Thursday, 01 September 2011
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The Clothes That Can Never Be Worn Again
A few weeks ago, when my boyfriend and I were having lunch, I saw a guy wearing a Boston Red Sox hat walk by us. I remembered that in my eboyfriend box, somewhere hidden in my closet at home, I have the same hat, given to me by my first boyfriend.
“Did Z. ever give you clothes as a present?” I asked my boyfriend.
“She gave me this shirt once. Why do you ask?” he replied.
“Do you still wear it?”
“Sometimes.”
“Oh. That doesn’t make you feel weird at all?”
“No, not really. Should it make me feel weird?”
I listed the things my exes have given me: a baseball hat, some shirts, a few bracelets. I told my boyfriend that I tried to wear some of that stuff after those relationships were over, but it felt a little uncomfortable for some reason. I got that feeling like they were watching me whenever I wore what they gave me.
Though I am on pretty good terms with most of my exes, I haven’t had a single mutual breakup. Or one that wasn’t wrought with days of argument and bitter feelings for a while. I assume the reason I can’t get comfortable wearing any of my exes gifts is because none of those relationships ended well, and sometimes I can’t help but think of those memories when I see those gifts.
Do you have an article of clothing an ex gave you? Do you still wear it, or does it bring up some bitter memories when you look at it?
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Uh, I'm much larger now, so if I try to put on the old clothes given to me, the clothes won't fit
Most of my sleepwear consists of clothing from ex-boyfriends or guys I dated. I have a couple of regular shirts and hoodies from exes as well that I wear on a regular basis. If it's still wearable, I don't see why I shouldn't wear it. I don't have any emotional connection to those people anymore, therefore why should I take a perfectly good article of clothing out of my closet?
I do not, however, wear the ring or earrings given to me by either of my exes. The earrings because they aren't my taste and the ring because it was supposed to be an engagement ring.
I've never really gotten emotionally attached to anything I've ever gotten. Half the time I can't even remember what was a gift or who gave it to me. So no, I've never had an issue with it.
Ha-ha, I threw away everything my ex-boyfriend gave me.
I have a hoodie that the recent ex bought me. I still wear it. After all, it's just a hoodie. But I understand where you're coming from.
I also have boxers from the prior two exes.
I didn't let my bf wear anything from an ex. Instead, I bought him new stuff. Like his belt and watch was from an ex, i bought him new ones. So, because i expect him to wear what i gave him, he naturally has to put away stuff from the ex. hehehe
I have a shirt I keep because it was a real help to me at the time. Clothes were never really good gifts though for me... I reckon now it would be much easier!
Yeah, my ex basically bought clothes for me. I still wear them, but no emotional connection tied with the clothing. You have to learn to like things again because of what it is. It is just a shirt. And it's a nice shirt, I'm not going to throw it out.. We did buy matching couple shirts. I put those away. She did give me a pair of HER sweats that I still wear. It fits me and it's a nice pair. Clothes are just clothes. It's all in your head.
I've never gotten clothes from an ex, but I don't really see what the big deal is. Lingerie is another story though...I've had things in the past that I'd bought for an ex, but those went straight to the trash after the breakup. There's no way I could wear them with another guy!
I have a hat that my ex gave me... I used to have a lot of shirts whatnot, but I ended up putting them all in a box and sending them to Goodwill.
The only article of clothing my ex got me was a band t-shirt, and since I no longer like the band, I got rid of the shirt. I wore it a few times while I was single but stopped wearing it when I started a new relationship. I also requested my bf get rid of some of his gf's stuff he had, and he did without complaint.
my past loves were good things-- so yeah i still wear my exes hoodie at home sometimes.
I gave my stuff to the thrift store. It's not like I paid for it and it's better than throwing it away.
I had a bracelet my ex gave me. I tried to wear it after we broke up, but there were too many memories attached.
Uh...I have a few things of my ex's that I use regularly still...because that was their point. XD
We're trying to work on being good friends again...so until then...I'll have to stay clear of wearing his clothes...it does feel weird atm. Especially knowing he's interested in another girl XD.
I gave the jersey my ex gave me back to him. Shipped it a couple thousand miles. I wore it shortly after we broke up, but I realized it would just make me sad as time progressed.
Still have things that my ex gave me. Hoodies, t-shirts, hell I even have a pair of his socks he let me borrow. It's no big deal. I think of him when I wear it but in a good way. Good memories :)
It made me sad at first, but I got over that sadness. What we had was good, and we couldn't go back. Nothing I can do about that, so why would I throw out the clothes :3?! But I understand where you're coming from. it just depends on the person.Hell no... to many memories, laughs, tears.... It just makes me think of him, and how MUCH I loved him. In the end he cheated on me....
boxers, I have a pair that I used to wear to sleep. not anymore
Days of argument?! Holy cow girl how do you do that? Try months of arguing.
I still have some of the jackets he left at my place (we had a very abrupt cold turkey kind of breakup). I'm thinking of using them to fuel a bonfire for BBQ.
i dont get emotionally attached to items of clothing so this has never been a prob.em for me - i dont care if my boyfriend wears stuff from his ex either.
I never really got clothes as a gift. I had DVDs as a gift because I love watching movies. I kept them while I got rid of everything else that my ex gave me. Like this Mario and Luigi doll he gave me. It's not really weird. Because it's something that I really wanted. Even if we aren't on good terms, anymore. But then again half of the DVDs he bought for me got stolen...
I gave him all his shirts and sweatshirts back right away. But I put all the little 25 cent rings, and bracelets, and silly things we had bought together in a box. I don't want to look at that stuff. But I see him and his new girlfriend around. He still wore the necklace I gave him, but he stopped. And the shirts that I got from school while I was away. Still wears those too.
I never received clothes, but I think I would want to give it back upon breakup. I wouldn't want things to remind me.