Okay, so here's the deal. My boyfriend and I have been fighting lately. Well, I've been getting angry with him, is more like it. The reason I've been getting upset is simple. I want to spend more time with him.
Out of the past two and a half weeks, I cannot think of an occasion where he was not with friends. Any night that he and I are not spending time together, if he is not working, he will be out with friends. I understand the importance of being with friends and I by no means want to see him 24/7. It's just that out of that two and a half week period, I can count the times he's been with me on one hand.. almost. And of those times he's been with me, only THREE have been just US. Every other time one of his friends has also been there.
I'm okay with that too. But today I was craving quality time. It's one of his days off from work and I texted him early in the day to "reserve my spot" with him, because I usually have to be early, otherwise he'll have other plans. But he tells me he doesn't think we can hang out because he's going to be with friends whom he was with last night, and the night before, and the night before. He said they'd be going to a game. And when I texted later in the night to see if said game was over, he told me they hadn't even gone.
It just doesn't make sense to me that he wouldn't try to make plans if the plans with his friends had fallen through. It doesn't make sense to me that he texts me after I bring this up to him and says, "I don't know what you want me to do. I can't hang out with you every night."
I hate being the one to have to initiate hanging out. I hate feeling like I'm the only one in this relationship who needs quality time. He claims that he won't see these friends as much when we go to college. But he won't be seeing much of me either as we are going to different colleges. I guess I just don't understand why he can tell me that he loves me and that he wants to have a relationship with me, yet want to spend most of his time with his friends instead of me.
I don't know If I chalk it up to him being young or him not really being as invested in this relationship as i thought he was.