Friday, 30 September 2011

• The Black Leper Effect

  

  At my university I have made an interesting observation for a particular individual, we’ll call him Nick. Now Nick use to be a good friend of mine but I ended up dissolving the friendship due to his poor, immature, and childish behavior towards myself, other friends, and just people, especially women, in general. Obviously he wasn’t like this when I originally met him but as the months went by the person I knew just simply vanished and a hollow shell of superficiality and extreme pretentiousness was left in its wake.

  Now, what my observations pertain to is Nick’s interactions and relationships with women he’s been involved with or pursuing at the university. It’s important to note that me and Nick’s friendship began with a mutual interest in dating guru’s and pick up artists; however, Nick made the classic mistake that many people do when you enter that world, he followed their teachings literally and religiously, but that’s a topic for another time.

  Getting back to it, what I noticed with Nick is he would have a degree of success with these women but they all fell into a certain category and caliber. These women were always quite insecure, naïve, and fairly easy to manipulate and influence. His general “technique” was to pick at these women’s already fragile self esteem; usually finding fault with their appearance, personality, or ethnic background.

  I knew the intricacies of this and to briefly explain it, the purpose is to degrade the woman and to make one seem superior to them; thus no matter how repulsed the woman is she’s compelled to pursue this man in order to prove to him that she’s better. Now due to the fragile personalities of these women, this would work 9/10, and though they would be ashamed of this relationship they had with him they would still keep going back. Nick believed this gave him the appearance of being a “Bad Boy” (Justin Beiber could kick this guy’s ass) and these naïve women also believed that.

  After having slept or hooked up with these women this is where the title of this piece comes into play. Once it was known around campus (it’s a small university so word spreads quickly) that he had “been with” one of these women there was an interesting phenomenon that occurred; no other men would even remotely attempt to pursue these women, both on and off campus. It was if a stigma had been placed upon them and every man was fully aware of it. Or perhaps as a result of having been with Nick these women now exuded (unconsciously) a more prominent sense of insecurity and baggage that just repelled every man they came into contact with from that point on. Aside from people having a general dislike and borderline hatred of Nick it became rapidly known around the campus that if you were associated with him your social status would plummet.

  Now, I have a theory as to why this occurs. This occurrence is actually quite common, it’s the reaction men have after discovering that a woman, whom they’re attracted to, has slept with, hooked up with, and/or dated a man that is considered an asshole, douchebag, scumbag, slimy, whatever terminology you choose to apply.

  Why do they have this reaction? Well, the man who is labeled as such is deemed to be of lower quality and/or social status, as a result, for having been with this man the woman is then devalued as a potential mate. Thus the man who was attracted or interested in this woman is not only repulsed with her but also with himself. Why? Well she is now of a lower quality and thus he has made a poor mental selection of a potential mate, meaning there must also be something wrong with him for having wanted to pursue such a woman.
  
  So, let’s use some celebrity examples:

  Men, would you want to date a woman who you knew had slept with and/or dated Kanye West, Chris Brown, Tiger Woods, Spencer Pratt or anyone from the Jersey Shore?
  Ladies, same question but the man was with Lindsay Lohan, Paris Hilton, Amy Winehouse, Casey Anthony, or again, one of the members of the Jersey Shore?

  Now I am not saying people aren’t allowed to make mistakes but have you ever seen or heard about someone doing something similar to this and it just sent up a giant red flag for you and everybody else? Have you ever encountered a phenomenon like this before? Your thoughts?

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