The truth is there is no perfection. No man is the prince we dream of. It's who we are and how we react that determines what we do when faced with a crazy relationship.
Sadness, anger, jealousy and pain usually follow when dealing with guys we can't quite figure out. A man who's everything we hate, but such a screwed up mystery that we can't run. There are times when it seems like we want to kill him yet also have hardcore sex with him at the same time. When we do meet a nice guy, we can't let the rebel go.
We women like an unpredictable hot mess because he's just downright fun and scares the hell out of our hearts. Taking that ride on the rollercoster of emotions blows our minds and leaves us breathless. I mean, what's the fun in boredom when we can have excitement? Making memories is life. Arguing all night then making love in an enraged passion thrills us. We go insane, but it's just a part of the fire that fuels the inferno.
Getting hurt sucks, but what does it matter when you're walking that thin line of confusion? I am in a relationship where it's a mix between heaven and hell. I feel like crying; however, when he touches me it's like electricity and I forget all his flaws. He's not my dream but my greatest nightmare. He knocks my soul out, but brings me to life. Fire and ice dancing in a daring game of cat and mouse. Crushed and amused. Theres no explanation for the way he captivates me. He's so disturbed but downright desirable. I could chase this illusion with him forever even if we drift apart in the end I know I will never forget him.
What are your crazy relationships like? Can you find positives in the craziness?
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That sounds super unhealthy...but yeah, I've been in one of those relationships, and while the passion is crazy, it's not worth it in the long run. Trust me.
haha a lot of pp are in these
yes yes and yes
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agree with one of the comments above. "... while the passion is crazy, it's not worth it in the long run."
Been there, done that. Not worth it in the end.
I can totally relate. Lol, my relationship did get a bit crazy and I knew he was bluffing when he said something to try to hurt me and I didn't buy it; he ended up admitting he didn't mean it, too. I've said some pretty hateful things to him back, too, but luckily we worked it out and now things are fairly calm. Last year was some pretty unbelievable stuff happening.
I think you've fooled yourself into liking shitty relationships... Because it seems impossible to be in a good relationship.
You've learned to love your pain basically.
It also seems to be a common excuse for people because they don't want to become stronger lovers. If they're insecure about something, they have to find an excuse to keep being insecure about it, rather than try to fix it.
And the way that they make this excuse, they say things like:
"I love crazy relationships!"
"I love bitches!"
"I love bad boys!"
I call bullshit. You're just too unmotivated to get yourself into a sane relationship. Nothing to be ashamed of. Just admit the truth.
Real love is never wavers in that it is always, well... insane. It's how you take that and mold it that creates a good relationship.
This was actually strangely poetic.
Inaccurate, but poetic.
Love. Is. Crazy.
A happy stable relationship is the opposite of boring. Its like a constant high, no lows! So much better than a dramatic rollercoaster, IMO.
...and then one day you wake up and are tired of being screwed over again and again.
And then you're hit by a car.
You're more than right.
Eh. I prefer my stable relationships, thanks. =)
(It's really wonderful to have SOs who support me. But maybe that's just me?)
I'll take my stable "boring" relationship over that hot mess of a description any day.
OMG I WANT A NORMAL RELATIONSHIP!! Where the only thing we argue about is whether or not Lord of the Rings is the greatest movie ever.
I've always said I only want to be with someone who will fight with me. Meaning someone who voices their opinions, isn't afraid to disagree with me, but ultimately loves me at the end of the day.... If you are a pushover, it will/does bore me.
I wanted to try that out but to be honest, I don't have the emotional strength for that type of relationship, or lack off. It seems fun and thrilling at first, but after the first few times, I would just loose interest because something that doesn't go anywhere doesn't appeal me to. I'm not really attracted to bad boys either way, I tend to dump them. To each their own.
the more crazy, the better
i have done the crazy relationships. crazy fun insane weird sexy chaotic relationships. now i want to keep the fun and sexy only lol. add the relaxing, giving, and adventureous to that though. =D
Well I am into the love hate relationships. Guess I'm screwed in the head but whatever. I have dated a bunch of different types of guys, and it is sad but the nice guy does finish last. I mean yea it's nice to think about having that wonderful, loving drama free relationship but I call BULLSHIT! No relationship is perfect. It just depends on what kind of issues are going on in the relationship on whether it's unhealthy or not. Fighting and arguing is a part of being in a relationship and so is making up.
Chicks get off on bad guys cause secretly they wanna be the one that makes the guy change his dark ways. They still want the excitement and passion, but they want him to fall head over heels in love with them too. But part of the fun of the bad guys is that they aren't easily tamed. They put up a fight. So I guess it just depends on what kind of chick you are to what kind of guy you like. For me when they start getting nice....I start getting bored.
when i was younger, i love the crazy relationships and it made me want that person more the more crazier they were but as i've aged, i want something constant, even slight boring bc i don't need that drama in my life.
Before I comment I would like to compliment you on the way this way written. Even if I don't agree with a post, I can appreciate someone who writes well. :)
About the post, I disagree entirely. I don't think that "we women" all want that. I know, as a married woman, that is NOT something I was ever interested in or looking for. What appealed to me was security. A constant. I needed someone I could not only make love to but share my ridiculous sense of humor with - a best friend. In my opinion, I could never be with someone who made me feel like like killing them. Sure, my husband can push my buttons at times but it's nothing as intense sounding as what you just described. I HATE arguing with him so the thought of YELLING AND SCREAMING at each other and then making hot passion love all night only 50% appeals to me - the 50% being the love making part. The arguing, no thank you.
If you are only looking to date around and have a good time, then sure, go fulfill your need to be with someone who nearly gives you a stroke from anger. If you're looking for something lasting, though, I'd recommend you go for someone with more compatability and some kind of security.
honestly, never been in a crazy relationship. far too rational to let myself get/stay in one.