Friday, 26 August 2011
I've been with my boyfriend for a year. We have had our ups and downs, but recently, things took a turn for the worse. One evening he drank until he "blacked out" and kissed another girl at a club. He is an honest person and he did have the decency to tell me what had happened. It broke me, just a make out with another girl, it absolutely crushed me.I cried and cried and yelled as much as I could at him.
He continued to tell me it wasn't a big deal and that he was sorry and that he loved me, but he just didn't understand how hard it was for me to hear. He didn't comfort me enough and he didn't beg for my forgiveness. We took a few days apart and eventually I forgave him and moved on. About a week after, I knew I wasn't over it and that I was more hurt than ever. We got into a terrible fight and all I did was cry, but he didn't shed a tear.
I explained that I don't want to be with someone who will ever betray me like that and that he was someone I thought I could always trust. I told him that I could never do something like that to him and that I would never put myself in a situation where I would black out, which i know always leads to bad things.
I am truly broken right now and my heart just can't mend itself. I cannot imagine my life without him, but as time has gone by, I have realized that he hasn't handled any of this in a way that I hoped he would. He is a great guy and I know he did not mean to hurt me, but I don't know what to do.
The deal breaker was in the end when he told me his job is his priority and that I need to understand where he is in his life and that he is not trying to get married. What?I know that i am leaving out about 50 percent of the story, but I don't know what to do.
If you have been there--how do you suggest I handle things? How can I move on? How can I break up with someone I love? How do I stay with someone who hurt me?