I haven't had a lot of girl friends in the past. I always grew up hanging with the guys. It really excited me this past year that I had a group of girl friends that I was always hanging out with.
One of the girls who I got pretty close to, I found out, lied to me about a lot of things. Even if the lies weren't directed towards me or meant to hurt me, it still upset me a lot. Why? Because I hate liars. I mean, everyone lies and I know that, but she was a compulsive liar and it made me feel as though she saw me as a fool. On top of that, being her friend made me feel insecure about my relationship with my boyfriend.
I can't blame her for the way I felt, but I didn't like what she was doing as a friend. Whenever we were in a group of friends and I would bring my boyfriend, I'd catch her off on the side talking to him alone when everyone else was chilling together. Whenever he would talk to someone, she would go up to them and join their conversation.
They don't really know each other that well. They've only met on maybe 2 occasions? So I didn't understand why she was always following him around and talking to him whenever I'd be busy talking to someone else.
Whenever I was hanging out with her and he would call, she'd start getting loud and excited and sometimes, steal the phone from me to talk to him asking him why he doesn't come out more often. On my birthday, out of all the mutual friends we have, she went out of her way to get my boyfriend's number and asked if he was going to MY party and whether they should get something for me together or not. He said he already got me something and declined.
That night, when he and I were together, she came up to us telling us how she just broke up with her boyfriend and how jealous she was of us, but then I found out later that night that they were never broken up. I couldn't understand why she would lie about something like that. She did this with my best friend's boyfriend too on her birthday. While us girls were dancing at the club like we usually do, she was off on the side talking her boyfriend up.
Every guy friend I was close to, she tried to get close to them. She led 2 of them on and shut them down when they told her they liked her, and when they would get over her, she would go back to being really flirty with them and getting in the way of their current relationships with their girlfriends.
Another girl just loves to steal the spotlight from me all the time. Whenever I would say anything, she would either have to put me down, telling me and everyone else that what I just said was stupid or say something better to top it off. She kicks my ass in Chinese poker, but plays stupid when guys are present and makes them "teach her." She flirts with my ex, fully knowing that he's my ex. She flirted with a guy that I liked when I was single, telling him that he should go to this dance class with her (which he ended up going to and falling for her).
In her dance class is a married man with kids who she finds cute. I told her to lay off and not to ruin a family's life and her response was, "I don't need to hook up with him or anything, I just want to know he's interested in me," and now she wants to meet my boyfriend. I told her that my boyfriend wouldn't have fun hanging out with us and her response was, "I'm sure I can make him have fun."
I confronted her about how flirty she was being and she just played stupid acting as if she didn't realize. Maybe she really doesn't, but from what I know of her, I think it's kind of obvious. She's one person with me when it's just us and turns into a completely different person when guys are around. I find it really annoying.
I know that a lot of this has to do with me being insecure and I'm having some trouble dealing with it. I confronted both of them about it and both of them (so alike) played it off as if they didn't realize what they were doing. So, I just stopped talking to the both of them. Not only because they were just attention seeking whore, but because they treated me differently depending on the crowd we were with. Sometimes I feel like I don't even really know them.
Would you ever introduce your boyfriend to "friends" like them?
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There are plenty of attention whores on Lovelyish. Duh.
None of my friends are like this. We got something called respect for ourselves and each other.
Comparing such a creature of the Dark Realm to a sweet little kitty cat is raw injustice!
You've got to lose that babe before she does some real damage.
Not until I felt secure in the relationship and I would give the man some heads up as to what the girls were like... granted I wouldn't keep friends like them around. Because who knows what they say behind your back. Not saying they are talking behind your back but some girls will do anything to raise themselves up , even if it means stabbing everyone else along the way.
Time to find new friends.
And for just the record, no one can come in between your relationship with your s/o unless one of you allow them to.
".. and getting in the way of their current relationships with their girlfriends."
I just find this statement to be unfair like the guys were the victims. I'm pretty sure they played a part too.
Oh they were aware of their behavior...girls are evil. seriously. i had a roommate like this...she had to be better at me then everything and any guy i talked to (friend or more) she would try her hardest to get them to like her more. She even lied to our other friends about me to get them to not like me too...BUT GUESS WHAT...what goes around comes around and true colors eventually reveal themselves. people started seeing her for who she really was. she lost a lot of friends and all the guys she threw herself on realized how she was and didn't want to have anything to do with her. so her plan backfired.
i say good job on dropping them...just make sure it stays that way. i don't have time for drama with chicks like that and i'm sure you don't either.
My boyfriend has a female friend who is somewhat like that. When we went on a trip with her, the sides of her tits were hanging out and I could see the bottom of her ass hanging out of her shorts. Classy girl. She additionally dislikes me being with him since she gets less attention from him now.
I don't really waste my time over worrying about her because my boyfriend is a really good guy who's grounded in his morals, but it would very much please me if girls like her were slapped in the face every time they act like attention-desperate whores.
I mean, please. I love getting attention from guys, too - it's just that my daddy loved me enough so that I don't feel worthless if I'm not getting it all the time from every single guy.
Hate to break it to you but people like that aren't real friends...
Time to kick her away. She obviously does not respect the boundaries, even after confronting her about it. Put your foot down and let her know that if she is not going to change her behavior, you can't hang around her anymore.
I wouldn't be friends with her. Good luck!
most of my friends are tomboys, so they usually don't pull any skanky tricks like these. I knew of one attention whore but that was back in high school. now I have some older and more mature friends, who have common decency, so there are not many problems. find a new friend. I wouldn't include her in the gatherings anymore. I hate it when people pretend to act dumb aka two faced.
Honey, girls like that ARE NOT YOUR FRIENDS, even if she used to be a friend. You will find that through experience that your real friends are far and few. If you can count all the good friends on one hand, consider yourself very lucky. A great friend celebrates with you through the good times, sympathetic during the bad, can tell you the truth no matter what but accepts you just as you are. Having 2 awesome friends is worth so much more than a million acquaintances. You'd be better off not associating yourself with people like her.
dump the attention seeking snake and stay far, far away even if you have to exclude her in organizing an event with your mutual friends or MAKE NEW FRIENDS who actually respect and care for you.
i choose my friends really carefully...i don't have a lot of friends but that's bc that's my choice. i've had a lot of horrible friends in the past so it's made me bc a little skeptical about people.
Shit, fuck them bitches..... find some decent friends. No person you call your "friend," should be hitting on your dude like that, or constantly fighting you over the "spotlight" in the room. That's messed up. And if it were Me, I might have knocked them out for the "playing dumb" part.
You have a right to feel insecure because its obvious she is an attention seeking whore who likes to have any and all situations involving a man all about her.She plays innocent but believe me bitches like her know exactly what they are doing but trust me when one guy shoots her slutty ass down then she won't be so hot to trot.Shes no friend just another factor in why skanks like her ruin perfect relationships because they will spread their legs for anything that will look at them twice.And its not really hard to get those panties down because they probably fall off for every guy in town.She needs to grow up and get real before some angry woman puts her six feet under for sleeping with their man and believe me some bitches are crazy enough to kill when it comes to their lovers
So you met Jen in real life? xD
You did the right thing dropping them. Girls are fake a lot of the time. Especially once they discover how they can manipulate people based on good looks and charm. My best friend back in high school was exactly like the first girl you described, the only bad thing about it, I never realized she did it to every guy I liked and had dated/was dating/was friends with. I knew she was 'boy crazy', I knew she dropped guys once she was bored, but i didn't know she was going behind my back after every guy I was seeing and interested in. It was awful, I found out that she was over at my bf's house one weekend, (mind you this is the guy i had just lost my virginity to like 2 months prior) and she was lying to me about it the whole time. He and I had just broken up like the week before. I had known him since elementary school. She had met him once. We ended up in this huge fight, I told her I couldn't trust her anymore, and that anyone who would choose a guy over their best friend obviously didn't care enough about me and I didn't need to be friends with. She begged and begged me to forgive her, but I was just so disgusted with her I refused.
They dated for six months, and while she and I didn't talk anymore, I found out from a lot of friends and my exes that she had tried coming on to them all and how she kissed and slept with or tried to all of the guys I had been involved with while we were friends.
Moral of the story, you are better off without these people because they are just detrimental to our lives. We need good friends who are loyal and will protect our feelings and not sabotage relationships for their own selfish whims. Stick with your guy friends, mine haven't let me down yet, whereas most of my girl friends have screwed up time and time again. Maybe its in our girl nature and some of us just have more restraint than others when it comes to our primal jealousy and desire for attention. Good luck though, and steer clear of the girls like this!
I knew a girl like that, ended my friendship with her sooo many years ago LOL too desperate for me to deal with. BLEH
@zretrareo27@xanga - Nope but I could pretty much figure out sluts like her because I know alot of them and I find them to be pathetic excuses for women.Their always wanting when soon they will be screaming when some girl gets fed up with their stupidity and puts the fear of death in them.Their easy as they come.So loose its like falling in a ditch that ya cant get out of.Men like bitches like that but the relationships they make never last because their always wanting to fuck the next idiot who gives them a wink and when they contract something then maybe they might stop spreading their legs for the universe.
These girls have low self-esteem and they're taking it out on YOU. These girls sound like they need constant male approval in order to feel good enough to live.
.-. I don't blame you at all for the way you feel about it.
I hate girls like that. They aren't real friends. Especially when they need to put you down to make themselves seem better. Hate 'em. And the whole getting close to your boyfriend is just weird and fucking annoying. Why doesn't she just get her own boyfriend. It's good you don't talk to them anymore.I had a "friend" like that once. I'm not close to her anymore though. We sometimes talk but not that much anymore. A few years ago, I reconnected with one of my exes. When I met up with him, she was there with me and she was jealous when he commented that I was the prettiest girl in the room while she was there. She ended up sneaking behind my back with my ex because she didn't like the attention was on me. Any time a male shows me attention, she tries to take it away so I don't hang out with her much anymore. Finally she has a boyfriend who she supposedly is madly in love with so if I do ever bring a guy around her that I might have a crush on, hopefully I won't have to worry about that anymore.
I had a "friend" like that too. Except, she did it with EVERYONE - not just guys. If I ran into an old friend and we started talking, she'd run and be like "Me & Kate are BEST friends! I love her so much, she's awesome. We hang out all the time." and would make it sound like we were best buddies - when in fact we only hang out because of mutual friends. We are actually total, total, TOTAL opposites. In every way possible. So naturally we don't get along. But she is constantly hanging on guys left and right, calls fucking "dibs" on guys (who may or may NOT be interested in her, but either way - no other girl is allowed to talk to him!), acts like she's a "bad girl" in front of people who have bad reps, but is instantly an angel in front of anyone else (and in truth, she's a prude not a bad girl). She is just awful to deal with. I ditched her back in May. She still texts me 2-3x a week to go out to party, and I turn her down. No thanks.