rushing to find someone, you end up attracting all the weird ones. You know the cliche saying that "when you're looking too hard, you never find anyone, but when you stop looking, that's when it happens?" Well, it's a clilche but it is true. I was about give up on trying to find a guy around the time I met my SO. If you're attracting the "wrong" type, then just concentrate on focusing on yourself first. Nothing is more attractive then someone becoming confident due to her own improvements. Also, how do you know the guys that you attract aren't "your type" if you never had a boyfriend? If you are restricting too many "types" and you don't give them a chance for them to know you and you to know them, then what's the point looking? Going on random first dates to see what sort of guys you ARE into (not just in looks but also personality), is still practice and proactive. There's nothing wrong with that.

6. Just because he's living with his parents house and taking courses at a nearby college, it doesn't mean he's too lazy or laid back. It just also means that he might be just trying to figure things out on his own pace! In my generation, before my SO, the guys I've met were types that were shunning the idea of family and institute of marriage. They wanted to play games and try different relationships out, in the end of the day though, I wanted to be with someone that wanted the same things in my life (i'm turning 30 soon), so understanding the importance of commitment, marriage and family was a major deal breaker for me. Important thing is not to discourage COMMUNICATION. This is why first dates are so important and so is the practice about talking about your goals and expressing your hopes. This is a chance to figure out yourself as well as your date.

I'm 22 and have never had a bf. I've wanted one for awhile it just hasn't happened. Guess he'll be worth waiting for when he comes or at least that's what people say.

1. I've met all three guys I've dated in school.  With all of them, I made a step to spend more time with/hang out with them.  Who made the friends-to-dating transition varied. But once you spend time together and get to know each other, there's a lot more options :)  

2. Different men like different things.  Just like different women like different things.  However, men of a certain age may like something predominantly...ie. party girls go over better in college; settling-down girls have to wait until boys grow up (cue Superchick's Princes and Frogs).

3. The ONLY good reason to change something about yourself is because you don't like it. But if that's the case, there are ways to change pretty much everything about your character. One of the best pieces of advice I've heard is that you CAN and should practice flirting.  Consciously. Like, I will go flirt with this person now, no expectations.  The store clerk, the guy on the bus you'll never see again...it helps if it's someone NOT your age, so it's that much less awkward to refuse a phone number.  Once you know that flirting is a SKILL you have, it's much easier to use it when it does matter, like when you meet a cute boy.

4. Think about things you're planning on doing in the next few days...movie, show tickets you were about to buy, hiking trip...we always have something up.  Then ask them "Hey, want to join me/us for this?"  Alternatively, if you're having a conversation but getting time-crunched "Can we continue this over [coffee/lunch] later? Here's my number."  It doesn't always work; I've refused a lot of these.  But it's a shot.

5. Maybe you're giving them attention whereas you aren't flirting with the guys you're interested in because you're shy?  I used to flirt with my friends but not my crushes. Now I flirt with everyone indiscriminately. ;)

6. Wait. Look really hard. Also, take a closer look. A lot of young people before/during/after college are living with their parents.  It's a way to save up money while continuing/finishing education.  Some really are soulless bums. But I'm sure there's guys in that situation that desperately want out and are working for it in whatever way they can.

You really just have to be yourself, with some tweaks sometimes... It comes more naturally for some than others, and it takes a bit of practice as well. But I'll answer your questions.

2. It depends on the guy. A lot of guys like nice girls, and they almost always like girls with a sense of humor, and who is interesting. I don't think you need to be super dominate, especially if that's just not how you are, but you don't want to intimidate the guy either.

3. No, and in my experience I change how I act naturally when I'm around someone I like. You just have to get a good conversation going, be interested in what he's saying, relate to what he's saying, throw in some flirting, etc. 

4. This depends on the situation. Many times a guy will just ask for your number if they like you and are interested, otherwise if you get a good conversation just suggest it was a nice time and you should do it again, and ask for his number. Simple.

5. You catch their attention and do some of the above things. 

6. There are plenty of people who don't live with their parents at 22. It's just a luck of the draw kind of thing. Try hanging out at different places that reflects the interest of yourself and someone who you'd like to be with. 

7. Maybe they do sometimes, but I don't do any of them. If I like them, they'll know it. I only unintentionally lead guys on if I'm single and because I'm too nice sometimes. But I also don't like it when they play games with me, so I don't do it to them. I suggest straightforwardness, but not too much or else you can be seen as clingy.