Wednesday, 24 August 2011
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Falling Too Fast
I'm at a point in my life where I don't really know what I want. I was talking to my best friend about relationship stuff and how she's scared to talk with a guy she really likes. They were great friends and kissed; what should she do? I told her the truth, just talk to him and don't be scared. But what am I saying? I am definitely not the long-term relationship person. I'm not even the relationship person.
I love kissing boys and in my opinion, relationships are not worth it.
However, there's this guy at school. We're going to call him Robert for now. Well Robert and I had a very good time kissing and I've always thought he was cute. Problem is, I am good friends with his roommate and have kissed him a couple of times. I've never tried leading him on and hopefully he doesn't think I did. Just like my best friend, when I start liking a guy, I project my hopes and wants on him, falling too hard and too fast.
Once I realize he can't live up to my expectations, I drop him like a hot potato. It's not that I don't want to find an SO, it's that I just don't know enough about myself to do that. What do I want as a person? I don't know. And maybe that's the problem. I don't know what I want! Let me figure that out and then I'll think about a relationship.
What do you readers think? Do you fall fast without even trying?
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I fall so fast every single time. It's like my brain wants me to get hurt. Once I meet the guy and know I like him, my brain automatically makes up all these scenarios where we're together and what our lives would be like together. At first I thought I was simply insane, but as I talked to my girlfriends about it, they said they do the same. Maybe it's just something women have programmed in them?
Just be single then?
I think you worry too much. If your heart gets broken, you won't be the first person. I do get what you're saying, though. I've only had 3 boyfriends, all of them a long term. I'm with my third right now and we've been together for 2 years, and I wouldn't take back any minute of it. I don't hold back on my emotions and thoughts, though; I'm not "brutally honest", I just like the communication.
It isn't necessarily a bad thing if you think that you could possibly have a chance with this person. If you claim to have fallen fast every single time you get caught up with a guy, isn't it time you start to realize the pattern you follow?And what's with this "I don't know enough about myself" statement? The only person you've lived for so far is you, so...
Yes. Well, maybe that's not the whole truth. I consider the girl I'm with right now to be my second serious relationship. Before her, I was involved with my ex for two years. (I like to use the term "involved" for her, because even when we were "off", we were still romantically interested in each other.) Anyways. I've known my current girlfriend now for almost three months, and we've been together for 2 of those months. Did we move kinda fast? Sure. But were we ready for it? Absolutely.
I guess what I was trying to prove with that extensive answer was that sometimes there are just people you have such a strong connection with that, "falling fast", just kind of.. happens.
@anndel@xanga - Heh, TOTALLY do this. I don't even have to know the guy terribly well before I start daydreaming...Maybe it's a reality check? Like, if you can't imagine a life together, how could it happen? I've no idea though.
Personally, I've accepted that I do this, but I also strictly remind myself that there are other things in life...school, work, friends, grocery shopping, etc. and make sure to give them due time and work on the relationship intermittently, so that my life is not all about that person. It keeps me from feeling annoying and needy and keeps them in suspense ;)
I guess it comes down to not letting emotions drive me?
You need to be upfront and say you're not looking for anything serious. If you just kiss a guy, but then suddenly disappear, you'll be the bad guy (or girl) for leading them on if you never said anything from the start.
i do and it always gets me in trouble. i'm starting to not care too much but i'm also afraid i might lose him so i'm stuck.
Stay single until you know what you want.
Stay single, but mingle..... as much as possible. That way you'll get to know yourself better, the type of guys you like, what you like in a guy and so forth. Heck, worked for me.
i fall to fast. i get all giddy & extremely happy. my mind takes over and i just become infatuated with everything a guy i'm liking does. it's so annoying. i don't get to take in the whole picture because i'm only looking at all the fabulous things he does. i fell to hard for my current boyfriend & now i'm in a seriously messed up relationship of a year & a half. what a joy, let me tell ya.
I feel hard and fast too. :(