I've come to realize that I've never had a guy friend in my life who didn't at some point, not have feelings for me or vice versa. It's not that we had a "thing" or anything, but it still makes things awkward sometimes. I have a friend named Nick. Him and I have had something for about a year now. He's liked me nonstop and I just don't like him that way. This in return has messed up our friendship and any potential to become friends again. We've kissed, three times in fact. The spark just isn't there. As much as I wanted it to be, so things could work out, it just wasn't. We still are trying to become friends, but maybe it's just not meant to be.
Then there's Kevin, my best guy friend. We met two Augusts ago, well became friends then. He developed a crush on me that I didn't have in return. Although he says he doesn't think of me in the way at all, I still think he does a little bit. I still think in the back of his mind, he'll always wonder what it would be like to be with me and will have that little crush on me. It's messed up our friendship a few times, but we've always gotten through it, thankfully. Every time I mention a guy though, he always get all sad and exactly how a guy that likes me would act.
Then we have Zach. He started to talk to me and liked me. I told him straight up I didn't like him like that. To this day he still reminds me that he only likes me as a friend, but like Kevin, I think he still likes me, even if it's only a little bit.
Zack number two is a great friend all around. Last year we started talking and he developed a crush on me. He told me flat out about it and of course afterwards we were a little awkward around each other. He'd sit at my table at lunch and he'd throw papers down my shirt in study hall. We developed a bond that was pretty cool to have and made me happy. I never thought of him in that way though. Although maybe we could have something at some point, he just wasn't for me. He's in a few of my classes and we talk a lot out of school as well. He's a great friend though cause he lets me talk about guys to him and he talks about girls to me. We don't have that awkwardness that I do with the other guys. He got over his little crush on me and we're able to be true guy/girl friends.
Josh is the a little like Zack number two, but not a lot. He has a girlfriend that I go to school with and he talks to me about their problems and lets me talk about guys to him. He'll ask if I have any new guy in my life and what's going on. He's my ex's best friend though, so I keep it on the downlow if there is anything to talk about. He still does like me, he's told me several times, but I respect that he has a girlfriend and try to stay away from the him liking me and keep him focused on his girl.
Although I've had several guys like me, I'm rarely the girlfriend.. which sucks.
Have you ever been in my position? How did you deal with it?
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Comments (16)
i know how you feel. most of the guys i like almost never like me back, and if they do, it's too late.
i don't get what you're complaining about. the title of your post makes it seem like you don't get male attention, but it seems like you're just bragging about all the attention you do get. datingish has dumber people with more interesting things to talk about, so i think i'm kind of done with this. so as a final note: i'm sure there are plenty of fat chicks who would love to be in your position.
never is an extreme word when you're only sixteen.
It seems as though you're thinking WAY too much, just because they like you in the past and doesn't mean they still like you now. There may just be that nice edge of theirs?
But yes I have been, I pretend not to notice their feelings and be good friends.
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - Yeah that is exactly what I was thinking.
Wake up. Your post should be "Always the Friend, Never the Boyfriend". I waited 4 paragraphs for you to like a boy who didn't like you, but no, the boy liked you and you were like "duh". This was pointless. Completely one-sided attempt at looking at a problem. What do you want people to say? "Oh my god, I am so sorry, you have so much attention, oh my god". Grow up and go after a man you like rather than letting all the boys dance round you boosting your ego.
How does that suck? Wtf? Sounds like a random statement to me. For Nick, you kissed him 3x yet you never thought of him in that way? Say what? Then why did you kiss him and lead him on-,-''
you suck. i thought this was going to be a good post but nope. you just brag and brag about how these boys like you. you don't even explain how you cant get guys you like. you keep these boys like theyre your toys to boost your ego. get over yourself. you dont even deserve the attention you get from these guys. youre fugly as hell. i dont even understand why boys like you. as for those boys who like you, i feel bad for them to like an insecure bitch like you.
it's all one confusing mess in my head >.<
you dont like them..why do you wanna be someone's gf? what?
this happened to me a lot in college, but you have to be the one to change it. what are you doing that makes them put you in the friend zone and not the gf zone?
@iloveyoubabydoll_728@xanga - I wasn't trying to be rude, I was asking a question.
@iloveyoubabydoll_728@xanga - @iloveyoubabydoll_728@xanga - 5/10 comments were critical so this isn't a "haters gonna hate" scenario. I didn't see you were seventeen when I made my comment to be honest. Now it makes far more sense. Here is my revised comment.
Don't worry about relationships, boys or love at this age. Your not old enough to understand, or appreciate, the bigger picture just yet. No one is at that age. No one. So relax, stop worrying, and try to appreciate men for who they are, not how you feel about them. Maybe you will find some great friends, and in a few years (at least 2) maybe you will find a man you love completely for who he is.
Also, on an literary note, I would work on your writing style a bit more. This was too direct, and did not give the detail to the reader in an engaging manner. Hence the negative comments. Practice on your blog some more, and submit a post when you feel ready. That would be my advice.
@iloveyoubabydoll_728@xanga - Oh and Quick question. Did you submit this yourself? It doesn't sound like you did, but on the off chance you did, well, stick to things that are more up to date then. Also best thing to do on an online blog is to ignore the personal comments, try to learn from the advice, and generally practice to improve your writing style. I understand this was a rant, but as such you shouldn't really expect positive comment to come from a rant. If you direct your frustration somewhere public, you will get it back in spades. Rule of the Internet. Good luck in the future! Over and out. :)
@iloveyoubabydoll_728@xanga - Ah right well that makes a lot of sense. No doubt someone submitted it for you because it had a different viewpoint which would get comments... just in this case negative ones. Don't worry about it then, like I said, just accept the positive advice and comments. Good to see you keep your age in mind I have seen so many people and posters who forget their ages when dealing with the opposite sex (14 year-olds posting "I will love him forever" etc). Make sure you have fun while you can! ps.I mean general everyday fun :P