Monday, 26 September 2011
Women constantly say they dislike arrogant guys and prefer sweet, caring, sensitive guys. Based on experience, nothing can be further from the truth. In fact, the exact opposite is true.
So what is a nice guy? A nice guy is a guy who is always generous and polite. He will usually start sentences with "I hope this doesn't offend you" or "If you don't mind." A nice guy will usually talk about safe topics like the weather, college, work, etc. Furthermore, a nice guy will do things for a girl he likes such as buy her gifts all the time, shower her with complements, call her three times per day, and express his love and affection for her even if he hasn't known her for very long.
A nice guy will even go as far as always doing what said girl wants to do if he goes out on a date with her and getting into the stuff she's into just so he can have more common ground. Is this the type of guy women really want? Better yet, is this the type of guy women are ATTRACTED to? Many guys tend to think so when they apply logic to the situation.
They think "If I am nice and I show a lot of affection to a woman and give her a lot of attention, then she will think of me highly and do the same for me." In reality however, when a guy does all these things for a woman, he communicates to her, "I'm a needy wuss who can't take care of himself emotionally so don't expect me to be able to support you emotionally. I'm also quite manipulative as I feel the need to buy your love."
Some women will date nice guys. However, that doesn't mean said women are sexually attracted to them. Some women need nice guys to serve as tools of support and comfort. Yet in the end, these nice guys are usually sentenced to the friend zone for life without parole. In the friend zone, the nice guy will be tortured by becoming the emotional tissue for a woman who will constantly complain that the guy she has decided to go out with is such a jerk and scumbag.
Now let's talk about arrogant guys. An arrogant guy doesn't care what other people, particularly other women, think of him. He's confident in his own beliefs and isn't swayed by what a woman says. A lot of times, he can be a real jerk and full of himself. Like I said in the beginning, women claim that they dislike such a guy. However, many women find themselves attracted to said guy without any reasonable explanation. Such a guy is difficult, hard to control, hard to break, unpredictable, and even somewhat mysterious.
What are your views?