Tuesday, 04 October 2011
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Why Do Boys Engage in "Drive-by Hollering"?
Why do men like to holler at women from their car? Let me rephrase, what satisfaction do men (or should I say boys) get from yelling out something to a stranger and then driving off? Boys seem to think that "drive-by hollering" is flattery when in reality I think it is just creepy.I remember the first time a drive-by hollering happened to me and it freaked me out. I was a college freshman walking into a Wal-Mart when I noticed a car slowing down in my direction. I did not recognize the car, but Wal-Mart was a likely place to run into college friends. Instead, this creepy middle-aged white man popped his head out: "Hey sexy mama, do your thing girl". Then he just drove off smiling like a pedophile. I suddenly felt extremely naked and speed walked towards the entrance. Following that incidence I refuse to shop at any Wal-Mart alone, unless I look like a total slob. A bit of an exaggeration, but that situation traumatized me.
When I'm with a group of girls and we get a drive-by holler, it bothers me less. We can all laugh it off, and if the boy is cute we flirt back. But, when I am by myself it is super creepy! If I'm dressed to impress, I am prepared for any possible hollering. Not when I am in non-revealing casual clothing. Why am I suddenly bringing it up? Because it happened twice this month.
INCIDENT 1: It was late at night at my sister's university. I was waiting to cross the street to catch up with my sister. A car drives by and some random college-aged white guy yells out on the passenger side something about my butt. (I was dressed in jeans and heels. But, no cleavage!) I assumed he was drunk and chose to ignore him. Seriously, was that really necessary?
INCIDENT 2: I met up with a friend for lunch off campus. Again, I was waiting to cross the street. A truck drives by me and I see a hipster shirtless white guy pointing directly at me: "It's all about you girl!". I look around hoping that comment was intended for someone else nearby. A girl approaching the crosswalk began a conversation, "Why do guys do that?"
When I asked for a male opinion, I was told not to analyze so much and just take the compliment. Maybe, but this opinion is skewed as it came from my boyfriend. He seemed satisfied to know strangers think his girlfriend is attractive enough to get hollered at. Whatever. I don't care if the back of my head is ridiculous, or you think you can handle the regalness of an updo. You can't have my number and I ain't no hollaback girl!
How do you react to drive-by hollering?
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i think everyone can agree that the real question is, why don't girls engage in drive-by hollering?
Because it gives boys a chance to say whats actually on their minds without having to worry about the consequences.
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - Some of us girls do!
Drive by hollering doesn't bother me unless it is rude. "You shake your thing, girl" would crack me up. I have had guys say creepy things like "I want to sink my teeth into some of that". And that's when I get freaked out. Usually though, it doesn't bother me.
A few times, the car has stopped and someone tries to get me to go over or they get out and that's really creepy then. I don't appreciate that.
I always think it's flattering haha. I usually just smile though, I don't yell anything back. When I was like 14-16 I did, but now I just blush and smile.
Because they can. It doesn't occur to them that that kind of attention might be rude or creep out the recipient.
On the rare occasion it happens to me (normally it's honks I get, not shouts) it just makes me walk faster. What I hate more are the creepy stares. Nothing quite like the eerie feeling that you have a stalker.
Though admittedly, I found it rather flattering and I did kinda enjoy the attention, LOL!
This just happened to me while I was playing tennis. It's super annoying. I wrote a blog about it a while ago http://sustainingpassion.blogspot.com/2011/04/cat-calling-otherwise-known-as_19.html#comments
It usually just makes me laugh as long as its not something derogatory. But I figure its either boys trying to make their friends laugh or taking the opportunity to flirt with you without the risk of rejection since they are speeding by and usually won't see or hear your response.
I don't know. Sometimes when I'm feeling rowdy, I just like to holler at guys walking down the street. I just want them to know I appreciate what they're doing xD
I mean it's sweet, but it just kind of scares me, so I pretend I don't hear it and walk away quickly. However, next time I see a hot guy on the street I think I might definitely do some drive-by hollering. lol
omg this is so funny...
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - I have. I enjoyed it.
Sometimes I laugh and sometimes I roll my eyes. Depending what was said.
My boyfriend will just yell random stuff out the window like "Don't eat pancakes on Wednesday!" or he'll bleat at people. Sometimes I wish I was one of those people he's yelling at 'cause it would probably make my day.
@Cennedi@xanga - lol it is indeed funny. I have not been subjected to this but I have been stared at. I sometimes stare them down until they leave lol. It makes me laugh.
Depending on the type of person that yells out of a car or what the say effects how I feel about it. Most of the time I take it as a compliment. I live in a college neighborhood that is surrounded by a more poor community and it is scary when I walk through the poorer area and a group of guys in a car would pullup next to me saying "hey sexy mamma" while I'm alone. Last spring it happened almost everyday where I would get beeped at or yelled at. About 80% of the time it was obvious creepers, but other times it was just fairly normal guys just being retarded.. definitely does make me laugh.
I only got drive-by hollered once. I was on a phone with a friend just leaving work. As I was walking out to my car on the phone, a car drives. As it passed me, I heard a girl go, "Eyyyyyyy papiiiiiiiiiiiii." I stood there for a second, then starting laughing while my friend on he phone got all confused. I then told him what happened and then he laughed too.
i think it's funny/flattering. some women should just learn to take a compliment and not be so stuck up about it. a guy thinks you're hot. if that's the worst thing to happen to you all day, you have nothing to complain about.
First off, only douches do that. Secondly, I think you need to get a dictionary and look up what pedophile means. Unless you're a child prodigy, hitting on a college girl cannot be pedophilia since a pedophile is someone who likes pre-pubescent children.
It's a total compliment, and you refusing to take it as a compliment means you're taking it in a way it wasn't meant despite knowing that it was totally meant in a great way. If you've seen a magnificent performance at a play, you stand up and clap. If you've seen a great sports play, you stand up in the stands and shout. If you've seen this superb specimen of the female persuasion that really grabs your attention, you just gotta say something about it. It's a relief technique that of an emotion so intense it can't just be bottled up, whether it's welcome or not. Consider it a blessing, and leave it at that =)
"and if the boy is cute we flirt back." It's a drive-by flirt. As a gender who is so concerned with how things are on the inside and feeling so hurt when judged about the outside, it seems like women wouldn't judge the outside quite so much, such as getting creeped by a guy who is older, or missing teeth, or whatever. Take it as the compliment it is, and keep on walking =)
hahaha this made me laugh. "hey sexy mama, do your thing girl!" but seriously, I don't think it should be construed as a bad thing. It's all good intentions as the guy above me said. You shouldn't hate someone for saying "youre beautiful".
@vanoakenfold@xanga - Cat-calls are not compliments.
It's another example of male privilege. It makes me so uncomfortable and if you ever try to start a conversation about how damaging the mentality can be, you're labeled a bitch who is overreacting and melodramatic.