Saturday, 03 September 2011

• Do You Go With Your Gut Instinct or Go Where the Night Takes You?

  
  In the past, whenever I've had a bad feeling about a guy, I didn't listen to myself and gave him a chance anyway.

  A few years ago, I met this guy Derek.  Red flags showed up when he asked me to be his girlfriend the first night I met him. I told him I only mess around with guys I date because I had a feeling he just wanted to hit it and quit it.  I'm not that type of girl.  However, I was kind of lonely at the time and I hadn't had a boyfriend in over a year or two.  I should have rejected him again when he asked me out in a Facebook message; but because he was being so persistent, I figured I'd finally give him a chance. 

  We hung out unofficially for two weeks and I even met his family, though I didn't want to.  He's the kind of guy who's really close with his family. Is it just me, or is this extremely weird to meet someone's family after only knowing the guy for a whole two weeks?

  We officially got together the next day, only for him to break up with me a mere 12 hours later after introducing me to everyone.  A few weeks later he started getting with someone else and introduced her, too.  I should have known it would end with him breaking up with me in a text.  After all, he asked me out in a Facebook message. 
  
  I'm thinking...seriously...people still pull these stunts when they're in their twenties?  This guy was 21 when he did this to me.  I read a similar post on here where someone broke up with someone in a text, but they did that in high school! 
  
  Still, I had wanted to be friends with him because there was nothing there to really get over since it barely started.  He would comment on my statuses sometimes, yet wouldn't take the time to hang out as actual friends, so I deleted that punk off Facebook.  Whenever I'd see him out, I'd say hi just to be nice and then walk away. 

  So the next time I met a guy, Paul, I thought I played it right.  Paul and I were both out at the bars one night celebrating our birthdays. His friends and my friend set me up with him even though I was more interested in his roommate, but I went with the flow anyway.  I had yet another feeling that this was the type of guy who would meet me that night and never call me back after the first night he'd met me.

  We went back to his place and played beer pong with his friends, then after a while I went upstairs with him.  Since it was my birthday night, too, I had really wanted to get some b-day nookie, but I also wanted a guy to be my friend to call me back after. At this point, I was just tired of guys manipulating me, so I did not give him anything, not even a BJ.  We just hard core made out and dry humped.  I actually flat out told him I was trying to be good for a while and he respected my wishes. 
  
  I was not surprised at all that he did not pick up my calls nor did he answer my texts after that night, to which I was really glad I never gave him what he wanted. 

  Listen to your intuitions.  More often than not, my gut instincts have been right.  If I had listened to a lot of my intuitions about the guys I met, I could have saved myself from a lot of unnecessary drama. 
  
  Do you ever listen to yourself about someone you meet, or do you just go with the flow?
  
  Submitted by Anonymous at Datingish. 

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