Sounds like me. :)

If you can't handle the truth, don't ask. I would rather someone hear the truth and be hurt than be told a lie, be happy and then know later that it was a lie and then get even more unhappy and mad. You say you are someone who doesn't want to be lied to, but you encourage lying. Notice the problem there? If you can't handle or trust your partner around friends of the opposite sex (especially if you never even met them and already hate them for no reason), then you do not deserve to be in a relationship. You would be the one creating problems for yourself and the relationship by asking those question. I suggest you mature before bringing someone else into the picture. 

I view it as such, a girl gets insecure about such questions and then it's best for me to end the relationship or simply remain friends with her and not take it any further. A woman either doesn't ask such questions or is simply curious and doesn't care what the response is (unless it's something incredibly outrageous).

Same principle applies to males. A boy gets insecure and will freak out and be jealous. The man will either not ask such questions or ask them purely because he wants to get to know the person he's with better. Furthermore, he realizes that the woman is with him and if anything, he should take solace in that fact.

In short, if someone is that insecure about such questions then I'm dropping their ass. The ones that are insecure over such questions are usually the ones who also hold everything little thing that you do or have done, over your head. In such a relationship, love and affection cannot freely exist or be expressed, there's no point in investing time in such a thing.

so i guess wanting to know about your SO pass is correlated with insecurities? i'm sorry, but if i'm asking questions i wanna know how many people you fucked, how you fucked up in your past relationships, what you didn't like about it, etc. to make the one i'm in with YOU, better. damn, people these days

I wouldn't, because I know she has never felt the same way.

"Unless you find fun in swimming in drama, I strongly suggest you lie about your past feelings/hook ups when you think the other person cannot handle the truth."

i don't ask these kinds of questions, i usually assume that he probably did have a crush on them at some point (to be honest, i've had crushes on a lot of my guy friends that just turned platonic :P lol so its not a big deal unless he's talking down their panties or something.) although, because we were friends first, i had already heard about some specific friends he had that he did like. once in a while i'll feel a little insecure about it, like if we are hanging out with said girls, but, we love each other, so i always spring back. and i try not to act on these insecurities, i KNOW its not attractive. lol

NOTE: I wrote this angry blog (months ago) after I had another encounter with her where she completely ignored me while saying hello (giving kisses on the cheek) to my boyfriend who was standing right next to me and talking to me. Let's say I had enough of her. Amongst other things, she forbid my friend/her boyfriend to invite me to his birthday party (on New Year's Eve); a party my boyfriend always attended because they are best friends. It just felt like she deliberately did everything to create tension between my boyfriend and me; and he's at fault for saying the truth.

@enoughtodiefor@xanga - I think people tend to not find the right words under stress situations. I'd probably be pissed at his wording, too.
@laytexduckie@xanga - It's an oxymoron, I know, but immature people need love too. They think they want the truth, but in reality they want you to tell them what they wish was the truth (therefore a sweet lie or the most positive yet least probable of all options). I used to want to hear it too. In my last (first) relationship, truth hurt. Now I'm just meh, whatever. Everyone has a past.
I always tell the truth without thinking, and hurt some people in the process. When I notice it's often too late, and I just wish I hadn't, because I see how hurt they are.  Though I agree that finding out the truth later always hurts more.
@lilblucherrygrl@xanga - You have a very patient boyfriend then. Congrats! It's very good that you could work on your insecurities while still being in the relationship and not after everything is too late.
@sugar_mama@xanga - I never said you should lie about your past or about how many people you fucked and all the ex, sex and one night stand related stuff. You shouldn't. It depends on the questions really. And the answer to her question didn't make their relationship better.
Just re-read my blog. Shouldn't have written /hook ups.
@dynamicstars@xanga - I agree. It's a waste of time to have a boyfriend who has a crush on someone else.
@jeezshoua@xanga - I'm like you now. I ask questions because I'm curious about his past, not because I'm insecure. Though it took me one relationship to learn.
@Insomnia_Pickles_XtraTomato@xanga - I guess it's different in your case because you had crushes on your guy friends too, so you know those girls mean nothing to him anymore because your crushes mean nothing to you anymore.

Well I usually tell the truth... even if it hurts... I don't lie well... but sometimes people don't like the truth...

The only person who is an idiot is his girlfriend for asking a question that she didn't want an honest answer to.  Seriously, why do girls do this shit ALL THE TIME?  Grow up and stop playing games, damn.

@haltija@xanga - I'm not sure if he did something out of the ordinary. He's very generous with compliments to every girl AND guy (whenever I logged on FB I saw him commenting on girls' pictures: "beautiful" "gorgeous" etc) so I assume he said I was nice etc too. But it's just his nature, and she should have known his thing about complimenting people by then.
It's not about hurt feelings, but about destroying relationships between others. If you read my other comment you'll understand.

@lil_fire_bella@xanga - Why did he lie about you two kissing? It doesn't make any sense, I mean, was he too drunk to remember or did he say it to give her a reason to dislike you?

@sunalun@xanga - I don't understand.

@mycontinuity@xanga - I don't think he had a crush on me when he was in a relationship. I think he only liked me when he was single. But he liked other girls as well. He finds 7 out of 10 very good-looking. So it doesn't mean anything really.