Tuesday, 30 August 2011
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Dear Long Distance Boyfriend,
Ever since our first phone call, I've been questioning if you lied to me or not. Your accent isn't what you told me it was and that put up a huge red flag for me. Its been eating away at me for some time now. If you lied to me about that, what else are you lying to me about? Your name? Where you live? Your whole life story?
I've been going back and forth about this in my mind. On one hand, I know I do have issues with letting people get close to me that way, because of how hurt I was in the past. I know I make up things in my head to convince myself not to get close to somebody. But on the other hand, I can't help but ignore the little things that make me question your identity. I get feelings that I cannot ignore and sadly these feelings that something is off are usually right.
If you did, how could you? Its been over six months. I fought for you. I believed in you. I fought everybody who warned me, telling them that they're wrong.
I hope I'm wrong.
How should I confront him? What if I'm right? How do I redeem myself to those I doubted?
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Or maybe his accent just wasn't what you thought... That doesn't mean he lied. You're basing all this fear on his accent? Kind of a dumb thing to lie about anyway when he's going to be talking on the phone with you...
Instincts. Listen to them. He may be totally legit, but he's online, you've never met him, you know very little of anything about him in reality......therefore he shouldn't be your boyfriend to begin with. :)
Well are you Facebook friends with him? It's actually kind of hard to fake a Facebook person fully.
That and call him and use a webcam.
And remember you're dating an internet persona. Maybe it's a lot like him and maybe it's not, but that's the risk that you're taking. Always be ready for him to be a bit different IRL.
So you never MET this bf?! -facepalm-
I was expecting to read a letter from some gf struggling to keep up the relationship with their ld bf 'cause of distance issues. Wtf did I just read..
people lie on the internet, so if you even suspect the tiniest bit I would run, and stop being stupid, and your the vampire chick right?
@xsimplepleasuresx@xanga - totally agree.
Skype and/or Facebook friending will solve all of your doubts. Moreso Skype than fb.
It's really your fault for dating someone before meeting them. I don't feel bad.
Walk away, and let it go.
These days it is much easier to tell if someone is who they say they are. If they have a facebook and friends that clearly know him IRL, and lots of pictures, you are good to go. Webcam is also a great way of verifying someone is the age/gender/description. If all that checks out, the only stuff someone can really lie to you about it the same stuff they can lie about if you met them in real life.
When I was 13, before facebook or any of that, before webcams were easy to get, I was in an "internet relationship" with someone who supposedly lived 15 minutes away. He told me he didn't have a phone. And one day he disappeared out of the blue (from aim and from the message board we met). He appeared a month later with some weird story, disappeared again. I'll never know the truth. Why? Because I was dumb enough to believe someone didn't have a phone. Because I was young and had yet to figure out how easy it would have been to meet up and hang out if he was telling the truth. With the next guy, we talked on the phone a little, and met in person after a couple of months. He still ended up being completely fucked up mentally, but at least I knew he was a real person. I've searched the name of the first guy many times. It couldn't have been his real name. I still will always wonder where he got the one picture of the boy and the picture that was supposedly his sister Teva. I just don't know. Don't do that to yourself, get confirmation. I'm 21, and I still will never know if my first "boyfriend" was for real.