Friday, 14 October 2011
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When the Past Comes Back to Bite You
What do you do, when you thought you closed every door in order to move on? Yet somehow someone or something from back then weasels its way back in, only to ruin what you have going.
I thought all my Ex's would be out of my life by now, off doing their own things, and me enjoying what I have going with KISA. But no, two of them keep finding their way back in. And they aren't the good guys either, they are indeed the ones that made my life total hell. Which would be why I cut all ties with them in the first place.
Why would anyone want to ruin someone else's life and what they have going? I can't completely say out of jealousy, because I have been jealous before but never attempted to ruin somebody's life. I think it's just petty.
But what do you do when you have an ex who wants to see you miserable just like him? It makes me wonder what I've ever done to him. Maybe I lied, or suddenly not talking to him has hurt him somehow.
But that is beside the point. The point is, how little do you like your life that you have to bring me down with you. I know I shouldn't let it get to me but at the same time, I cant help but wonder.
What do you do when someone opens a door you thought you already closed?
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Comments (17)
after I stopped talking to my ex, I was extremely happy and just a better person. but last weekend, he came back to visit and we slept together. it was a refresher and I don't regret it, but as long as you keep moving, it's fine.
Funny thing is I just read this and thought I share it:
How to Tell Someone You Don't Like Them (Without Being an Asshole
But, sometimes, you'll just need to be an asshole if they don't get it over multiple attempts.
leave it closed if you closed it already unless you don't want to close it and want to leave it open.
I've learned never to close doors unless you are physically attacking each other.
But that's the thing. Something did happen. And she never wanted to discuss it. Afterward, I felt like nothing changed in out friendship, and I didn't want to pretend to want to be friends with her again when in the back of my mind all I kept thinking about was that night. So I blocked her from my life. Im a better person now.
I think you need to first find out if these people did more harm to you then good. If they did harm, they were toxic and there was a reason you dropped them in the first place. Don't give them a second chance like I did if you truly feel they arent good people.
i have one ex that still affects me to this day. he speaks to me and i practically break down. lol. but nooooo... i still cant say no to talking to him. avoid your ex like the plague if you can help it!
Ever feel like you gave up on something or someone without truly thinking about it? Right now, I do.
You have the right to create your own future. Unless you want these issues to continue in said future, you will need to deal with it now. Not the answer you were looking for, perhaps, but that is the best advice I can offer.
wish i had this one figure out too. :/
Just walk away from the door. Who cares if it's open or closed? Walk away. Let them say whatever they want. People who truly know you will know what story to trust, if they are spreading rumors about you. Good luck.
keep that door closed and don't look back.. it's not worth it.. i almost did last year but i set him straight and i haven't heard from him since..
Most doors conveniently come with locks.
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Look. I ended up marrying an ex that I thought would never work out and we are honestly the happiest couple on earth now. So I have to tell you, truly, not to close any doors. If you have to walk away from something for a while, just walk away. But I'm married to a guy that used to seem like the past coming back to bite me.. and really this situation isn't all that uncommon, Now he doesn't bite (much ha), he just kisses me sweetly and we're hoping to have kids in the near future. This is true love. I know this isn't that strange since exes get back together happily all the time (with issues resolved if they keep talking), but you need to distance yourself from these people a little bit since you're working on something with someone else.
I have a few who came back while I was in a relationship. I just closed the door and lived my life. They'll only affect you if you let it. It's how you choose to handle it that matters.
nobody likes to live in a room with no doors, but i make sure mine has locks =p
a break up doesn't mean you can't be friends, it doesn't mean you can't be involved in each other's lives but what it does mean is that there is a boundary, -respect it-