I would be lying out my ass if I said I was in a perfect relationship. I'm not. Actually, the kind of relationship I'm in right now is one that I often wonder if I should leave. My friends and my brother all question why I remain in my relationship despite what probably amounts to emotional abuse. I always give them the typical answers. "He loves me. I love him. It's only sometimes. It's not that bad."
But then I wonder...Does he love me? Truly love me? I love him, but is that reason enough to stay with him? What if it gets worse? What if he doesn't change? It is that bad.
Sure, when things are good between us, things are really good. He compliments me, he cares about me, he's there for me. But when things go downhill, they go downhill fast. He calls me names. He tells me I'm stupid. He refuses to acknowledge that he's done anything wrong. He refuses to apologize. He tells me I'm being too sensitive. He says I'm making things into a bigger deal than they really are. He threatens to leave me. He makes me feel worthless.
It's almost like he's a Dr. Jekyll, Mr. Hyde character. Most of the time he's a great, loving guy, but sometimes he just turns into an ugly monster that devours my self-esteem. I've tried to talk to him about some of these things, but like I said earlier, in his own mind, he's done nothing wrong. He doesn't understand why I'm upset. He doesn't think it's a big deal.
I don't know what to do anymore. I still love him. We've been together for over two years, and on his good days, we often discuss marriage. But on his bad days, I often think about whether or not I should leave him.Any advice for me? Should I stay or should I go? If I stay, what else should I try to help him understand how I feel?