Thursday, 22 September 2011
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"You're Completely Nuts!" The Fight
Zachary and I have been talking about moving back in with my sister for weeks now. Well...I'm the one talking and hes like in La-La-La land. He keeps giving me different answers, like "We'll move in once I get my first pay check," or "We'll move in once I get my stuff out of pawn." Another answer is, "I'm scared of my dad getting pissed and burning all my shit." Because apparently his dad is crazy. Also, "I need to get a job lined up."
Well Zachary...My mom and James are trying to help you do that but your little heart is set on Tjmax. What if your mom can't swing you getting into Tjmax or its like two months before they call and hire you? Why won't he go to Custom Staffing and get the new Purina food job? They just built a new factory or something and they need people to work like today. Oh no, he wants to wait and wait till its too late. Me, my Mom, and James (my sister's boyfriend) are trying really hard to find HIM a job and he's coming up with a bunch of stuff.
That's not what I'm mad about though.
Yes. I have been talking about moving back in for weeks but I need to get it settled otherwise they are packing up and moving out because they can't handle the bills themselves. I'm not pushing him into moving. I'm just trying to figure out what the hell we're doing because I'm tired of sleeping in recliners and floors. It's bad on my neck and my heart. I realize he is under stress. I know. I'm under stress too.
I have like 4 people breathing down my neck if I'm moving in, then the stressful process of moving all my shit back into the blue room, then I can't bring Puff back. Amy and James decided to get a dog even though our landlord strictly prohibited dogs. Puff was fine. He liked her.
But Zachary caused a fight last night.
I had been actually been enjoying my day off and went to the bingo with my mom and aunt. I had talked to him barely because my phone was dying so I told him I was turning it off so I can save battery. So him and I hadn't talk mostly all day.
I got home at 10 and I talked to him for like a half an hour then I ask about moving again and if he could call me. I totally understood but was bummed. So I was like alright, and he said we'd talk about it tomorrow and that he loved me. I said "...Night."
Him: Okay What?
Me: Nothing.
Him: You're making me very angry. I'm trying to work with you but I can't help that I'm fucking tired.
Me: Then go to fucking sleep.
Him: No because it's you! You're mad because I wanna sleep.
Me: No I'm not. Go to bed! You're tired go to bed.
Him: It's how you're acting. All I've been hearing for fucking weeks is Grove Grove Grove. Give it a fucking break. If you would have charged your phone we would have figured it out already. It's not going to kill you to wait 'till tomorrow. And when I said, "I love you, goodnight" and got "...Night" back, it kinda upset me. We will figure it out. I was gonna lay here and keep texting you but I'm pretty pissed. I will call you in the morning. G'night, I love you.
(And then I got pissed because I DIDN'T EVEN DO ANYTHING! The reason I put "...Night" was because I was upset we hadn't talked all day. We were being cute and funny when we had talked for a half an hour BUT THEN HE LOST HIS DAMN MIND! I got pretty pissed. Take a look.)
Me: Fuck you. Be pissed. How about you don't text me tomorrow. I don't even understand what the fuck your problem is, but the reason you've been hearing Grove Grove Grove is because you're not giving me straight answers. So how about this. You stay there and I'll stay here. Obviously that's what's going to happen anyway. So goodnight to you too.
His next response...really fucking hurt me.
Him: You keep fucking asking me and nothing has changed! I keep telling you mom's working on the job. I want to get my shit out of pawn. It's gonna be hard to get away from dad! So get your head outta your ass. Settle down and have a little bit of god damn patience. You of all people should know how I get after work or when I'm tired. I don't understand why you push and push and push.
Me: Thank you. Thank you for talking to me like that. Fuck you. Stop texting me.
Him: I'm done. I refuse to be mad. Calm the fuck down then text me.
Me: No. Goodnight.
Him: Between you, mom and dad, there's just a lot going on okay? It takes time to get this sorted out. We will discuss this tomorrow. I'm not wrong this time. You know that. I love you.
Me: Oh my God, you are nuts. You were the one that got an attitude with me. Whatever, goodnight.
And that was the end.
So...What do you think? Am I wrong? Is he wrong? Are we both wrong? Should we both just shut up and get over it?
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At the first sign of adversity, always leave the one you love. Â Everyone's doing it!
i think you should just get over it and sit down and explain to him why you want to get this figured out now.
@guest - Remember to forget about anyone who has ever truly cared for you! It's just unhealthy!
huh?
I read like 2 sentences of this article and got bored. You need to cue the audience into the blog with a little bit more background, a little less assumption we know your entire life history. But, this might be interesting to people who are into dramatic narratives.
When a guy doesn't get that "i love you, good night" back, it makes him feel really bad, especially if he said it to you. He feels like he's missing something from his night and it throws it all off and his mood gets a bit down. He's over reacting on it too. Maybe he really did run out of patience and you caught him at the worst of time. It's just unfortunate, and you both should sit down and have a talk about what is going on. Be mature and figure out a plan rather than bicker and not know what's going on.
You are both in the wrong and should grow up and get over it and talk through it. Like I said, figure out a plan.
You're nagging, and it's annoying him.
At the same time, he's tuning you out rather than giving you the attention a girlfriend deserves.
Oh, relationships.
I agree with the other commenters, you've both done wrong. It can be salvaged, but only if you both are willing to do the leg work. It sounds like you both need a good night's rest to mull over the situation and come up with solutions rather than just pointing fingers. Putting the blame on anything and everything won't solve anything. Own up to the situation, come up with some feasible solutions and try to make the plan work.
Who really cares whose wrong. Just sit down at a neutral time and talk about it like adults. Don't leave until both of you reached an agreement or compromise. Problem solved!
I simply don't understand.
If you "love" each other, you would respect each other not to curse at each other like that. I'd say do what you want (in the living situation) and let him work his issues out with that too. Do it separately. You're not married, right?
"I got home at 10 and I talked to him for like a half an hour then I ask about moving again and if he could call me. I totally understood but was bummed. So I was like alright, and he said we'd talk about it tomorrow and that he loved me. I said "...Night.""
--- wow. Grow up. Be nice. Don't be a bitch. Half an hour is plenty of time. You sound clingy. And it sounds like you're nagging him. He said he loved you and that he was tired. If you really understood, you would have said "Aww, okay, get some sleep and I'll talk to you tomorrow - I love you too", or something. Not just "...night.". That's rude, childish and bitchy. I'm sorry, but you wanted advice and I think you need to grow up and stop nagging him, and stop getting so upset when you're not his no.1 priority 24/7. He talked to you before bed. He could have ignored you and gone to bed without a care in the world, but he didn't - he made time for you, but you didn't appreciate it, and it still wasn't good enough for you because it wasn't on your terms.
Also, he says you're being pushy - and he's right. Accept the fact that when things change, he'll tell you. Don't nag him. You're pressuring him into making decisions that he probably can't make just now. You're making him feel bad for having other priorities and for having family members to think about as well. You are pushing him and he had every right to say what he said to you. I think you handled this entire thing extremely badly, and I think you owe him an apology for being so childish.
You're both wrong. He may have overreacted but a lot of guys I've talked to, they told me they like it when their girlfriends returned the same response in "I love you". But it seems like you over reacted by a mile. Stop pressuring him and being so childish about the things to get upset about.
maybe just cool off a bit and then talk again.
@written_conversations@xanga - what she said
@staythistime@xanga - Thank you for your advice. We actually apologized to each other the next morning. We're all okay now. Lol
@starcrossedloversdivine@xanga - I'm sorry that you found my blog boring. I was just trying to let everyone know what I was going through and what he was going through at the time. But thanks for commenting anyways. :)
@stanlee255@xanga - My boyfriend Zachary said that you really understood him and he thanks you for explaining it to me. We're doing okay and we both apologized for everything and have moved on. Thanks for being nice though :D
@lewk@xanga - Oh relationships indeed. Lol
@babybug329@xanga - Thank you. We did have a discussion on how it would all be handled and we're doing better. :)
@TiredSoVeryTired@xanga - No we are not married but in our hearts we are. He always thinks of me as a wife since I do everything a wife does, exspeically nagging apparently. Lol We have apologized to each other for what we've said. And we let it go on more than it should have and it all got out of control. But we love each other and we've forgiven. Thanks for commenting.
@written_conversations@xanga - :)
@o0_Innocent_0o@xanga - Thank you. I'll write that down.
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jesus, you shouldve just hung up after the first "i love you..goodnight"
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