Thursday, 25 August 2011
Letting your woman know that you appreciate her and what she brings to the relationship is so simple, yet often overlooked. As humans, we all like being appreciated for what we do, whether it be cooking, paying for dinner or even a simple gesture like being there for a lover through personal hardships and stressful situations. We want the acknowledgement because it lets us know that we're needed and not being taken for granted.
One of the differences between men and women is that women are more empathetic, while men think things through in a more matter-of-fact, logical manner. Men are able to understand the emotional state of others by "dictionary terms," but they have a difficult time feeling empathy like women. This does not mean that women are necessarily less logical than men.
Biologically, both males and females were predisposed to a different manner of adaptation, or different means for survival, so logically, both genders play to their strengths in the name of survival. One such example is that a woman's self-esteem is partly determined by the strength of her interpersonal relationships. Males generally have the edge in brute strength and are more prone to anti-social behavior, while females rely on their social connections. There's nothing illogical about that.
Men view the outward showing of emotions as a weakness, which is one of the reasons why women are perceived to be the weaker sex. What most men fail to realize is that it takes a lot of inner-strength and emotional endurance to live as a woman, especially since they tend to internalize the grief of others, a friend being the most common example, because of their empathetic nature. It's difficult for men however, since society has ingrained the notion that showing emotions, or crying, isn't manly.
You can easily understand why showing a little appreciation now and then can go a long way.
Just like cheating, women are also more likely to leave a relationship if they're feeling underappreciated, but that's a given.
Instead of trying to pay your way onto a woman's good side or buying her expensive gifts to make her feel good, simply show her your gratefulness more often. I'm not implying that gifts aren't nice sometimes, but what women really need is to feel that you recognize her positive deeds.
Keep this in mind the next time your woman does something for you. Be sincere, because she can tell if you aren't.
Appreciate your woman.
Do you appreciate your lover? Has it ever been an issue? I'm personally trying to work on it.
Nunez Love Doctor.
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