Tuesday, 13 September 2011
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How Do I Tell My Boyfriend I Might Be Pregnant?
Okay, so, my boyfriend and I have been together for 5 months and recently, I have been having brown discharge and some abnormal symptoms such as: tiredness, hunger/cravings, bloating, and breasts swelling.
I'd like to know what my chances are of being pregnant because I really want to tell him but I don't want to worry him if it's not, well, there. We had sex almost two weeks ago and he came inside me. I was on birth control but for only two weeks. I stopped taking it two days or so after he came inside me.
Do you know my chances of being pregnant? And if I am, how should I tell him?
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Honestly, the only way to be able to tell is taking a test. It's really difficult to say because for me, I get a lot of pregnancy like symptoms when I PMS, and before birth control I only got it every two months, so believe I had mannny pregnancy scares (I'm just overly paranoid, I had safe sex.) Go take a test IMMEDIATELY. It's better to know early. You can get them from the Dollar Store, and they're the same as the $10 or $15 ones you can buy from Walgreens (everyone I know uses these). You should probably know first before you worry him about it. But if you are, there's really no way around it other than telling him straight up that you're pregnant, and you guys can go from there on how you're going to handle it. I've talked to my boyfriend about the possibility if I ever got pregnant so we know what we'd do in that situation.
birth control is effective 24 hours after you first take it if you take it the day your period begins. if you begin taking it on any other day, it is effective within a week.
brown vaginal discharge could be a late exit of the uterine lining if your period ended recently; this would mean that the brown vaginal discharge is of no concern. in more serious cases, brown vaginal discharge is a symptom of cervical cancer or pelvic inflammatory infection. i highly suggest that you go to a gynecologist, who will check for both along with pregnancy. brown vaginal discharge is not a common symptom of pregnancy.
Get a pregnancy test, then tell him if it says yes. Be honest, and quite frankly, if you're having sex, you should discuss it regardless.
why don't you just take a test?
and remember
no glove no love!
Take the test first. If you are, then you need to tell him. If you aren't then you can choose either to tell him that you had a pregnancy scare (add on what you will to this "we need to be more careful") or you don't have to.
I had this happen a long time ago. Told my boyfriend before I took the test. He was supportive of me, but freaked out a little. So glad when it came back negative!
Don't tell him unless you know for sure that you're pregnant. You haven't missed a period yet, and all the symptoms your describing can also be attributed to the fact that you're due to get your period. If you miss your period, get a test and if it comes back positive, talk to him and decide where to go from here.
However, even if you're not pregnant, you need to be more strict about protecting yourself. Condoms are free from places like Planned Parenthood and there are no good reasons for him not to wear one. Why did you stop your birth control after two weeks, too? If you're not using condoms, you need to be doing something to stop yourself getting pregnant.
Take him on a shopping trip. To Baby Gap.
If I were you, I'd find out immediately if I was or wasn't pregnant. (Take a pregnancy test...or 10. Dollar stores offer inexpensive options and are as accurate as drugstore types.) If you're not, and only experiencing extra discharge before your period, you don't need to mention it. If you and your boyfriend do not plan on having children soon, both of you should practice safe sex. Birth control is not 100% effective, so you should discuss what will happen should you become pregnant. If he's not mature enough to have this conversation (or about using protection), perhaps, he's not mature enough to be engaging in sexual behavior with you. Best wishes.
i really don't think birth control works properly until a month after you start taking it.. until then, you should've been using a condom.. that was a little silly of you.
as for how to tell him-- tell him. people normally use their voices to communicate.
i'd just tell my bf that sort of thing. i was freaked the day after we first had sex, because i had just started BC and wasn't sure if it had kicked in yet, so i ended up taking plan B. granted, i get freaked out about it often, probably a little over-protecting, but still: rather waste some $30-$50 using protection, getting condoms, plan B, etc; then several $hundred K raising a little me.
@kidoncocaine@xanga - is right. I remember my doctor telling to use a condom for one month until my body adjusts to the birth control pill.
do a home pregnancy test. tell him and then go to the doctor get a blood test done to get a much more accurate result.
Do NOT tell your boyfriend until you have seen a positive test on your little prego stick. Some guys might take that in a bad way, a manipulative way. Then you will get them worried and stress. Just don't. I have been exactly where you are before because chances are high when you have unprotected sex. It's too soon to take a test now, patience is a virtue. Just relax and don't think about it. If you miss your next period, get the test. If you aren't positive, go see a doctor. This is a tough time because there isn't much you can do right now but wait. I'm sure you are fine. Some girls can even think themselves pregnant and get ALL the signs of pregnancy, even bloating to the point where they look prego, and then they aren't.
@kidoncocaine@xanga - Birth control is effective after a day if you start it the day you start your period, otherwise it's effective after a week.
@scribbles - thank you for backing me up, as i was sure it was one month until you're in the clear. i'm not sure why the author of this blog entry didn't pay attention to this.
you obviously need to read the box that your pills come in...
Especially on low estrogen birth control, if they cum without a condom, or the condom breaks, there is a chance of pregnancy. A test is probably the only way to know.
The only way to know for sure if you're pregnant or not is to take a test. If it's positive, yes, tell your boyfriend. If not, don't. Just make sure you take your birth control and use every protection to prevent you from getting pregnant if you don't want a child now.
A grrrlll just has to man up and wait til she is sure before she drops the P-bomb on her boyfriend.
Otherwise you are just using him as a pit pot the same way he is using you as a sperm recepticle.
@FIREExATxWILL@xanga - that may be so, but your body doesn't adjust until after a month, so accidents can happen.
if what you're saying is true, then why did this girl get pregnant, if she was apparently taking her BC correctly?
Not to be blunt but, take a test and buy some condoms.
@kidoncocaine@xanga - One, she doesn't know that she's pregnant yet. Two, she stopped taking it. But yes, accidents can happen even taking birth control properly.
Do NOT tell him ANYTHING until you see an OBGYN doc. Brown discharge is a bit concerning and usually doesn't happen if you're pregnant (your period usually stops)-but the other symptoms you have are typical for pregnancy.
uh.. you shouldn't be pregnant. the pill starts working within a week. and i dont think u get brown discharge even if you are. you should see a gynecologist asap