Tuesday, 20 September 2011
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It's All About the He Said She Said
This post was submitted anonymously.With relationships, hook ups, and dating comes of course gossiping and drama if you're not careful who you hang out with.
For the past few years, I heard this girl named Kristin was gossiping about me. I had no clue who she was, I just know she was bad-mouthing me to no end for sleeping with her ex after not even knowing him for 3 days.
I did not sleep with him while they were officially together, I had no idea he was even still talking to his ex until she randomly Facebook friended me out of the blue...in a creepy way. I knew who she was but I didn't know I was hanging out with her ex. We went to the same college so I figured I'd accept her friend request. I didn't know it was connected to her ex as to why she wanted to "friend" me.
She's the type of girl that will publicize every personal detail of her life...and mine if she finds out about it.
Little did I know her ex was sharing our intimate details with her.
I found out some more information about this girl. When comparing me versus her, I was only with 7 people at the time I was hanging out with her ex. She's a year younger than me and had already been with 31 people at that point, yet she was calling me a slut based off of one experience I had. I'm only at 14 people now, but I've been with the same person for a couple of years. And every time I hook up with some one, I get with only one guy during one time period.
I've started to not care about what people think of me, at least the ones who bad mouth me and don't even know me personally. When I get with a guy, whether or not it's a random hookup/fling or relationship, I get with one guy during one cycle...so at least I don't have to guess and go through the trouble of figuring out who the baby daddy is if anything were to happen...and I get called a slut by people who've had abortions because of random hook ups and not knowing who the baby daddy was since they've gotten with at least 3 guys during one cycle.
Was I the one with an abortion to cover up stupid mistakes? Nope. I didn't put myself in that situation to have to deal with that difficult decision.
Are you guilty of gossiping about someone to make them look bad? Has someone done this to you? As for me, whenever I talk about someone, I make sure to get my facts straight before I say anything so I don't look dumb. It's funny how when I'm right about someone, they're like who am I to judge someone's past. Bob Marley once said, "Who are you to judge the life I live? I know I'm not perfect and I don't live to be, but before you start pointing fingers, make sure your hands are clean."
Then again, I'm too busy living my own life to care about what other people are doing with theirs to gossip about them, unless I'm catching up with friends of course after not having seen/talked to them for a while.
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Comments (37)
I've only had sex with one person ever.... and gossip has never affected me, either I've never heard it or no one's ever gossiped about me. Strange.
I don't gossip, nor am I affected by gossip.
if you don't care, then why even submit an anonymous blog about it to be seen publicly
cease all contact with anyone prone to gossip and my life has been mostly drama free.
cheyeah. i had my personal life spread all over campus my the ex-girlfriend of a hookup i had years earlier. of course, she wouldn't have known about it if the guy i was seeing hadn't been telling all his friends, so needless to sa i ended it with the guy :\
also, what's with this "cycle" stuff? do girls really sleep with so many guys a month they have to use thier period to divide their sex life into manageable segments? 0.o
@dynamicstars@xanga - yeah i was kind of taken aback by this "cycle" thing too. wtf? to the author: i don't know how old you are, but maybe you should take it easy for a bit... or go on birth control. it's a bit worrisome that you have to categorize your sex partners by menstrual cycle dates. please be safe!
@dynamicstars@xanga - I was just wondering the same thing. Definitely a new one to me.
@xxSilverxWingsxx@xanga - How about stop assuming someone's age and just answer the question?
I've still dealt with this bullshit in college and I thought this type of shit was supposed to end in high school. Ironically I've had more drama in college than in high school.
Yeah I'm sure you'd be fine with some bitch broadcasting your exaggerated sex life in her facebook notes.
Oh 14 people is sooooooo many people *rolls eyes.*
I'm not the one that has been with many people. If you actually read my entry you'll see that the people who talk shit about me are the ones who've been with many people. The girl who thinks I can't keep my legs closed has publicly admitted that she's been with 61 people and she thinks she can call me a "slut" when I haven't even reached 15 people.
Another thing I've noticed are that the people who do actually get around, joke with their friends about being a slut, too. That's not something I would joke about, but whatever floats people's boat.
Normally, I don't let gossip bother me because I have better things to do with my time than talk about people and assume people's ages, when last time I checked drama happens with people of all ages, not just people in high school. An entry before me was talking about supposed "grown" even married "adults" having drama and I'm the one who gets assumed to be a "young" age, haha, funny shit.
The people who would actually believe that gossip aren't people I'd be hanging out with anyway. This one only infuriates me mainly because this whole entire time this "woman" has been bad mouthing me she had an ABORTION! to cover up her stupid random meaningless hook ups. She bashes her ex for getting with someone he doesn't even know yet she's been doing the same exact thing this entire time to the point where she actually got pregnant and aborted a baby.
Funny how I'm the "slut" in her eyes even though I've never had to abort a baby because I can actually protect myself to not be in that kind of situation.
wtfffffffffff
fake post
this site is a fucking trashy trash heap, who the fuck moderates this shit
It's amusing how people will automatically assume someone's young/in high school when talking about drama. I don't think some of you give high schoolers enough credit. At least when they have drama they're acting their ages. These "women" who are in college and after college do nothing but spread vicious rumors and they've graduated from high school and college.
More like whenever someone starts talking about drama, I'm gonna be assuming they're out of college because these days the people who have a crap ton of drama are people in college.
In high school I never had this much bullshit that's because I didn't have sex then for people to be spreading rumors about me.
STOP WRITING ABOUT IT ONLINE FOR EVERYONE TO SEE
what counts as gossip? aren't
most(no all) of the writers on this site essentially writing trashy gossip columns or gossiping publicly in the comments about their own love lives, thus initiating the gossip in the first place, utsually out of a need for attention? where is the line drawn? honestly this whole community is a cesspool.
I wonder if people would actually admit to speaking ill about someone even if they did do it. Doubt it. I've done it myself, talking badly about someone because I was jealous that they hooked up with almost every person I liked I Never had a chance with. At least the bad things I say about them are true, not like the people who spread rumors about me. I've even had guys say I've hooked up with them when I never did.
Sounds like you just talked a lot of mad shit. And unless you were with her while she had sex with 31 guys and then had an abortion, you really have no idea what is going on.
@P0RCELA1N_D0LL@xanga - That's the way to be, but aren't you gossiping, too? How is that better than gossip/where do you draw the line? This is essentially a gossip website, i.e. made and created for gossip.
haha that's funny. look at all the anonymous comments XD
What's with all the anonymous comments? lol
all this drama sounds like some hyper extended, some crap from middle school.
It's sad how people do weird things to get attention from people when they make shit up about people they don't even know. If it doesn't bother you, then move on. you don't need to write about it, do you?
@DUH - I sense someone is guilty of this.
@kor_girl@xanga - @Kill_GaryLarson@xanga - true that.
I really think you need to get an STD test if you haven't yet.
@Anonymous - it is a gossip website, but the original blogger directly said, "I'm too busy living my own life to care about what other people are doing with theirs to gossip about them..." so if she DOESN'T CARE, then why post it on here to spread more gossip?!
the point is she cares.
This post confuses me on many levels.
Like, personally I can't imagine sleeping with 14, much 31 people. That kind of baffles my mind. I'm only 18 but one has been very satisfactory for me.