Monday, 10 October 2011
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How to Deal with Cheaters
Reasons why the dating world is so pathetic these days and tips to fix:
1. If you are faithful you get burned so take it on like a hunter seeking its prey. Watch closely yet unseen, never text impatiently, and always be two steps ahead of the idiot cheating on you.
2. When they tell you the same excuse, always find that little niche that proves it false every time and be so understanding that they break down and tell on themselves.
3. If your partner admits to cheating never talk about it because we all know what talking does. It worsens the situation so storm off and ignore them. Turn off your cell, stay somewhere else in order to prevent yourself from hurting them, and avoid all contact for at least a week.
4. When you finally decide to speak to them they are practically begging and crying about how much they need you or how sorry they are. Act as cold as possible no matter how much it hurts but if you want, finally agree to give them another chance.
5. If they fail you and cheat again then leave because there is no hope of change. Find someone else and go about your life even if they try to contact you nonstop.
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if my boyfriend cheated on me and told me instantly, as in like the next day, i might take him back. but i would never ever ever take a boyfriend back that cheated and continuously lied to me about it to my face. who wants a future with someone like that?
Hmm. My first reaction would be a knee to the groin, but that's just me.
Punch them in the balls or vag.
Well, you have to talk about it. It's unavoidable and if you choose to avoid it, it might just come back and bite you in the ass (if you choose to get back together with them). It's like saying, "Oh, I know you cheated, but it's okay. Let's just get back together and hopefully these unresolved issues between us will fix itself magically."
Why should we care if their feelings are hurt bc they didn't give a rat's ass about ours when they cheated?
IMO, just dump the loser and move on. Someone who truly love and respect you will not cheat on you.
Considering my experience with cheaters, there are no more second chances.
Why resort to violence?
Talk about insecure. Just dump them and move on like a responsible adult.
Maybe buy a mirror and take a look into it once in a while.
If you're being cheated on, then maybe you're the problem.
luckily never experienced someone cheating on me. if it happened, i would just dump them. not wasting my time with someone unfaithful or being in a paranoid relationship. -_-
i'm sorry but that picture is just hilarious
My ex cheated, I ignored it. I regret this everyday... I want him back and I let him go over this stupid decision he made...
i just cannot get over how cute these kitties r. they need to switch to a grain free formula though. sooo chubby surprising they can still mount
@heart_leigh@xanga - i'd do the exact same thing. hihi..
i wish i'd known all this when i was with my very first boyfriend. but i think i might have been too young or weak to do it anyway. tsk tsk!
This is terrible advice. 0_o Are you being sarcastic?
Cheating is not a free-standing problem, it is a symptom of a greater problem. How about when your partner cheats, figure out what the bigger problem is? An incompatibility with monogamy ideals? Feeling unloved? Being bored?
If a man were ever to cheat on me, i'd drop him then and there. My trust for friends are the same for men, screw me over and your officially cut off; I'll question every little thing that you do.
My problem is I can forgive but I wont forget.
Why give them a second chance in the first place? If someone cheats on me, they're gone. No questions, no second chances, no excuses.
I'm giving him a second chance, since this is the first and only time he's ever done something like this to anyone, plus this is his first real relationship he's ever been in. It's REALLY hard, but so far so good. The hardest part is being able to understand WHY it happened. He's a good guy, not one of those bad boys that are always hitting on women and being disrespectful. It just blows my mind that he did something like this. I didn't expect it at all. And I'm not some naive little girl either, I watch for things like this, however, I would've never known, but I thank God every day that he called me crying a couple of days after it happened and told me about it. We're in an LDR, so he could've kept it from me, easily, but he didn't. I really do love him, with all my heart. I know people make mistakes, and I don't want to regret not giving him a second chance, so I guess if he does it again, I'll let go and move on, and I can at least say I tried.
I've made the mistake of giving people second chances. Just kick em to the curb, saves a lot of time. Oh, and find somebody genuine who doesn't cheat. Thats definitely a good tip.
Think you covered it pretty well. The picture had me laughing, even tho this is no laughing matter. I've figured out that 2nd chances only give them the chance to do it again. Once found out, it's time to leave. I would rather go it alone than deal with that nonsense in my life.
@Chibi_Son_Gokou@xanga - Interesting point of view. But statistics prove it's usually not the case. Perhaps you've never been cheated on or cheated on anyone. If that is fact, then you wouldn't know the answer. Just sayn.
It's so much easier said then done -- was married to a cheater.
I don't agree with some things said. I agree a week off to think things over, but to do it in such a manner not so much. Also acting cold after you cooled off? WShat's the point of cooling off if your still acting so harsly? I say..think about it for a week, and count the cost if the relationship is worth the second chance, and emotionally you can handle it. Then if your willing to take them back, really talk through your emotions and feelings, and their emotions as well. Communication is key without resulting to yelling.
Perfect. A second chance is always necessary - what if that person really COULD change? What if it was a sincere crap mistake, and they'd trade their livelihood for another chance..? But, err, 3rd chances are obviously outta the question. After the second time, it's obvious they aren't serious about changing..
I don't do the second chance thing any more. Did it before. I am a strong believer in "Once a cheater, always a cheater" and have yet to be proven wrong. SO I just leave. Once the trust is broken, it's almost impossible to get back. And a relationship with no trust is like a car with no gas - you can stay in it but it won't go anywhere.
I don't do the second chance thing any more. Did it before. I am a strong believer in "Once a cheater, always a cheater" and have yet to be proven wrong. SO I just leave. Once the trust is broken, it's almost impossible to get back. And a relationship with no trust is like a car with no gas - you can stay in it but it won't go anywhere.