Sunday, 02 October 2011
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I'm (Facebook) Stalking You
I plead guilty: I Facebook Stalk. And I love it. I love to fall into Facebook Comas and click through entire albums and all the notes from one person, reading every single bit of their About Me and Interests section, scrolling through all 3000 of this person's groups.
Before I got together with my current boyfriend, I loved to Facebook Stalk guys I just met I will admit--it was pretty obsessive--I would go through their albums, the mutual friends we had, the notes they posted, and close-read every sentence in their About Me section.
Facebook kind of took away the purpose of small talk (that's right, I know more about you than you think), although I never admitted to being that person who "meets" a group of people for the first time and knows their birthdays, what they "like," and can recite their About Me section from memory. Nope, admitting that would probably come off too strong. I have a mental checklist of what they are interested in and cross them off if they say it in conversation and write down mental question marks if something they say contradicts their Facebook profile information. (Just saying, you can't be both a Mets and Yankees fan!)
In all seriousness, I didn't memorize About Me sections, but if your albums are public to me even if we aren't friends (yet), I probably clicked through all of them. I'm always interested to see how people portray themselves to the "public" sphere of the Internet, which, thanks to Facebook settings changing all the time, may be more than you'd like to know about you if you didn't know you!
Do you ever Facebook stalk someone you are interested in, even if you aren't friends with them? Have you ever Googled a potential mate?
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- From: dangelb
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Nope. I've never facebook stalked anyone.
haha guilty i think if u are interested in someone really nothing wrong with that
everybody facebook stalk*
we dont just add people on facebook & NOT look at it
People's facebooks=not how people really are.
Sometimes you can learn things about a person from their facebook/twitter, but they're usually shallow details and often covering up the truth, a massive facade, etc.
Kinda....psychooooo..... lolz
Facebook was designed for the sole reason to stalk other people without them knowing. Â All you're doing is utilizing the purpose of the site.
lol...i do it all the time it's bc maybe i'm just interested in them and want to know what's going on in their life. i'm sure someone is facebook stalking me too.
I check out the pages and profiles of people I know and/or would like to know better.
I don't pour over anyone's details unless I am seriously crushing, or they keep asking me what I think about one of the 9000 photos they've posted of this guy THEY are crushing on.
I have this weird idea that I shouldn't invade someone's space unless invited, so I don't usually try to wiggle in the side door by checking the photo's of all their friends and their friend's friends, because I feel like I am assaulting their aura. That can't be good for any potential future relationship.
Of course. Facebooks purpose is to allow friends, friends of friends and complete strangers see your electronic photo album. Things have changed. Before social website, only people who you REALLY knew and welcomed into your life had photos of you. These days, some 40 year old man who you have never met could have 50 photos of you and know all about you. That is what social webs are all about.
I saw a super fine black man today and he actually showed interest and winked at me
he was walking the opposite direction and probably wondered who I am
I should've asked him about his facebook name. I only have his cute face in my memory and can't save his pics
If someone sends me a friend request and I don't have a clue as to who they are, I'm going to go through what bits of their profile that I can see. Usually I'm trying to wrack my brain and remember if I obscurely met this person one time and I just forget about them. 9/10 it's just someone whose desperate to have an excessive amount of friends and I've never met them before in my life.
Admittedly I have done a few google searches before. Although usually I wind up just searching my own name, hooray for narcissism!
I'm totally guilty of this hahaha. Though I only really did this with my boyfriend's exes, just to see what they're like and such and if any traces of what their relationship was like were left.
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Wtf disgusting.
I've kinda stalked a couple people, but I tend to lose interest after a week or two. I do occasionally stalk exes just for fun. :) Makes for a great ego boost, bahaha.
Absolutely, and I've become quite the hacker because of it.
and FTR:
pipl. nuff said.
I facebook stalk way too much. It drives me insane. It does nothing but breed insanity and jealousy. I miss the days when I was like sixteen... before facebook.
that's why every album of mine and my wall is set to private to only friends. and some albums are restricted to some people only...
Brb... I need to go rip through my FB and clean shit up.
I don't really Facebook stalk too much. I do check out an occasional friend every now and then. If I haven't talked to someone in a while I'll go through a few status updates and check out their new pictures, but that's about it. I'm not as in-depth as the OP is.
if someone adds me the things i look for are: location and friends.
I don't do it alot, though I do look for people sometimes after I've met them on a night out, and have been known to fb- stalk a boy on and off over the years, and possibly his gf...
guilty :)