Monday, 29 August 2011
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Serial Daters
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Gotta love Facebook for having people publicize when a person breaks up with someone and then gets into a new relationship with someone else.
I swear this one girl gets boyfriends all the time, I think the most she's ever been single was a month tops and now she's with a new guy. How do they do it?
I don't think I'd be able to get into a relationship with someone else right away, I'd need some time alone to figure things out especially if I just got out of a 3 to 4 year relationship. She was with her previous boyfriend for at least 3 to 4 years and already is dating someone new as though that previous relationship was nothing. And because she publicizes everything about her love life...even "PG 13" pictures (thanks for that), the entire Facebook knows it was an amicable break up with her and her ex.
She does this with every other boyfriend whenever they break up, too.
I guess I see it as, if they knew their previous relationships didn't work out, there's no point in crying about it after for too long, but still. It's like they define themselves with being in relationships and are never really single.
How long do you wait until you get into a new relationship with someone else when your previous relationship ended?
What do you think of serial daters? Are you a serial dater?
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I always waited till somebody came along that I wanted to date. Didn't matter how long. If it was a bad break up, it took more time to heal until I wanted to date again.
i know that i need my time to be single after a serious breakup; they always alter my view of the world, so i need time to figure everything back out again. but then, i snatched my bf up about a month after he broke up with his ex of 3 years. but to be fair we had been best friends all along. idk if that makes it better or worse, but we are an awesome couple either way, and its been over 3 years since then lol. so we joke that in the past 6-7 years he's only been single one month, but he's totally fine with that. what was my point again? meh, don't define yourself by your relationships, but don't run away from love if it is there when its there and its real.
I haven't a clue what a serial dater is
I've only been in 3 serious relationships (I'm on my third now). After my first big break up, I waited about 5 months before dating again; after my second big break up, I waited about 8 months before I started dating again. All of my relationships have been long term and every time I broke up, my wait was ended by going into another long term. I don't really see dating as a sport for me.
I didn't always date seriously. Some of my relationships were just short and fun, one after the other, because I got bored easily and neither of us wanted to settle down.
Wait, are you talking about my ex? This sounds SO familiar. She's from Taiwan and had a bf for awhile but broke up. Got another one, broke up. Then came to America and immediately got a new bf. Broke up after 1.5 years. Got another one in a month or two and broke up with him. Then got with me and we lasted almost 4 years. Broke up with me and got with another one in like a week. It's so fucked up.
Depends how long the relationship was. Mine lasted almost 4 years and it was my first love. It's been 6 months and I'm feeling pretty good. I'd wait another 2-3 more months before I feel like I could/should be in a relationship again. I am definitely loving this "me" time and doing things I SHOULD be doing. (school, working out, work, etc)
I've never been a serial dater
For me, it's about taking a break, in-between the breakups. I've been in some long term relationships, and they take alot of energy and all that to navigate away from. Several 3 year relationships and my current one has passed the 5 year mark, so I must be doing something right.
I couldn't ever date multiple people at once or every couple of weeks. Too much chaos.
i used to be a serial dater. i wanted the relationship more than i wanted the person. i realize the difference now. i don't think i could start a relationship with someone i didn't really like, and that takes a while to develop.
Takes me the same amount of time as the relationship itself to move on. 2 years for 2 years. Time spent with someone means a lot to me, so I can never ever move on quickly. I am hoping that an "or at all" does not get inserted in that sentence sometime soon...
With one person, it didn't work out, but I knew them for a while and we went on a few dates right after my last relationship. It usually takes me months or even years between people though.
after one relationship is over, I take a vacation, because being in a relationship can be exhausting and I tend to see guys as bothersome pests afterwards. I need my single time to recover and be free. then when I meet another guy and he meets my standards, then I might give it a try. I don't always need a guy around to accompany me to places just so I won't go alone. I don't settle for mediocre:D
I HATE serial daters. My former best friend, cousin and ex do this~_~'' totally different values from me. Like how the hell do you even find a new person within a week?? Do they choose it at random? Though for my ex it's a different story, he cheated. I could never understand this mindset of being a serial dater and I wouldn't like to date one either.
i used to be a serial dater. i used to wait about 1-2 months after a relationship ended to jump into the next one but i stopped doing that bc i was dating all the wrong men. the longest i've been single is about a year and a few months now. pretty good i say. this time is all about me now.
Not sure if I am a serial dater. When my first bf left me, I was crying my eyes out. A friend suggested I get myself a rebound to keep my mind distracted. Well, the rebound turned into a real relationship, not because I forced myself to love someone I didn't like, but because he turned out to be wonderful and shared my dreams.
I don't judge people who need to date to keep their minds off of a broken heart. Even if a break-up is amicable because they see that they don't fit each other well doesn't mean nobody's hopes or heart are broken.
Hello, OP, I'm a serial dater. (AA introduction, anyone?)
Since the tender age of 16 (I am currently 24), I have been single maybe a total of 6-8 months. (Not consecutively, mind you).I'm currently in a long term monogamous relationship for over two years. Consecutively. That being said, I'm crazy in love with the current man I'm with.As for all the others, out of all of them, I loved one. But even then, I wasn't in love with him. I cared about the rest, some more deeply than others, but I didn't LOVE them.Honestly, I didn't want to be alone. I was terrified of being the single girl. I wasn't the least bit comfortable being single after my first boyfriend. I loved the kisses, the cuddles, the affection, the compliments, the dates. All that relationships encompassed I wanted. I've never been into casual dating, or casual sex. Its just not who I am.It wasn't until I finally ended my off and on 3 year relationship (where I'd had bfs when we were "off"), that I realized that I could be single and was okay with that. However, fate, chance, coincidence, divine intervention, whatever you want to call it, dumped the most wonderful man in my lap a mere month later. I'd sworn off dating, I didn't want a boyfriend.But there I was.Again, I took the plunge. And its probably the best decision I ever made, honestly. I've never been happier, never grown more that I have in this relationship. And still evolving.So yes, I'm a serial dater, but for now, and hopefully for the rest of my life I will be a happily engaged eventually married lady.
This sounds oddly familiar....*wonders if you're someone I know*
Yes, I know someone like this. And now she's engaged. And she's younger than I am. *le facepalm*
I guess I'm a serial dater but I don't publicize it as much. My best friend knows whenever I go on a date, after being with someone for a bit I feel okay to tell my other close friends, but then something happens and I'm no longer with the guy. And after 2-4 months, it's not hard to move on, takes me a month tops to get back in the game. How do I find a new guy? Online dating. There, my secret has been revealed!
I don't like being single because I have few friends at college and two of them are a couple...and broke. I'm bored and I want to go out to eat, want to watch a movie with someone. Dating gives me a social life. Sad, but true.