Thursday, 25 August 2011

• Is He That Into You?

  

  Men and women are different, no big surprise there. With all of the Twilight Sagas and romance novels out there, women can sometimes get a little lost when it comes to understanding men. There are very few guys out there who want to lay in a field all day talking about their feelings, staring into your eyes. A lot of girls have unrealistic expectations when it comes to a man's expression of love (I used to). Here are a few ways that guys say "I really care about you" that might just surprise you.

  1. He doesn't talk about you to his friends

  This is so foreign to girls because the first thing we do when we really like a guy is talk about him. Guys don't really talk about their lady to their guy friends. If they aren't all that into you, he might open up about your big boobs or nice ass but a man who wants to get serious with a girl doesn't typically open his mouth about you...unless it's something nice or light.

  2. He takes care of your car

  He doesn't have to be a mechanic but if a guy washes your car, waxes it and vacuums it out...he might just be head over heels.

  3. He tries to fix your problems when you're angry or upset

  Most women love to vent and a man trying to tell us how we should deal with our problems can be so annoying. However, this is him simply trying to help. If he cares about you, and you have a problem, he wants nothing more than to help you fix it.

  4. He wants to hang out

  Friday night: you want to go out, he wants to stay in and watch a movie. You envision it as a somewhat dull night where for the 4th Friday night in a row, you dress down in sweats and lay around on the couch. He views it as a great time with his lady.

  5. He tries to talk to you about video games, cars or sports.

  It's great if you like any of those things and have them in common with your man. A lot of girls don't but it would mean the world to him if you nod your head and at least try to understand. When he opens up to you about his interests, he's trying to share himself with you.

  6. He doesn't always share his feelings with you

  Guys and feelings are not known for always going together. They definitely have feelings and can have very sensitive egos so it's not always easy for him to share. Mostly, a guy won't share his feelings because he doesn't want to be a burden or feel vulnerable. It's the "manly" thing to do: suck it up and keep going.

  A woman can feel like their man is so emotionally distant from them while their man feels that they are being a good partner by not sharing. It can be a bad mix which is one of the reasons why communication in a relationship can be so hard. Women love to share and men try to avoid it. I'm not saying that he never talks about his feelings...just the ones that make him feel vulnerable, like sadness or grief.

  7. He messes with you

  This includes tickling, flirting, teasing, poking, bugging, joking, trying to wrestle with you, patting your butt or boobs or both, pestering, cajoling...etc. Sometimes it can get annoying but to him it's love play. Really mean name calling, putting you down, him farting or burping on you or being truly derogatory is a sign he doesn't care too much about you.

  8. He gets his feelings hurt

  Men view respect as love. If you don't respect him, he can get very hurt. A guy who really likes a girl hates to be disrespected by her. If he has feelings for you and you greatly disrespect him, he may become sullen and withdrawn. If he doesn't care too much about you, he might care less how you feel about him.

  9. He want to fix your things, even when he can't

  The plumbing in your bathroom is messed up...so he says, "I know a little about plumbing, let me look at it." - even though he doesn't. He'll get out some tools, fiddle around with it and if he doesn't have a clue, he'll still try to fix it. Sometimes it makes it worse so that you have no choice but to call a plumber on the spot. But he tries. He's hoping that even though he has no idea what he's doing, he can figure it out. Sometimes it works. Sometimes it gets worse.

  10. He tries to be available

  A guy who really likes you will be available. He may not always be able to be there, if he's working or truly busy but if at all possible, he will be there for you. If a guy just isn't around, he's not that into you.

  11. He wants you to get along with his mom

  Many boys looove their mom. Not all men are momma's boy but when a guy is starting to think about you and his future, your relationship with his mother is pretty important. It can be a deal breaker if his mother hates you. He will never say that it's a deal breaker but if he gets the feeling that his mother doesn't like you or she complains about you, you might just get knocked down a few notches in his mind. Some men have bad relationships with their mothers, so this doesn't always apply.

  **Of course, there has to be a disclaimer that this doesn't apply to all men. No one is the same.**

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