Tuesday, 27 September 2011
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Dating A Look-A-Like
I am still Facebook friends with my younger brother's ex-girlfriend. We are cordial outside of Facebook as well, and still exchange small talk here and there. They were each other's first boyfriend/girlfriend and they were together for about 5 years off and on. Honestly, I was kind of shocked they broke up.
Anyway! She moved on to one of my brother's (now former) friends. I never saw him, but heard about him. A few days ago, all of the sudden, she decided to put up pictures of her with the new boyfriend.... It freaked me out because he looked JUST like my brother - from the physical build to the nerdy glasses, and short hair cut.
Immediately, I thought "How could you date someone who looks like your ex?" I know people do it all the time, but I just don't get it. Personally, I couldn't do it. I am the type of woman who, if I get to the point that I want to leave, you REALLY messed up, and I don't want anything more to do with you - let alone look at someone who looks exactly like you EVERY SINGLE DAY! Geez.
Wouldn't that just be a painful reminder of your past? Maybe it's someone's twisted way of trying to get the relationship they wanted by living it through a look-a-like? I don't know. I'm not judging people who do it. I just don't understand it. I want my past right where it belongs - in the past. If I hear someone who looks, or even sounds, like an ex, I have a tendency to shut them down. I don't want to be around someone who keeps me thinking "Oh, (insert ex's name) used to make that same face when he was mad," or, "Man, (insert ex's name) used to say that all the time!"
I don't know. Maybe it's just me.
Would you date someone who looked like your ex?
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All of my exes and even my current boyfriend look completely different from one another. COMPLETELY different. Even their personalities are completely different. The only thing I found to be the same is they all have brown eyes, lol. Fucking brown eyes.
I would want to go for someone who looks a bit like my ex- 'cause that's my type in terms of physical appearance. My ex is still attractive in terms of looks to me, just his personality sucks balls 'cause of what he did to me. I know what you mean by painful reminder but if I were to date someone who looked nothing like my ex whatsoever.. I don't think I'd be attracted to their outside. Both my exes did look different but they did have some similarity in a little way. Dating my recent ex didn't remind me of my first ex, in fact I thought my recent ex was more attractive. I know where you're coming from though I'm someone who could do it.
I haven't seen anyone who looked similar to my exes.. I guess the world isn't so small after all.
But if I do and I am attracted to them, why not? I wouldn't write them off just bc they look similar to my ex (es).
My ex-boyfriend is dating a girl who not only looks like me, but has the same name. CREEPY much?
Maybe that's why I don't go for guys with yellow fever...
I no longer find my ex attractive, so no I wouldn't go after a guy that looks like my ex. My ex and my current bf are different races so they look way, way different. No similarities at all.
I haven't dated a look-a-like, but sometimes my current boyfriend does remind me of my ex and they both love hockey. They sometimes talk the same way or say the same things, but I guess that's just my taste. It'd be weird to date a look-a-like, I've never seen one for my ex's though.
When my boyfriend and I broke up, I always looked for guys that looked like him. I really missed him and thought that replacing him with someone that looked similar would fill that void and be like the same thing. I wasn't going for an exact look alike, just someone tall with tattoos and a musician. It was kind of really stupid and I'd never do that now, but I was 18 haha. I've been back with my boyfriend for a few years now and if I had dated someone that looked just like him I feel like it would have been awkward getting back together haha.
i wouldn't date someone who looked like my ex but maybe had similar personality traits. that would be too crazy.
i actually happen to think my friends bf looks like a much younger version of Obama & they both attend Harvard!
so true! im like that to .. if i see someone who looks like my ex or even has the same first name as him .. omg i would never!
Definitely not. My ex and current significant other are as different as night and day.
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Actually...every guy I've dated has been shorter than the last, and built differently too. My first bf was 6'0" and skinny, second was about 5'7" and pudgy, and my current bf is 5'2" and athletic.
However, I do constantly get told my boyfriend looks like Harry Potter. All my friends and family call him "Harry" instead of his real name. lol
I'd want to date a celebrity look-a-like, such as Kristin Kreuk ^_^
Everyone that I have dated look extremely different from each other. It's actually rather funny how different they look. It's like I have no "type" at all.
However, my current SO was still on civil terms with his ex until she decided that she was going to go psycho... and we got a message from one of his old friends with a picture of the ex and her new boyfriend. He looks exactly like my SO. She's always been in love with J, and hasn't been able to get over their relationship so it didn't shock me when her new boyfriend could have passed as his twin.
One of my friends once showed me the pictures two girlfriends of her brother: one was his ex and another one that he got married later. I can't say they look exactly alike, but both of them being tiny and have little slim figures, the way they dress up and the color of their hair; basically, they look alike.
The same thing goes for his best friend too. He came to introduce us with his girlfriend and my friend couldn't help but wonder why guys liked to date girls who look like their exes. I thought it was the only case, but now? Maybe it's not because she wasn't hung up on your brother but only because, that's the type of guys she is attracted to.
I don't think my boyfriends look like the same either, but when I showed the picture of my current boyfriend to my friend, she said "wow ... they all look the same." I disagree, but still... isn't it weird?
all my bfs were skinny and had dark hair, but really they don't look anything alike at all. I don't think I could handle that.
I thought this post is about Obama at first glance. lol
@CHRiSTiNE_x@xanga - Wtf O_O scary indeed.
@stanlee255@xanga - LOL@ronnie_rooney@xanga - Ya me too.
I would think it's an unconscious thing -- I'm attracted to a certain "type" of guy but I don't realize they look like someone else unless I lose interest or move on from them.
ahaha i thought this post was going to be about dating someone who looks like you ! ahaha
Haha, probably not.
After a pet dies I NEVER get one that looks that one again. A partner? Ah hell no. Though strangely the last female I was interested in looked quite a bit like me if I didn't watch my health..which I found odd. I wanted to have sex with myself I suppose.
whether it was with my Asian exes or my caucasian exes, none of them ever looked like each other. At some point in my life, I was into built guys, it didn't matter if they were shorter or not, but that phase moved on. Then I dated guys that weren't Asians; my last ex was American with startling blue eyes and I totally fell for those eyes...but my current fiance is born in Vancouver but Italian: dark hair and dark eyes. skin that never tans! lol So in terms of similar personality quirks, yes...they all kind of have similariteis... but in terms of looks, that would freak me out.
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