First impressions matter. Although guys put a good amount of emphasis on looks when it comes to sexual attraction, women can be just as affected. Never trust a woman who says she only cares about what's on the inside. 

Yep, I was 50 pounds heavier than I am now and it is true, people treat overweight people so poorly.  It is very sad.  I like that you are taking the attitude that you are.  So many who lose weight became judgmental.  Good luck to you!!  :)  I am sure you will continue to gain confidence.  

Let me start off with I'm glad to hear you lost all that weight, that your feeling better about yourself, and congratulations sir!

I would argue though that people, especially women, aren't necessarily treating you differently just because of your weight loss. From losing all that weight you obviously gained a much more positive and confident view of yourself, which it turn makes you more attractive. In other words, your change in personality and attitude towards life is what has made you more appealing.

As a guy your actually lucky because women place far more emphasis and importance upon a man's personality rather than his looks. Whereas for a woman, men are inherently shallow, and it's much more difficult for us to look past her appearances.

On topic of food addiction though, I hate it when people discount it. An addictive personality is a serious issue no matter what outlet it ends up going through. And either way it's sad and painful to watch. There's a vast difference between someone who is lazy and someone who has a legitimate problem. For instance my father consumes huge quantities of the food and is stagnant for most of his day, it's no surprise that he's overweight. Whereas my mother on the other hand, gained quite a bit over the years because she was clinically depressed. She got help, medication, and lost all the weight. Lazy v.s. legitimate issue.

Have I been through a similar experience? Again I've never been overweight but I have had poor body image issues over the years thanks to the aforementioned parents above. My appearance and anything/everything that I did or didn't do was picked at. Needless to say I didn't have a positive view of myself and I actually thought of myself as overweight for awhile (I was closer to a twig).

Either way this is me being over-analytical and endlessly rambling. Who cares?! Your healthy and happy! Congrats again!

I'm pretty much living that right now. I've been overweight for most of my life and have been treated accordingly. People, not just women, treat overweight people much differently than the thinner people. Doesn't matter the gender. For some people, it's not a matter of being able to lose the weight. Some people are genetically predisposed to being overweight. People are treated different and get acted toward in a different manner than those are thinner. This is speaking from experience.

why are some overweight people of both genders aren't attracted to others, who are also overweight, but they are attracted thin or average weight people...so thin people, who aren't attracted to overweight, can't be considered shallow, since some overweight people aren't even attracted to similar to their own weight people either. some are, but I was just saying that if the people that think thin or attractive people are shallow because they are attracted to good looking people, but so are they, so it would make them a hypocrite and some overweight people aren't exempt from being shallow.

I've been on the other end of the weight spectrum where I was thin or considered too skinny by some and they didn't find me attractive, so they criticized me. attraction is subjective, so some people found me attractive the way that I am. I'm usually attracted to thin and athletic guys. it is an aesthetic appeal and partly sexual, too, because I don't think overweight people have that much stamina in bed, just saying.

Men treat thinner women differently than heavier ones too, I think it's an across the board gender truth (typically). One of the reasons is due to confidence because even I have noticed that I am much more confident when I am thinner. I am also much more outgoing and my moods are better because I have energy from being more active.
I also think that we can all say that having sex with more in-shape folks is a better experience so  when it comes to dating, in shape in sexy.

shoulda stayed chubby cause i know a lot of girls that are chubby chasers

I know how it is. Fat girls get treated like crap!! I'm overweight and I get ignored by guys. I signed up on an online dating site, but I'm afraid to send a message to certian guys because of my weight. There aren't many guys who like big girls.

I know I need to lose the weight. I'm trying, but its hard! I know I need to try harder. I'd rather just be single than end up with someone who will criticize my weight.

i totally agree with you, i used to be be overweight, and people in general, not just guys (im a girl btw lol) just kind of were nice to me when they wanted something. I lost quite a lot of weight (around 10kg) and people were becoming more drawn to me - but that may have been because i was alot happier, idk- now ive put on a bit of weight, im not overweight, but im noticeably heavier... people dont take as much notice of me. guys dont try to start as many conversations with me.

So... when you were fat you were only attracted to thin girls, and felt bad that they were only attracted to thin men. Now that you're a thin man, are you going to defy vanity and date fat girls? Doubtful because the real moral of the whole story is that fat people are unattractive. Sure some people are into that kinda thing, but there's plenty of out-of-the-norm fetishes, so don't respond to me with something about chubby chasers. The only people who date fat people are other fat people or otherwise unattractive people because of lack of option. It sucks, its sad, it's vain. That's the world we live in.

Being overweight is unhealthy. Though some people have certain biological differences that cause them to be overweight, generally it is brought on by excess eating and most of the time combined with little to no exercise in that person's daily life.

It is how you live your life. Other people might not see that your lifestyle can suit theirs, therefore both are incompatible. You might not see that but the other person does. You aren't being rejected because of only your physical factor, though it might seem like you are. If that was true then there wouldn't be so many ugly guys with beautiful women. It is generally known that overweight people do not have healthy lifestyles, and therefore will be unattractive to average to slim women.

On another note, I am not attracted to very bulky guys who spend too much time on their appearance and not enough on more intellectual pursuits.

my ex boyfriend gained 40 pounds over the two years that we were dating and i still think he is so handsome :)